Welcome to the Ultimate Body Language Guide.
Being able to read body language is crucial when it
comes to making new friends and deepening your existing relationships.
So I've decided to create this series where we go over hundreds of movements
with real live actors to help you improve your social
skills.
In this video we will cover everything there is to know about the legs and the feet.
All of this information is taken from The Dictionary Of Body Language By Joe Navarro.
Please support him and his work by purchasing his book.
(note lanny: let's do this whole part like the
beginning of the eye vid.
Just text on screen., maybe 2 scenes one for first paragraph, 2 nd for the
disclaimer.)
___________________________________________________________________________________ With that being said – let's dive into
The Legs SPATIAL DISTANCING – Everyone has a need
for personal space.
If this space is violated by someone who is not of the appropriate comfort
level, you will be able to see signs of discomfort.
The range of this space depends on the culture, personal preference, and also the relationship
between the people within the space.
Public spaces which range from 12-25 feet apart is the average comfort zone for complete
strangers.
Social spaces which range from 4-12 feet apart is for acquaintances
Personal spaces which range from 1 - 4 feet is for close friends and family members
And finally Intimate spaces which is anything under 1 foot is something that people feel
comfortable sharing with their partners.
___________________________________________________________________________________ TERRITORIAL STANCES (Standing) – We use
our legs to claim territory.
This opens ourselves up to being challenged.
Which is why the further apart the feet the higher the level of confidence this person
will have.
Often seen in people with positions of power.
Like police officers and military.
___________________________________________________________________________________ TERRITORIAL CHALLENGE - Getting too close
into someone's personal space without the proper
amount of rapport - leads to feelings of discomfort.
Sometimes this is purposely done in order to
intimidate and provoke the other individual.
Which is why you will often see this being used before a
fight ___________________________________________________________________________________
ANGLING TO THE SIDE - Face-to-face conversations can create a feeling of confrontation – which
is why most socially adept individuals will approach
and talk to others at a slight angle.
Doing this allows you to be better received by the other party.
___________________________________________________________________________________ WALKING BEHAVIORS – You can tell a lot from
the way someone walks.
Some people will purposely walk and exaggerate the movement
of their hips to increase sex appeal – while others will
have exaggerated movements in their shoulders to show confidence.
___________________________________________________________________________________ LEGS SITTING – the space between ones legs
while they are sitting in public gives an accurate
representation of how confident they are currently feeling.
Open legs means more confidence – while closed legs is a sign of insecurity.
Be on a lookout for sudden changes in spacing – as that will show
you what's happening within them.
Also keep in mind that in some places, keeping your legs close
together while sitting can just be proper social etiquette.
___________________________________________________________________________________ ANKLES LOCKING – when people suddenly lock
their feet in a formal setting this is usually a sign of
restraint.
They might feel hesitant to say something or they might be feeling uncomfortable.
This often happens when something controversial is brought
up.
___________________________________________________________________________________ ANKLES LOCKING AROUND CHAIR – some people
do this all the time.
But if you observe someone suddenly doing this during an interaction
– this is usually a powerful indicator that something
is very wrong.
This can also be a freeze response (which refers to fight/flight/freeze responses that
we all have when confronted with fear)
___________________________________________________________________________________ KNEE CLASP WHILE LEANING BACK – Often seen
during interviews and interrogations.
This is a sign of high levels of stress and nervousness.
KNEE CLASPING WHILE LEANING FORWARD – This is a clear signal that someone is looking
to leave.
Try not to do this when interacting with other people that you want to build rapport with.
___________________________________________________________________________________ CROSSING LEG To CREATE A BARRIER – this
is a defensive position.
It is a sign that someone is uncomfortable.
You must observe which leg is being used to create the barrier.
If it is the leg closer to you then it is a clear sign that you may be
the one causing this reaction.
___________________________________________________________________________________ LEG DRAPING – This is when you hang your
leg over other objects including chairs, tables, and even
other people.
Often used by people who feel extremely confident and comfortable in the current
environments.
___________________________________________________________________________________ LEG RUBBING – This is when we rub the upper
part of our thighs with our hands.
This is a pacifying behavior that is used to calm ourselves down in high stress situations.
___________________________________________________________________________________ KNEE RUBBING – Slightly different from leg
rubbing, as you are rubbing or scratching the spot
above your knee instead of the upper thigh.
This can either be a sign of excitement or it can be a
pacifying behavior like leg rubbing.
___________________________________________________________________________________ LEG SHAKING - people will often shake their
legs and ankles when they are feeling restless or
anxious.
But it's also very important to note that many people do this out of habit.
___________________________________________________________________________________ KNEE HUGGING – this is often used by kids
and teenagers to comfort themselves.
It can be used to deal with negative emotions but it can also
be used simply as a comfortable way to sit.
___________________________________________________________________________________ STANDING WITH LEGS CROSSING – This is a
sign they someone feels comfortable with their current environment.
If you see someone uncross their legs from this position, this is usually a sign that
they suddenly feel less comfortable – even if it's only slightly.
___________________________________________________________________________________ LEG KICKING WHILE SITTING – Usually used
to shake off discomfort while sitting.
Can occur with just one or both legs.
The more intense the level of discomfort the more intense the kicking.
___________________________________________________________________________________ JUMPING – When someone jumps outside of
a sports setting it is almost always a sign of joy.
It means they are feeling extremely happy.
Often seen when accomplishing something great or hearing amazing
news.
Now that we've covered just about everything there is to know about the legs it's time
for us to move onto The Feet
___________________________________________________________________________________ Starting off we have Footwear – You can
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___________________________________________________________________________________ DRAGGING FEET – This is often used while
sitting.
This is a sign that someone is feeling impatient.
It is sometimes used when people feel nervous.
___________________________________________________________________________________ ANKLE SCRATCHING – Similar to leg and knee
rubbing, ankle scratching is a pacifying movement used to comfort yourself.
This is often seen in high stress situations.
__________________________________________________________________________________ FROZEN FEET – This is when someones feet
suddenly stop moving.
This is usually a freeze response that we use when we are scared or feel threatened.
___________________________________________________________________________________ FOOT WITHDRAWING – When you notice someone
suddenly doing this is it almost always a sign
that they are feeling more uncomfortable.
Something has just happened that triggered this movement.
___________________________________________________________________________________ PLAYING FOOTSIES – People will bump into
the feet of those that they are attracted to.
If it happens just once it may be an accident.
But if it happens multiple times in a short period of time it is usually a
sign of interest.
___________________________________________________________________________________ FOOT TURNING AWAY – When someone turns a
single foot away from the person they are talking to
– this is a sign that they are getting ready or want to leave.
This might mean that they are starting to become more and more uncomfortable with the
situation.
BOTH FEET TURNING AWAY – If both feet turn towards the nearest exit or away from someone
they are interacting with - this is clear sign that they dislike this person or something
about the interaction they are currently having.
___________________________________________________________________________________ TOES POINTING INWARD – when someone makes
this movement it is usually because they are starting to feel shy or vulnerable.
___________________________________________________________________________________ TOES POINTING UP - this movement just like
jumping falls under the category of gravity defying
movements – which are usually a sign that someone is currently feeling positive emotions.
BOUNCY FEET - This is a movement that people make when they experience strong positive
emotions – such as excitement or intense sudden joy.
Poker players who get amazing hands will often be seen making this movement.
___________________________________________________________________________________ FOOT TAPPING – This can mean many things.
For example, it might just mean someone is tapping
along with some music.
Others have a habit of doing this to simply pass the time similar to leg shaking.
And finally this is also seen when we are becoming impatient.
__________________________________________________________________________________ PACING – When someone walks back and forth
this is either a sign that they are thinking extremely
hard about something or that they are dealing with a very stressful situation.
__________________________________________________________________________________ FEET POINTING TOWARDS SOMEONE - People unconsciously
move towards things that they desire.
If someone is sitting or standing stationary with someone that they have a crush on – you'll
notice that their feet will point towards that person.
___________________________________________________________________________________ LEG TANTRUMS – This is when someone makes
large erratic movements with their feet.
It is usually a sign of extreme anger and frustration.
___________________________________________________________________________________ FOOT STOMPS – This is usually done in one
or two stomps.
This is a sign that someone is extremely irritated.
It is often done loudly – to get the attention of someone.
It's basically like saying - “Hey you're pissing me off.”
TOE WIGGLING – This is usually a sign that someone is feeling positive emotions.
But it is also used by some people to simply pass the time.
___________________________________________________________________________________ SHOE DANGLING – This is something that women
do more often than man.
And it is usually a sign of extreme comfort.
This May also been on seen on dates when feeling attracted to the other person.
___________________________________________________________________________________ AGITATED LEGS AND FEET – When someone's
legs and feet are moving nonstop rapidly and uncontrollably, it might actually be a sign
that something is seriously wrong.
It could be drugs, shock after witnessing something traumatic, or even
a panic attack.
If you do not see them calming them it might be best to call for help.
___________________________________________________________________________________ And that's it.
We've covered everything you need to know about the legs and the feet.
I suggest you replay this video with the audio off and cover
the box with the definitions to test yourself and see if you
know what each of these signs mean.
We will be covering the other body parts in a playlist that I will link to in the description
box below.
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