hi i'm liam welcome to oxford online
english
in this lesson you can learn to talk
about different emotions in english
you'll see how to talk about positive
and negative feelings
about strong emotions and low-level
emotions in different ways
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this lesson has four parts in each part
you'll learn five to six words
related to two different main emotions
like anger
fear or happiness ready
let's start
you look pleased what's going on i
finally passed my driving test i'm so
happy
wow congratulations thanks it was my
sixth attempt
six yeah i was really stressed
beforehand
i've been feeling nervous for days and i
haven't been sleeping well
but in the end it went well that sounds
stressful
what made you so scared i mean it's not
the end of the world to fail your
driving test
i don't know i just built it up in my
head and it became this huge
thing i honestly can't remember feeling
so worried about anything in my life
before
you must be relieved to get it over with
for sure
if i'd failed again i think i'd just
have given up well
no need to think about that now look at
six words to describe
feelings which you heard in the dialogue
first a question three of these words
relate to feeling
fear which three
nervous worried and scared are all
feelings of fear
do you know how they're different
nervous and worried about low level fear
scared describes a more intense feeling
to describe extreme levels of fear for
example if you're in a life-threatening
situation
you could use adjectives like terrified
or petrified
what about the other three adjectives
pleased stressed and relieved
what is different from the other two
which one
stressed is different because it's an
unpleasant emotion
please dissimilar to happy but pleased
as a reaction to a situation
what does this mean
in english there are many pairs of words
with a similar meaning
but one is used to describe a general
state
while the other is used to describe a
reaction to a specific situation
happy and pleased are an example of this
so you can be happy generally or for
long periods of time
you could say she was happy throughout
her retirement
however pleased can't be used like this
you feel pleased at one specific time
for example i was pleased with how my
painting turned out
here you could also use happy happy can
replace pleased but not the other way
round
there are other pairs like this for
example sad
upset or angry cross the first word has
a general meaning
and the second describes your reaction
to something specific
finally what about relieved what does
that mean
you might feel relieved when you're free
from pressure or stress
if you have a problem and the problem is
solved
you might feel relieved or if you have
an exam
and you think you might fail you feel
relieved when you pass
let's look at our next section
in this section we have a challenge for
you you'll hear a dialogue as usual
there are six words relating to emotions
in the dialogue
listen and try to write them down how's
work going
ugh don't ask going well then
don't even joke about it i feel
miserable i dread going in every morning
and every day feels like an eternity
yeah you seem a bit down
but a couple of months ago you said
things were going okay
they were or i thought they were that's
the problem i'm so mixed up
working in the fashion industry was
always my dream i worked so hard to get
an opportunity
but then reality started to bite
what do you think went wrong i'm
supposed to be an event manager but they
don't actually let me make any decisions
i spend all day doing menial work
we had a team meeting last week and they
asked me to go out and get coffee
i felt so humiliated so what are you
going to do
you can't stay there surely i don't know
i'm torn
on the one hand you're right i can't
stay there but on the other
what am i going to do i was out of work
for three months and i need the money
right now
it's a tricky situation the worst thing
is it's affecting
everything else in my life too i don't
go out or do anything after work or at
weekends
i just feel kind of apathetic i don't
have the energy to go anywhere
well i don't know but it doesn't sound
like you can go on like this
did you get the six words if you want
you can go back
and listen again here are the six words
you heard
these words relate to feelings of
sadness shame and confusion
can you put the words into three groups
miserable and down are both feelings of
sadness
miserable is a strong word which
describes a deep unhappiness
down is often used when you're going
through a difficult time in your life
and you feel unhappy generally
apathetic is also a feeling of sadness
although it's a little different
if you feel apathetic you don't care
about anything or have
any interest in things feeling apathetic
means you don't have much energy
and it's difficult to motivate yourself
to do anything
be careful not to mix up apathetic
and pathetic they sound similar but the
meanings are not related
next mixed up and torn are both feelings
of confusion
they both mean that you're caught
between different possibilities
and you don't know what to do to
remember the word torn
think about the verb tear if you tear a
piece of paper you rip it into pieces
if you feel torn it's as if you're being
pulled in two different directions
humiliated is a strong form of
embarrassed meaning a deep feeling of
shame
it has a strong meaning so you wouldn't
use it often
any plans for this weekend no not really
i had something but it didn't work out
something
well i'm a little embarrassed to say
okay fine i had a blind date arranged
nothing wrong with that
but now it's not happening no i
cancelled it
i was feeling quite anxious i've never
been on a blind date and i can imagine
it would be really awkward
so i called it off sure i guess it could
be but it could be fun too
i think you should go it's normal to
feel apprehensive before you go on a
first date
you shouldn't let it stop you too late
now
though i already canceled it now i'm
kind of regretting it
well maybe you can still make it happen
why not make a call
i can't i feel guilty for cancelling
you can't win it seems you heard five
words related to feelings
can you remember them try to complete
the words
pause the video if you want more time
remember
that you can also go back and review the
dialogue if you want to
ready let's see the answers
these words relate to shame and
nervousness
can you put them into two groups
anxious and apprehensive describe fear
like the words nervous and worried which
you saw earlier
they express a low level fear like you
might feel before
a first date or an important exam
awkward embarrassed and guilty relate to
shame
but they don't have the same meaning
could you explain the difference between
them
awkward means you feel socially
uncomfortable
for example if you're trying to start a
conversation with someone
but you don't know what to say you might
feel awkward
embarrassed is the feeling when you
blush your face turns red
you feel guilty when you think you've
done something bad
for example imagine that your friend
asks you for some help
and you say sorry i can't i'm too busy
later you learn your friend really
needed your help
you might feel guilty for not helping
let's look at the last section
whoa where are you going i'm going to
walk into his office and tell him
exactly what i think of him
that's not a good idea i know you're
annoyed
i'm saving i'm fed up with this place
let him sack me if he wants
let's just take a minute why don't you
tell me what happened
what happened this isn't something new
i've been overwhelmed for weeks
i asked for help and he doesn't even
answer my emails
or my messages he's supposed to be in
charge of this department and he's not
even doing his job
sure i can understand that you're
frustrated but it's more than that
he still hasn't even bought the design
software we need
the deadline is next week i've never
seen such incompetence
look i would be upset too in your
position
but getting into a shouting match with
him is not going to solve anything
how about this we go and we have a cup
of tea for 10 minutes
and then you decide what to do if you
still
want to march into his office and scream
at him i won't stop you
but just take 10 minutes with me first
okay fine
here you heard six words relating to
anger
frustration or sadness here's a question
what does frustration mean
frustration is a kind of anger but it
relates to situations
where you can't get what you want for
example
imagine you have to catch a train and
you're late
you're driving to the station and
someone in front of you
is driving really slowly you can't
overtake
so you're stuck driving behind them you
might feel
frustrated in this situation
apart from frustrated you heard these
words in the dialogue
do you know which emotions these words
express
and could you explain their meanings in
detail
think about it and pause the video if
you need some help
annoyed and seething both express anger
but at different levels
annoyed is a low level anger for example
if you have some mosquito bites and
they're itchy
you might feel a little annoyed but you
wouldn't probably be
fully angry you could also say
irritated which has the same meaning
seething means extremely angry you could
also say furious
which is similar
fed up expresses frustration if you feel
fed up with something a bad situation
has gone for a long time
and you can't take it anymore for
example
if your neighbor plays loud music one
evening you might be annoyed
but maybe it wouldn't be a big problem
however
if your neighbor plays loud music every
evening
you feel angry and frustrated and after
a few days
you'll probably feel fed up you've had
enough of the situation
and you cannot take any more
overwhelmed is hard to classify
overwhelm means something like defeated
or buried
if you're overwhelmed you have so many
problems and negative
feelings that you can't cope anymore
in the dialogue we were talking about
work but you can be overwhelmed with
other emotions and situations too
for example you can be overwhelmed with
anger overwhelmed with sadness
overwhelmed with stress and so on it can
even sometimes be positive for example
you can be overwhelmed with happiness
in this case that means you're so happy
that you don't know what to do with
yourself
finally upset is a feeling of sadness in
response to a specific situation
if something bad happens to you or
someone says something
unpleasant to you you might feel upset
we've mentioned many different words to
describe feelings in this video
but there are also many that we didn't
talk about
can you think of any share your ideas in
the comments
thanks for watching see you next time
you