What is a conservatorship?
What's going on with Britney Spears?
I'm breaking it all down in this video,
so, stay tuned.
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Let's talk about Britney Spears.
It just came out yesterday that she was in court.
She appeared in court to try to end this conservatorship,
I can't even believe that we're still talking
about this thing honestly, 13 years later.
We all remember her public meltdown,
but, a lot of people have had meltdowns and
she probably had some issues.
Maybe it was severe depression.
Maybe she even does have bipolar, who knows?
But, she probably did need something at that time.
So, at that time, her father was appointed to be her conservator.
What does that mean?
That means he's basically her guardian,
he's taking care of her affairs,
he's taking care of her decisions around
medical, or financial, things like that,
because at that time, a court decided based on
whatever evidence was presented to it,
that she was unable to handle it herself.
She was a danger to herself and if she was left
to her own devices that she would maybe end up
on the streets, or something bad would happen to her.
Therefore, somebody needed to take care of her.
Just sort of like any child has to have a guardian
because they're unable to take care of themselves,
a five year old wouldn't be able to go out,
get a job, have an apartment, all those things,
so, sometimes that happens with adults.
I mean, most of the time you see it happen,
if they end up with dementia or Alzheimer's
or something like that
or maybe they're in a coma
or they had a medical emergency,
so somebody needs to step in and try to help.
So, what happened with Britney, 13 years ago
was that she had this meltdown,
so, her father steps in.
Now, is he a malignant narcissist?
or is he a narcissist at all?
Do we think he has her best interests at heart here?
When you listen to her testimony and apparently,
she spoke for 20 minutes in court, via telephone, and
when you listen to the words that she's using,
all of you out there in YouTube land,
those of you who watch me on a regular basis,
who know about narcissism, who have felt it,
who know the drama, trauma and chaos,
who know how they make you feel,
the energy vampires that they are,
how they sap your energy and
they just drain the life out of you.
I've been there, you've been there,
so listen to the words that came out of her mouth
when she was talking in front of this judge
yesterday, she asked the judge to end her
court-ordered conservatorship, calling it abusive, right?
That's one of the words that she used, was abusive.
She also said “I'm traumatized, I'm not happy, I can't sleep”.
She said it's doing me way more harm than good.
She said, I just want my life back.
Using the words like traumatized and,
she felt like alone that her family did nothing,
she used words like
that she felt dead inside,
she feels like they've stolen her life.
Does this sound familiar to you?
I think all of us can understand that when
someone altruistically has your best interest at heart,
who is really just doing something because
they love you, because they care about you?
You feel that, and
this is not that, right?
So, what do you think?
Do you think she's a victim of narcissistic abuse?
I definitely think she is.
I mean, this is not a situation like Megan Markle
or something and I have a whole video on it.
Whether is Meghan a narcissist, and
you can definitely check that out if you'd like.
But, this is somebody, that has a 60 million dollar estate,
her dad loves the power.
She actually even said in her letter that her father
loved having power over her, because she's so powerful,
because she's a public image,
because she still has the power
to be in residence in Las Vegas and make money.
So, she went on to say that she felt forced to go
on tour in 2018, and perform in Las Vegas.
Apparently, the response from her father,
the one that she's trying to get removed,
was that “he loves his daughter very much”.
So, apparently they forced her to be on medication.
They actually even have an IUD in her,
she's not allowed to have children,
she's not allowed to get married.
She's leading with the core to get rid of this.
She said, “it makes me feel like I'm dead,
like, I don't matter”.
What do you think about that?
You all have been there, right?
You know what that feels like.
So, I definitely think that she is a victim of narcissistic abuse, and
I want to know if you agree with me.
So, put that in the comments below.
So, let's talk about what happens now.
She petitioned the court, she's asking the court
to end her conservatorship.
So, the court is going to have a couple of options,
they can go ahead and just end it and she can just
become a free private citizen like the rest of us.
They will have to determine whether
she's mentally able to handle it now.
Now it's 13 years later.
So, my guess is that they will have some
sort of medical evidence, whether it's a medical doctor
or a psychiatrist, or psychologist, or somebody coming in and saying,
yeah, I've evaluated her and this are the results
of my evaluation and, will say yeah she's good to go
so they can do that or they can say,
we'll do this in stages and we will reduce the amount of controln and
we'll just keep taking a look at it, we’ll kind of step it down,
step by step,
they can also appoint a different conservator
if they'd like, I know there's been talk about
having it be a corporate conservator like Bessemer Trust.
They talk about Bessemer trust,
that's something else that they can do as well.
They can even have that interim,
corporate, trustee, or conservator be there,
they can even just maybe switch it to being like
more of a trustee, instead of a conservator
so that they are sort of looking over the finances and
having some kind of control over how she spends her money,
but not necessarily, medical and IUDs and
whether or not she can get married and,
really like controlling every aspect of her life like that.
I think part of the reason why she's feeling
so much stronger now is because of
this whole “free Britney” thing.
There was the documentary that came out which
apparently she didn't participate in at all,
but it's out there even while she was testifying yesterday,
there were people outside the courthouse
in Los Angeles with signs and on her behalf,
really supporting her.
I think that all of this groundswell of support
is making her feel stronger,
making her feel less alone, and
that's why I so advocate for you
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Do all of these things because
I want you to not feel alone because,
honestly, the biggest thing that you can do for
yourself when you go to negotiate with a narcissist
is figure out a way to get rid of the fear
because the not-so-secret secret is
that you are actually the stronger one.
Right now, her dad is quaking in his boots
because he realized that the jig is up,
that she's not that scared little person anymore
who's going to allow him to control everything and
therefore you know he not only gets money from that,
but the power and the prestige, and controlling her,
and all that narcissistic supply
that goes along with all of that.
I'm sure that he is quite nervous right now.
She's feeling stronger, stronger and stronger, and
and the stronger that she feels the more
he's likely to just collapse and disappear.
That's what happens.
You think that it's going to be so bad for you.
But, the truth of the matter is
they’re way more scared of you than you are of them,
so, just remember that when you're dealing with a narcissist and
hopefully Britney will prevail,
it seems like she's ready and
strong enough and stable enough to be able
to handle everything on her own, and
even if she's not, it doesn't seem like that guy
is the guy who should be in charge, right?
So anyway, thanks for watching.
Remember, today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I will see you in the next video!!