in this video we're gonna be talking about why Beck couldn't help peach and
just a warning there's going to be talk about suicide in this video what is up
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actually gonna be talking about how to help a friend who might be struggling
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Netflix great show twist and I actually have one more episode to watch we're
about to watch it as soon as I record this video but if you have not watched
the show you yet or if you haven't gotten to episode 9 oh there's got to be
spoilers so if you're in the middle of the season or you haven't watched it yet
turn this video off come back later or if you're not playing out watching the
show you just want to learn some stuff about mental health stay tuned alright
anyways yeah we're gonna be talking about peach and back but yeah so what
we're gonna be focusing on is peach threatening suicide or even attempting
suicide right so this is something that comes up quite a bit and that's why I
want to talk about it so just a little quick recap of the show when Beck got
into a fight with peach peach ended up taking a bunch of pills calling up back
and saying hey I just took all these pills back race is over with Joe and
they go over there and find out that she didn't really take
like anything that could really kill her and Joe had to had this awkward
conversation with back about how she didn't take anything that would actually
kill her right but what that tells Joe is that you know this isn't the first
time that peaches done this all right and this is something that a lot of
people deal with okay I've made videos about suicide before and things like
that but a question we get a lot is like how do you know someone's serious how do
you know if somebody's telling the truth and all of that so as we find out later
in the season like peach is manipulating back a ton and by the way I put up a
poll over on my community tab about what topics you want me to cover like
everybody chill out I'm 99.9% sure I'm gonna cover all those topics as well as
more I just want to see which ones you wanted first but anyways I'm gonna do
another one about peach gaslighting back but yeah peach was manipulating back and
this is what we call holding somebody as an emotional hostage okay so this might
be your friend this might be a significant other
I think the instance that I hear about the most is if you break up with me I'm
going to kill myself all right this happens a ton a lot of
you came to my channel from my alienation videos right and one issue
that illy mayshen had was that that dude Harris kept threatening to kill himself
right and this is a way that people keep control over us okay so here's some tips
on how to deal with this the first major important thing to understand and and
it's gonna sound harsh at first but bear with me first important thing to
understand is you cannot save anybody okay you are not a licensed therapist
you are not a psychologist you are not like a doctor or an EMT or anything like
that you cannot save anyone so one of the things that we do is we
take way too much responsibility for other people's emotions and actions all
right so you have to remember that you cannot save anybody now this is
something that I had to learn something who have watched my videos about how
many people I've lost most of them are former clients some of them are people I
I knew outside of work and outside of my clients but you know as you recording
this video I've lost about 76 people in the last three and a half years or so
like I could not have done that job if I took responsibility for every single
relax everything every single overdose every single suicide I would have drove
myself insane now one of the ways that I got out of
that way of thinking was coming from a 12-step background I had a sponsor who I
would talk to because when this started happening I was going nuts because I
would sit there and wrap my brain around it and be like what could I have done
what could I've done more what could I have done more now that's a good thing
that I felt that way because that means that I care but my sponsor had to remind
me that I I only have so much power right so what I did with my job and this
is something I advise all of you to do I came in every single day the same way I
do this YouTube channel and I give it a hundred and ten percent I do the best I
possibly can all right but I would drive myself insane and for an addict like
myself who's in recovery that could lead me to relapse if I took responsibility
for every single thing every single client did alright so just remember you
have no control over what somebody else does once you get rid of that illusion
of control it can start helping now the reason why that sounds harsh is because
some people who are watching this video are gonna say oh well does that mean I
just shouldn't care it shouldn't matter no that's not what I said
everything everything is about balance right but we can't focus on the actual
solution until you get it out of your brain that you're captain save a person
all right now you're gonna run around with your little cape and saying I'm
going to save this suicidal person like this isn't a movies okay it's not a show
on Netflix you are not saving anybody okay so you can help get them on the
right path and that's the best thing that you can do okay so I'm not telling
you don't care I'm not you ignore these suicidal threats but
you need to focus on what the best options are okay a huge issue throughout
this show is enabling okay so looking at Beck's relationship with a peach and
going to run and try to save peach every time peaceful and suicide and everything
like that like this is a form of enabling that's
enabling that behavior okay now because they wanted to keep it
secret this is something I see like I seen in shows and it's so disheartening
that this is something that actually happens like you guys that's why I make
these videos this stuff actually happens like back in that scene where they show
up a peaches house she talks about to Jo like oh we can't tell anybody we can't
tell anybody her family will think this her family will think that it's like
what what again you are not the person to save people right but this is also
something that we see when Claudia is detoxing in that basement right so let's
let's talk about this like this is why Christine and I always talk about
everybody needs a healthy a healthy type of anxiety right like what if what if
after throwing all that stuff up and let's say peach did take some stuff what
if peach ended up dying in that bed right next to back right what if Claudia
while detoxing in that basement even though Keanu was he knows what
party you died in that basement you want to live with that I sure as hell don't
you know what I'm saying like we need to quit doing this thing we're gonna keep
secrets like here's the way I deal with this like when people like tell me to
keep secret or whatever I asked myself if this person dies am I gonna be able
to live with that on my conscience right so here's the thing like they
didn't show it in this I don't know if it's different in the book but if this
was a real story I guarantee you I guarantee you BEC would have so much
regret in her life and it would take her years of therapy okay to get rid of the
idea that maybe maybe peace would be alive if she actually got peach
professional help alright let's think about that for a
second like imagine imagine your back and your friend who
you kept her suicidal behaviors a secret and then she you know quote-unquote
commit suicide for those of you haven't seen so calm down
but back thinking that piece did commit suicide any actual person would sit
there staying up at night hating themselves wondering what could I have
done more what could I have done differently and one of the first
thoughts in her head was maybe I should have told her family maybe I should have
called 9-1-1 maybe I should have got a professional help
right same thing with Claudia in that basement like you've got to quit
covering up for people who are sick okay you are not a licensed professional and
even in the case of Karen Hope and Claudia Karen is not the person to help
right for example when I was getting clean and sober my mom even though she
has a PhD in psychology as it was the clinical director and a rehab center she
was not the person to help me we're too close okay that is not how this thing
works so a real quick story my my best friend
who I grew up with he has been sober for over three years
now and he used to call me a drunk suicidal and all of that and the one
thing he would always tell me is don't tell my parents don't tell my parents
cuz his family was like my family is like don't tell my parents and what
happened this is the first time I thought it but one night when he was
drunk and suicidal I sat there thinking and said if this dude goes out and kills
himself am I gonna be able to live with myself knowing that I didn't tell his
parents which might have saved his life so I had to weigh the options I had to
weigh it okay on one hand I tell his parents and my best friend in the world
hates me hates me for that right but on the other hand I tell his parents and
maybe it saves his life now when I look at it like that when I look at this
thing very life-and-death black-and-white the decision was simple
so I called up her mom his mom who's like a second mom to me it broke her
heart and she was crying but guess what we got my buddy into rehab he's been
sober over three years now and lives an amazing life because I made that hard
decision and didn't care if this fool got pissed off at me
because I was trying to save his life all right so I want you guys to remember
that like again saying don't be there for your friends
who are struggling with depression who are suicidal but too many people out
there are suffering far too much because people like you and me think that we're
gonna save them rather than getting a professional help rather than talking to
their parents about it or their family about it now there is a right way to do
this so don't just like go run off and be like hey Sally is suicidal I don't
don't don't do that like but I just wanted to kind of set in the groundwork
like if you need to like what I would recommend is like if you have a
therapist talk to your therapist talk to a mental health professional hello call
the suicide hotline and be like yo Mike I have a friend who's doing this what do
you think I should do like their 24/7 call him ask him what youth they think
you should do to help your friend the best thing you could do to help your
friend is to guide them to a place that will help them okay like it's almost
like addiction like do not do anything that will enable them to keep doing this
thing but do everything in your power to help them get the help that they need
right so even though I can't save you I will go with you to a therapist I will
go with you to a doctor I will go with you to an ER you know what I'm saying
like part of what they were afraid of was peace was like oh no they're gonna
put me out of 77 to to our hold I'm trying to keep this PG don't care like
yeah you need to be on a 72-hour hold if you're threatening suicide you know what
I mean but anyways anyways I hope this video helps you out and understands what
you need to do if you have somebody a in your life who's threatening suicide or
be who is trying to keep you as an emotional hostage by how by threatening
suicide real quick because I didn't cover this in this video if somebody is
continually doing this with you you need to go get therapy you need to get some
help you need to learn how to set up these boundaries okay alright anyway
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