We've seen many instances of Meghan controlling Harry like a puppet, and this sequence where
she just makes him stop talking is no different.
But what is more relevant about this moment is the body language signals that preceded
that command and you can learn to spot to foresee actions before they happen.
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First, let's take a look at the moment in question.
Meghan and Harry were attending the Wellchild Awards back in 2019 and they were talking
to some of the families attending.
And I think this was the last family they were talking to, because they were sitting
along a wall, and this was at the far corner, and in fact, it was the end of the video.
But, Harry was still talking to them, in a quite engaging way, and then Meghan just stands
up and literally, and silently, commands Harry to stop and stand up just using her body language.
Like, stop talking already, we should go!
And this is not the only time she's been caught in camera interrupting Harry out cold.
There's the Marshmellow video where she does exactly the same, or the red dress video where
she uses that hand cue to get Harry going, and of course, the direct "shut your mouth"
in Oprah's interview.
So, Meghan controlling Harry's behavior, in the most public way possible, is nothing new,
but this time it's interesting because there were previous clues that foreshadowed this.
Such as when the nice lady hands them two bracelets.
Can you spot the reaction in Meghan's face?
yes, there's her classic jaw clenching.
And I don't think there was any valid reason for her to express that emotional display
at that moment.
Unless... the bracelet said, "You'll never be queen!
LOL", which I think was highly unlikely.
This is one of the reasons I always mention than one of the first skills that you have
to develop when reading body language is paying attention to where the action is.
And in situations like this is really common to look at the hands getting the bracelet,
handling them, but where the real action is, is on the face.
On the other hand, pun intended, when she was listening to the lady talking, you can
spot that her hands were restless, as she was pinching the flesh right beside her nails.
That's a common signal of anxiety and impatience, and really easy to spot.
It doesn't help that at this moment, her smile was not the most genuine.
She has done a better work with her smile in other times, but in this one her cheeks
lack that pressure into her eyes.
Of course, you cannot have a FULL smile all the time.
You don't want to look like the Joker.
But I've mentioned a couple times that when our faces are telling the truth, they work
like a perfect, balanced system.
And in this case, her lip corners are pulled up in a way that is more intense than her
eyes.
As usual, try to mimic her face expression and let yourself experience the feeling that
arises.
In fact, she does a much better job a few seconds later.
This smile still...
doesn't feel like it, but the different parts of the face involved are working together,
much better than the previous one.
The only problem is that less than a second later, she tries too hard.
And I mean, NIGHTMARE FUEL HARD.
But that's great, if you're not close to bedtime, of course.
Because we can put all three smiles, side by side, so you can spot that in the span
of just a few seconds, she has this wildly different display of intensities.
Again, that's a sign that the person is trying to come out as nice and engaging.
Sadly, the execution is all over the place and it just raises suspicions.
This is the kind of signals that your intuition picks up and you have the hardest time trying
to define what is that you don't like about a person.
With practice, You'll be able to spot those changes in real time, so you can rationalize
why this or that person makes you feel in a certain way.
Like when Meghan is going to fix her hair, and her hand gesture almost blocks her face
completely from view.
It's literally in the middle of eye contact in this case, so it's another very subtle
signal that she was not that comfortable and most probably wanted to be anywhere else.
And another common signal that the person doesn't want to be there is a long blink.
And Meghan does one of those REALLY long blinks right before standing up.
I like this angle and the video quality a lot because this is a great example of this
facial display.
Long blinks are really easy to spot and they tell you that either you're becoming boring
to the person, or they are not paying much attention to you, or they want to be anywhere
else.
Again, we know what happens at the end of the video, and we already know that Meghan
is no stranger to these kind of... rude attitudes, but it's an amazing exercise to learn to predict
behavior using signals that usually go undetected.
And you'll agree with me, that predicting behavior is one of the most useful skills
that one can acquire.
Now, let's focus on Harry for a second.
Notice his posture.
He was really engaging, with his elbows resting on his legs, and paying complete attention
to the lady in front of him.
But Meghan is already way past the point of no return, because even if she is trying to
project attention, tilting her head to one side, like she's caring about what the lady
is saying, her lips are really tense, pressed against each other.
That was already boiling point.
So, Meghan does that signal that she applies so many times to end conversations.
That is touching people.
Wether it's the marshmellow video, or the red dress video, or the Oprah video, when
she wanted Harry to stop talking she used that touch, that it's more like a tap.
And she does that on the lady.
She taps her arm, and then goes to grab her purse.
Now, I'm sure that by this point of their relationship, Harry had learned to read his
wife's body language and knows exactly what it means at every moment.
And, touching the lady and grabbing her purse means, let's go.
That's why he immediately breaks that engagement, that conversation dynamic by leaning back.
Now, he actually puts his hands on the armrest and moves his body in a way that implies he's
about to stand up, and Meghan does exactly the same, at the same time.
So, for a split second, they were in sync.
And that's great.
But then...
it goes out the window because Meghan just stands up and Harry, well...
it's obvious that he wanted to keep talking because that's what his body language was
projecting at that moment.
This is another fascinating fact about couple dynamics and body language.
We have just witnessed that Harry picks up the body language signals of Meghan, but Meghan
either doesn't pick up Harry's signals, or she just doesn't care about them.
Doesn't care about her husband getting really engaged on a conversation.
And her track record speaks volumes about it.
You have just witnessed a great example in which there is a power asymmetry in the couple,
expressed through body language.
And there are very few signals that can be used to spot personalities at first sight.
But if you get a trained professional in body language, that enjoys the Grace of God of
not knowing who are Meghan and Harry, and show them this clip... they will arrive at
a very compelling conclusion without knowing any of their background.
Now, imagine that you could apply this to your daily life.
Being able to not just predict behavior but also, pinpoint couple dynamics just by looking
at their body language.
It is perfectly possible.
You just have to put the effort trying to spot people's body language in situation like
this.
Progressively, you'll be able to stack those body language clues in real time and decipher
people's personalities instantly.
The hardest part is being discreet when you uncover people's quirks without them realizing
it.
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My name is Jesús Enrique Rosas and it will always be a pleasure, my body language buddies!
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