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- Today we have a very exciting topic,
How Do you Shoot Your Shot in 2020?
- Well, you just said that you do it in person,
which I'm like, what? - Oh my god.
- So where are, do you dream him to do it?
- Both. - Oh (laughs).
- I've done both.
No, but I'm very like, not on my phone.
I don't like messaging people.
I never reply to messages.
I'm a really bad texter.
- You leave them unread? - Same.
- Yeah, it's really bad. - Yeah, I know.
- Really, really bad.
But, I'm more like, in person, human connection.
I'm all about not being afraid of being rejected, at all.
Ladies, rejection is nothing
when your ex shattered your heart into pieces.
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- I'm kidding, but not really. - Not kidding.
(laughing) - But triggered.
- I'm putting that into the-- - Was that something recently?
- But rejection is, I feel like that's the main thing
that girls worry about.
They're like, "How am I gonna go up to someone?
"What if they like, reject me?"
- Yeah. - I'm like, "You're worried
"about about a stranger not liking you?
"Seriously?" - So true.
- I feel like girls don't do it as much.
I feel like sometimes there's this weird faux pas.
Are y'all, like, you don't feel like you can, or?
'Cause gay guys for example, we do this thing
where we go into the club and we'll like--
- Just wait. - Look at them and look away.
No. - Isn't it cruising?
- Well, cruising is a whole 'nother thing.
- Oh. - We do this thing
where we will look at each other
and just look away,
and it's like, "I might really be super into you,
"but I don't want you to know.
"I want you to come talk to me."
- Like you want them to come up to you?
- Yes. - Yeah, like a lot
of my friends are like,
just wait for a guy to come up to them
and then, and they are actively looking for a partner,
but they're just waiting on a guy to come up to them.
- Yeah. - And then they leave the bar
and nobody came up to them. - Nobody goes up to them.
Same with gay guys. - I would take initiative.
Be proactive. - That's so true.
- Yeah. - Boss the (meowing) up.
- I think it all of my situation-ships,
I have always made the first move.
- Same. - Did you shoot your shot
with your boyfriend? - With my boyfriend
I shot my shot. - Wow.
- Yeah. - And you won.
- I won. - It was a swish.
(Curly laughing) - Four years later,
still winning. - Wow.
- Money in the bank. - Did you, what did you do?
Did you go up to him, you're like, "Hey, you're hot."
- I literally would tell him we should hang out,
and I would tell everyone likes me,
he just doesn't know it yet. - Wow.
- You manifested that. - He didn't like me,
he loved me. - Wow.
- Oh. - Oh my gosh.
- Yeah. - That's like me
and my boyfriend. - Yes.
- I just burned a bunch of candles and made this doll
and burnt a bunch of leaves and stuff.
- Yeah, if I really, really like someone
then I will shoot my shot,
but I will not do it, if I'm like,
"Oh, they're kinda cute."
- How do you shoot your shot?
- I just go up to them and I'm just like, "Hi."
- Yes. - "You're hot."
- No, I don't say "You're hot."
- [Curly] "Hi, you're hot." - I don't say that.
(laughing) Players!
- Yeah, I feel like in this climate,
I think it's not best,
but I feel like women should be encouraged
to go up to men, 'cause I feel like men don't go up to women
as much as I used to see them.
- Yeah, I feel like a lot of guys are scared,
as they should be. - They're scared.
- As you should be. - They're scared
and I think it's-- - but also.
- No, and I think there's this stigma men have now
where it's just like,
"I don't wanna approach them and then--"
Women are way more vocal now,
so I feel like men's feelings will get hurt.
- Get hurt, yes. - But I feel like,
now that they don't do it at all,
which is, I think shitty. - Yeah.
- I don't like that excuse of like,
"Because it's The #MeToo Movement and everything."
Well, learn a different way,
a more respectful way to come up to people.
- Mm-hm, exactly. - Mm, yeah.
- Like fuck, like don't put it all on something
that was like a move-- - Yeah, don't blame women,
again. - Don't blame women again,
like, "I can't come up.
"They're just gonna think I'm like--"
- Yeah. - Okay, well then
ask your peers, ask your femme friends.
- Go ask a group. - "What's an appropriate way?"
- If you're in a group setting, YOLO,
like have each dude go up to a girl.
- YOLO! - Figure it out.
I feel like that, like the excuse
of the #MeToo situation and men being afraid,
but also people rely on their phones so much now.
- Oh, yeah. - Yeah, that's true too.
- Yes. - That they just go
with the DM or they're on dating apps.
- Yeah. - Ugh, So boring.
- Yes, you know what else they do?
- Have you guys ever shot your shot,
like slid into someone's DMs? - Yes.
- Yeah, that's a, I mean it's--
- I did, it didn't work out. - Ugh, it's this guy
who's like, I know if we were together
we would so perfect together.
- (laughs) Off of his IG? - Oh my god.
- He's just so great. - Shoot your shot right now.
- You're eyes are all closed. - I already did.
You wanna see what I said?
- Yeah, show us. - In the credits.
- When you guys shoot your shot
and y'all get left unread, does it bother you?
- Yes. - Yes, a little bit, but not--
- No. - You're like whatever--
- Nothing really phases me. - It doesn't matter,
it still hurts, it still hurts.
- Dale, do you get hurt,
when you get left unread?
- I'm a weird case, I--
- What's your sign? - (mumbles) Virgo.
(gasping) - Oh god, Virgos.
- You had to be a Virgo. (Dale laughing)
- I'm a Virgo. - I haven't done any DMs
or dating apps or anything.
- Wow, Dale. - I like that,
that's refreshing. - But also,
get on the dating game. - Okay.
- Because people hide behind their DMs.
- Yes. - They'll be like,
"Okay, let's exchange Instagrams"
and then they shoot their shots via the app.
- At some point you have to meet to know
if you have chemistry. - Exactly, yeah.
- If you really like this person,
this person is weird. - Exactly.
- So you're just delaying that extra step.
- Yes. - Yeah.
- By meeting people in person.
- Okay, let me read you what I said (laughs).
- Okay. - This is on Twitter
and this guy is like, oh my god, he's like,
I'll show you guys after. - Can you say who he is?
And we'll bleep it. - His name is (meowing).
- Oh (laughs). - Oh, he's cute.
- So I said, "Hi," with like six I's.
"This is me casually and gracefully sliding into your DMs."
And then he didn't respond until the next day.
(beep) He goes, "Hey, Stuck the landing
"and everything.
"On a holiday too." (Diana and Kimmy laughing)
- I got nervous and I replied the next day.
And I was like, "So, this is
"what the inside of a DM looks like.
"Nice decor."
- Oh my god. (laughing)
- How should straight men
or how should men approach you guys,
and what do you think is a good way to do it?
What is like, if you had to give a few tips,
what is a good way?
- Simple, respectful, like to the point.
- "Hello." - Like, "Hey,
"what's your name?"
A compliment on something super basic.
- Yeah. - I was at a Halloween party.
I was Miss Incredible, looking bomb.
Put the picture up. - Oh, I saw the pics.
- So they can see. - I saw on IG.
- Put the picture up,
so they can see. - I saw on IG.
It was fire. - Put it up.
- Fire, fire!
- Put it up. (Diana and Curly laughing)
And this guy came up to me,
he's like, "You're so beautiful."
And like, "What's your name?"
And like, "Who are you?"
Like, "What do you look like outside of this costume?"
Not like that, but like-- - Uh, oh.
(Kimmy laughing) - I mean, yes, but no.
- And he was like, "What do I have to do
"to make you comfortable enough
"to give me your number?"
Like, "I have a good job, I'm 6'1"."
And it was, he was so charming.
- Amazing. - I didn't notice
how tall he was. I didn't notice any of those things.
And I'm just like, "Oh, no."
It was just like, his personality
and charm was like shining
and that's all I could see. - Exactly.
- Mm-hm. - The way he shot his shot,
I was like, yes, that's how you do it.
- I like that. - Yeah.
- Um, because-- - It shows like,
"I'm trying to take any initiative to get to know you,
"but what initiative to it should I take?"
- Yeah. - What about
a good old fashioned, "Waz good ma?"
- No (laughs). - I do.
- I think it's safe to say it's pretty nuance, right?
That depending on the person, there will always--
There's no one way to hit on someone.
There's no one way to shoot your shot.
I think that doing it out in the open
and in public is the safest way,
because then you don't--
People won't be like, "He fucking did it in private.
"He said something inappropriate to me in private."
- Yes. - So, I think
your group setting might actually be the best way.
- And things aren't misinterpreted.
- Yeah. - You know via DMs
or whatever way, like text, things get so misinterpreted.
- It does. - And I hate that.
'Cause I sit with all of my friends, I'm like, "What?
"He's a good guy, why are you being so weird about this?"
- Yeah. - Or like, it's just--
- Or I could be super into you
but I still won't reply to you
because I just suck at texting.
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- But I feel like also, say there's something going on,
and you guys both see yourselves looking at that thing,
like comment on it. - Yes.
- 'Cause that's an easy conversation starter.
- Yes. - Commenting on something
you both see. - Great.
- Oh, like, "Nice." - 'Cause it's easy
and then you guys start laughing about it
or like, "Oh, that guy is--" - "Whoa, that guy over there."
- Or "That girl." - Oh, I like that.
That's cute. - I know, it's just easy.
The easiest way. - Yeah.
- That is really cute. - I think
approaching strangers, like, I love making new friends,
so, approaching strangers,
like if you're just making a new friend,
you're not looking for or have any like--
You don't have any intention. - Intention.
- Intention, yeah. - Or implementing anything.
- Double meaning or anything. - Yeah.
- You're literally just approaching it
like you would approach a friend.
- Yes. - Oh, I love that.
- And you're super chill, usually that's when--
- Where you're like this, "Oh, I almost fell on you."
- Yeah. - Comment below.
- Comment below.
What are good ways that you would like to be hit on?
What are some ways that have worked for you
when you've shot your shot? - Yeah.
- Curious. - I, 'til the end of my day,
will prefer a good fitted ball cap, with a good fade
and somebody being like, "You are fine as--"
(meowing) "Where are you from?"
I'd be like (screams)!
(laughing) I prefer a duet,
at a random karaoke bar.
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