What’s up guys, Brad Browning here…. in this video, I’m going to tell you what to
say to your ex to win them back.
For those of you who don’t already know, I’m a relationship coach, breakup expert,
and author of the best-selling Ex Factor program.
Learn more about my program and get my help on your situation by visiting BreakupBrad.com.
So, what should you say to win back your ex?
The answer to that question is actually very simple….
NOTHING.
I’m serious.
You shouldn’t be saying anything to your ex at all if you want them back.
Now I know that may sound a bit ridiculous if this is the first time you’ve seen one
of my videos, but I promise that saying pretty much anything to your ex right now will actually
do more harm than good.
This is one of the single biggest mistakes that people make when trying to win back their
ex.
In fact, some of my coaching clients still make this mistake, even after they’ve read
my Ex Factor program and heard me tell them it’s a bad idea.
They’ll think that they know better, and that they can apologize or beg or sweet talk
their way back into their ex’s arms.
I know this goes against all common sense -- I mean, how can you possibly get back together
with your ex if you’re not even talking to them -- but I promise that it is 100% for
sure the best thing you can do after a breakup.
So, please do yourself a favour and take my advice on this: don’t try to convince your
ex that he or she should take you back.
It’s not going to work, and in fact it’s only going to make you look like a pathetic
loser… and why on earth would your ex want to jump back into a relationship with someone
like that?
If you’ve just recently broken up with your ex -- as in, within the last couple of weeks
-- then now is a perfect time to cut off communication with your ex.
If you’ve seen my other videos here on YouTube, then you know that this is called the “30
Day No Contact Phase”.
You may have already seen some other relationship and breakup experts recommending something
similar online.
Anyway, don’t stress if you’ve already done some begging and pleading with your ex
since the breakup…
it’s not necessarily a lost cause, especially if you begin the No Contact period immediately.
What you need to do now is just stop initiating any conversations or communication with your
ex, and only reply to his or her messages if not doing so will make them angry or upset.
For example, if your ex sends you a message on Facebook asking how you’re doing or what
your plans are for the weekend, you can just ignore the message.
Similarly, if your ex calls and leaves a voicemail wishing you a happy birthday, don’t call
back.
If you do end up talking to your ex during the 30 day period of no communication, your
goal should be to stay friendly and upbeat while looking for the first possible opportunity
to end the conversation politely.
Say, for instance, you run into your ex at the mall and he or she starts chatting you
up… smile, say hello, make 30 seconds of small talk, and then simply say “hey sorry
to cut this short but I have to go, some friends are waiting for me, let’s catch up another
time ok?” and hustle off like you’ve got more important things to do.
Remember: during this period of time, you don’t want to talk to your ex at all.
The less contact you have, the better.
I’m not going to explain in depth the reasons why this strategy works so well in this video,
but the simple explanation is that your ex will find it much harder to cope with the
breakup if you completely vanish from his or her life than if you continue to talk regularly
and give them time to slowly adjust to the single life.
It’s going to make your ex miss you, wonder what’s going on with you, and quickly forget
the negative aspects of your old relationship that led to the breakup.
You’re forcing your ex to learn what life is like without you, making sure they miss
talking to you and being with you, and helping them aspects of your relationship they didn’t
enjoy.
If you’re skeptical about what I’ve said in this video so far… if you’re thinking
that I’m nuts for suggesting that you can win back your ex by simply ignoring them…
take a look at some of the comments on my other YouTube videos that discuss this topic.
You’ll see literally hundreds of people who have used the No Contact method and seen
it work like magic.
If your ex seems cold, distant, or doesn’t respond when you call or text them… often
times, you can cut off all communication for a week or two, and all of sudden they’re
texting daily and calling to see how you’re doing.
There’s tons of comments here on YouTube from people who’ve had similar experiences,
as you can see for yourself by browsing the comments on my channel.
Now, at this point, you’ve probably got 2 questions on your mind.
First, you’re wondering how to handle a situation where you have to communicate with
your ex… maybe it’s because you still live together, some of your belongings are
at your ex’s house, you work at the same office, or something along those lines.
These ‘what if’ scenarios are something I cover extensively in my Ex Factor Guide
program, and there’s far too many for me to cover them each here in this video, so
please consider grabbing a copy of my program if you’ve got lots of those “what if”
questions.
A few months ago I also made a video specifically addressing a couple of scenarios where the
No Contact phase may not be the right strategy, so you can also watch that video next and
see if your question is covered there.
I also do my best to respond to your comments here on YouTube, especially if you keep it
brief, so please feel free to comment below this video.
The second question you may be wondering is what to do after the 30 day period of no contact
is over.
Usually your ex will be contacting you by that point, but you still need to know what
to say and do to start re-building your connection and moving towards eventually getting back
together.
And what if your ex hasn’t reached out to you during the 30 days?
How do you try to kick-start the communication and make him or her interested in you again?
This is where it gets more complicated.
I recommend watching the video on my website, which goes into more depth about my 3-step
system for winning your ex back.
It’s free, and you can watch it now at www.BreakupBrad.com.
You’ll learn what needs to happen for your ex to actually want to get back together with
you, and a few simple psychological tricks you can use to begin changing his or her mind.
Again, that video is free at www.BreakupBrad.com.
Just one word of warning….
Once your 30 days of no contact ends, it’s not suddenly time to go back to begging or
pleading or asking your ex “hey what’s up” or anything boring like that.
Think of the No Contact phase as wiping the slate clean…
now, after several weeks not hearing from you, your ex is missing you like crazy and
they’ll started to forget the reasons why they wanted to break up.
Now is the time to show them the new and improved version of you… go back to being the person
that your ex first fell in love with.
Be fun, be interesting, and be confident.
At first, don’t talk at all about your relationship, breakup, or anything serious or dramatic.
That kind of discussion is toxic and will undo all the progress you made in the 30 day
no contact period.
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That’s it for now, see you again soon.