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gym I'm Damon Cart and I teach people just like you
cutting-edge NLP processes and techniques so that you can master your
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that subscribe button so you can get these videos on a regular basis it's no
secret that in order to achieve your goals that you need to be persistent so
by the end of this video you're going to understand how to create that
persistence when you are focused on achieving a goal what I'm going to show
you in this video is what I use not only with my clients to help them achieve
goals but also what I use for myself when I want to achieve a goal and it
pretty much sets it up for you that there is no way to fail before we dive
into this I would like to hear from you so in the comments below let me know
what it is that gets in the way of you achieving your goals I will respond to
you and I might also make a video about whatever it is that's getting your way
whatever that obstacle is so what really is persistence like why does it seem
like you have persistence for some things and for some things that you
don't or why do some people seem to be really really persistent and some people
are not so people talk about a big why you got to know your big why and you
hear that a lot from a lot of gurus and then they kind of just leave it there
like go find your big why and you go oh yeah I need to find my big why how do I
do that how do I elicit that my big why I know I just want this goal I want to
achieve this goal so in NLP we have a very specific
process for doing that we call that value solicitation and when you do a
value solicitation on a goal that you want to achieve or something you know
that you want what you're doing is you're going beyond the thing you're
going beyond the achievement and finding out what's really driving you to want
that your values or would drive your every decision not just when you
want a goal every decision you make is driven by a value and most of our
decisions that we make are completely unconscious you don't even know what the
value is that's driving it and that's what kind of puts us on autopilot and
that's why NLP could be so powerful is because with NLP we take these internal
processes and make them conscious again so then we can get more clarity and then
sometimes make changes so you want to know why you want this goal and how you
do that is to ask yourself what will having us do for you or what's important
about getting it and keep asking that question over and over until you go very
very deep into you what will happen is you'll go to some really core values and
you'll discover why you're wanting it and when you also might discover is that
maybe you don't really want it and that's a great thing to discover people
might think well no I don't wanna find out that I don't really want this I
really want this it's like no if you don't really want it you don't really
want it what will happen is you'll realize that a lot of times you're
pursuing something because other people value it and that's no good reason to
pursue something unless you also to want it but that's what you want to get clear
about you want to get clear about your own values not oh oh I want this because
other people value it no that's not a good enough reason to achieve a goal the
reason you want to achieve anything or go after anything or pursue something is
because it aligns with one of your core values and when you do that persistence
is pretty easy that is what motivation is by the way that's natural motivation
you don't think about it you have that clarity about what you want you just go
for it again if somebody if you're going after something because someone else
values it that's a lot of times why people quit they go after something and
they forget what really they started pursuing it forward to begin with and
because other people value it is usually especially if it's a big goal just
because other people value it it's not a good enough reason it's not a big enough
why you'll eventually quit because it's not going to fulfill you if it's not
fulfilling one of your values if you're fulfilling other people's values good
luck with that it's not going to it's it's not going to give you enough
fulfillment and satisfaction to pursue it but when you're pursuing something
that is in alignment with one of your values even before you achieve the goal
the pursuit itself is very fulfilling rewarding and satisfying and so the goal
just becomes a stepping stone just something that target to to hit in the
dirt while you're going in that direction anyway towards what you value
the second thing is resistance when you decide you want to achieve a goal is
there any resistance is there any hesitancy is there anything that comes
up in you and says well I don't know if I want to do that I don't know if you
know so it's either I don't know if I want the goal or I don't know if I want
to do the things to achieve the goal and when you feel this resistance come up
again you want to check in with this you don't want to just push this away you
want to get clear about what that resistance is because but behind that
resistance is also a value we call that a positive intent even though resistance
sounds negative it actually behind it there's always a positive intent there's
a part of you that might have some concern about this as in that concern
might be you might be pursuing something that's not really one of your values or
a goal that doesn't really serve you or serve your values it might be that
you're trying to please other people and so that resistance comes up and says hey
hey let's not do this let's focus our attention somewhere else
that's one reason resistance might come up but you might have other reasons
there might be you fear disappointment and then we want to turn that into the
positive and positive intent state that in the positive so maybe this part of
you is trying to protect you and that's good to know you want to acknowledge
that part and you want to integrate that part into your pursuit okay well how do
I pursue this and protect myself at the same time so that this part of you is
not disconnected from you this part is fully integrated and you're it's fully
onboard with the goal that you want to achieve and so when you know the value
you're pursuing and you clear out this resistance wow this really takes it this
really takes us to a whole new level and again the motivation it just grows and
what you see is a very clear path to getting what it is that you want and
so persistence isn't about willpower persistence isn't about self-discipline
persistence is about being very clear about what you want and clearing out the
resistance and last but not least do not become attached to your strategy this is
a huge mistake a lot of people make and one of the reasons why people become
attached to a strategy is because they're not clear about their values and
they have that resistance that has not been integrated so because they don't
they lack a clear direction or to clear why as to what it is that they want and
they haven't dealt with that resistance and integrated it there's a tendency
there to be sort of in a dark about pursuing this goal and it feels shaky so
what does a person do they latch on and attach themselves to the strategy they
come up with the strategy and that's what they're very clear about that's
what they're very conscious about they're not very clear about the value
or values that's driving the goal or they want to achieve the goal and
they're still battling with this inner resistance so everything becomes about
the strategy and so that when you're in a situation like that you're so unlikely
to let go of the strategy because if you let go of that strategy it feels like
you have nothing it feels like it rips the foundation out from underneath you
but your strategy is not a foundation your strategy is something to be tested
over and over and over and you want backup strategies never become attached
to a strategy a strategy is only there as a plan as a step-by-step process for
you to experiment with and try but if it is not working
throw it out just get rid of it and so one thing that will block your
persistence in achieving a goal is by being attached to a strategy that's not
working and the only way to find a strategy that's working is to test
several strategies the first strategy you come up with probably will not work
especially if it's the first time you're pursuing this goal
so you have to be adjustable you have to be flexible and this gets so much easier
so much easier to be flexible when you're very clear about the direction
you want to go and you're very clear about the values that are driving you
wanting to achieve this goal and even more so when you've dealt with that
resistance and you're not having to fight against that resistance so you're
very clear the direction is clear the pathway is clear all parts of you are on
board because there's nothing resisting it then the strategy is just you try it
out doesn't work throw it out you try something else out doesn't work throw it
out it becomes so easy you realize that strategies are so disposable and that's
the way that you should treat strategies is that they are disposable so when you
do these three things you've cleared that path you're all you're all parts of
you are onboard with us there's no wonder conflict there's no inner
resistance and your strategies are just disposable you're trying you're
experimenting you're taking whatever works and you're throwing out whatever
it doesn't work and that progress will give you momentum and that progress will
be so motivating that persistence is not even something you have to think about
it just happens now that you know how to be persistent in pursuing your goals why
not throw some gasoline on this fire why not fuel this even more and what I mean
is why not add some more NLP techniques to this so what I've done is I've
created a four-part video series on more NLP techniques more on getting clearer
about what it is that you want and how to make that happen and this four-part
video series is free in the description right here below there's a link and then
also pinned to the top of the comments right here there's a link there and you
just click that link you get immediate access to the first video and then over
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