- Have you ever thought about what is it
that some women have that creates that
I have to have to be with her feeling in men?
Well, my name is Mat Boggs.
I'm a Dating and Relationship Coach,
and in pondering this question,
what is it that makes men addicted to women?
In a good way, not that addicted bad way,
but in a good way.
We're gonna play with the word crave
'cause anytime we're addicted to something
we have that craving for it, right.
It's like we have to have it.
So we're gonna break down the word crave in an acronym
and give you some really solid strategies of things
that you can do to really dial up that desire with your man.
So, let's take the word C.
C stands for challenge.
How are you challenging your man?
See as men we love to be challenged.
It helps us become more of who we're meant to be.
How do you challenge a man?
You challenge a man simply by stating your standards,
and becoming the best version of you that you can be.
Stating your standards is all about
what is that is a requirement to be with you.
And when we're living into those standards,
we're earning that right to be with you
and we value what we earn.
Then when you're the best version of yourself,
you're setting goals for yourself,
you're goin' after your dreams,
and so I encourage you to be asking your man
about his goals, his dreams.
What is it that he would love for his life?
As you begin to challenge him
he becomes a better version of himself around you
and has a greater desire to be with you.
The R in crave stands for respect.
Every man's greatest subconscious desire
is to have his thoughts respected.
In fact, one of our greatest fears
is to be seen as inadequate
or feel inadequate in a woman's presence.
So, when you respect a man
you ask him about his thoughts, his opinions.
When he feels like a man in your presence,
when he feels like he can get the job done,
he can provide, he can protect,
when he's around you,
he's gonna feel like a better man in your presence
and have that desire to be with you.
The A in the word crave,
now this is an interesting one.
This stands for alignment.
How aligned are the two of you.
You see when you're aligned with him
and he's aligned with you,
in other words, when you just get him,
and you feel like he just gets you.
You guys have this understanding with one another,
that creates this phenomenal bond that you have.
And so, how do you foster that?
How do you grow that?
Well, it starts with having the courage
to really share the things that you believe.
Having the courage to share
the little idiosyncrasies of who you are
because when you're able
to reveal yourself on deeper levels
and able to connect on those deeper levels,
that's what creates a deep bond with him.
The V, now the V stands for variety
because predictability equals boring.
When the relationship becomes predictable,
the relationship gets boring.
It's routine that lulls the brain to sleep.
So, how can you infuse variety into the relationship?
How can you try new restaurants that you've never been to
or perhaps take a Chinese cooking class,
or better yet make some incredible,
amazing memories together like lifelong experiences.
I challenge you to think about
what if we were to look back five years from now,
what would be the memories we would come up with
that we did this year?
How are you gonna create those?
It might be seeing your favorite concert,
or traveling to Costa Rica and going zip lining,
or it might be swimming naked in the ocean,
or making love in the snow.
I don't know what it is
but when you infuse variety
and combine that with lifelong memories,
now you've got a recipe for something
that's gonna stick in his mind
and something he's gonna be drawn to.
And this brings me to the E in the word crave
which stands for excitement.
It's your energy and your passion for him.
The more enthusiastic,
the more passionate you are for him when he's around,
that energy is going to transfer to him
and he's gonna love it.
I'll just give you an example.
When I get home from work,
I'll walk through the door,
and my wife will be at the table with my daughter,
and my wife will say, "Daddy's home!"
And she'll get real big and excited,
and then my daughter will go, "Daddy, yay!"
And my daughter will run up and jump into my arms,
and let me tell you, that is the best part of my day.
I love that.
I'm sure you love it too when people are excited to see you
and they let you know it.
You know, the worst is if you come home, right,
and your man or vice versa,
he comes home and you're just sittin' at a table,
oh hey you're home, yeah.
Food's in the fridge.
How's your day?
Right, it's horrible.
It's like where's the energy,
where's the excitement?
And we can do that for each other,
it's not you for him, but it's him for you.
But the place to start is always with ourselves.
How can we dial up the passion
and the energy for the person that we wanna be with.
Now, when you challenge him,
respect him, you're aligned with him,
there's variety and amazing experiences,
and there's excitement and energy,
that creates this amazing potent feeling in him
that he will become addicted to.
That it will be a joy, it will be light, it will be love,
and he will be missing it when you're gone.
And he'll be thinking about you and pursuing you.
So, focus on those things, dial it up,
because no matter what relationship you're in,
it's going to infuse more positive energy
into that relationship and create a stronger bond.
Now, I would love to hear from you.
What creates that crave in you to see a man?
When you're dating a guy what does he do
that makes you wanna think about him?
That makes you wanna be with him?
What is that he does that dials up your intensity
of your focus and emotion on him.
Go ahead and post that in the comments, questions below
so I can get a better understanding of you.
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