Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely freaking loves. And in this video right now I'm going to be
talking about one thing that you should never do once you start dating a guy that you really,
really like. Keep watching.
So I want you to imagine this scenario: you met a guy at a work event a few weeks ago. He's funny, he's
cool, he's asking you lots of questions about yourself, really made you think, things are
going really well, and then he asks for your number. He starts texting you. The dude clearly
likes you.
And then you're at this point where, like, wow, this guy's really into me. I'm really
into him. And you start envisioning yourself together, what it'd be like to introduce him
to your parents, how much better and cooler this dude is than your ex. You start to feel
the warm and fuzzies.
But the warm and fuzzies are not necessarily about him. It's about the idea of him and
you together.
You're falling in love with the idea of love, which is a big no no.
Don't get too excited. Don't get too eager. The reality is that you do not know shit about
this new guy that you just met.
Now, you think you know him, but you don't know shit about him. The dude might kick dogs,
he might chew tobacco, he might even be a Giants fan. You don't know yet. You know nothing
yet.
Now, you might say, "Adam, you're wrong. I do know this guy."
But you don't. I mean, remember that last guy you got involved with? Yeah, the guy who
liked being tied up in bed while you put your feet in his mouth?
Didn't work out so well, did it?
Nope.
So if you find yourself falling in love with the idea of love, take a step back mentally.
See where the f*** it goes.
From this point forward, you are not allowed to think of the future with a guy until you've
created a present with him.
In my opinion, you really need 6 months of a committed relationship with someone before
you even start thinking about any type of real future with someone. Because if you start
thinking of that future ahead of that, you are setting yourself up for potential heartbreak.
Just see where it goes.
The first month that you start dating a guy, he's a stranger.
Do you remember when your mom told you not to talk to strangers?
Well, I'm here to tell you not to fall in love with a stranger.
Then for the next 2 months after that, he gets upgraded to an acquaintance.
He's in your orbit and that's great, but he doesn't quite make a massive impact in your
life quite yet at this point.
Then finally for the next 3 months after that he can become a good friend.
This is where you can see if you actually like the real person behind all the dopamine
and norepinephrine and all that stuff that went into your initial feelings for the guy.
Become friends with him, see if you actually enjoy spending time with that person before
really investing all of your emotions in that person.
Then after those 6 months you can start falling in love with the idea of the relationship
and, of course, falling in love with him. Fantastic.
Now, I know it's not easy to stop love from happening. I know it's not easy to hold back
your emotions. But the best thing that you can do is really maintain an incredible life,
maintain all those things that are going great in your life. And if you don't have great
things going on in your life, keep working to make that happen.
The worst thing you can do is change your entire life and change everything around you
just for a guy that you recently met, a stranger. Ok? I'm here to protect you, I'm here to support
you and back you and that's what this is all about. So please, take this advice very seriously.
It's very, very important stuff.
So thank you so much for watching and if you enjoyed this video please, of course, head
on over to SexyConfidence.com, I'll leave a link right here. I'll give you some more
tips and strategies that you can use as you do start meeting new guys and get yourself
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