Hi this is Ceema and welcome back to a new lesson called sex and people. Well I have
your attention already because of the topic. Um...well the reason why I brought up this
topic is because sex and people a really big deal, right? Well there are some people who
indulge in too much of sex, there are some people who indulge in normal to moderate sex
and there are some crazy people who indulge in no sex at all. Whatever that is okay. Um...
so when we are talking in English we have certain words that we use to describe such
people. Right because there are different kinds of people relating to their sex appetite,
right so let's look at a few of these words and see how we can apply them, okay.
The first one is easy. Well who is a person who is really easy? Well firstly easy is a
word that you use mostly for girls. Okay you don't really use it for a man, you would use
it for girls and these are girls who are really easy to sleep with. Well why are they really
easy to sleep with? Because you know these girls you buy them dinner, you take them out
for one date and you know you've got them. Right so it's very easy to lure them into
your bedroom because they are very easy right? Well not all girls are very easy but girls
who are you know really easy to sleep with, who sleep around a lot. You know girls who
really sleep around with multiple partners as a part of their lifestyle are called as
girls who are really easy. And we have some girls again; this is a word you will only
use with girls. Um... they are tight. Now what do you mean by tight? Or you could say
some people called them tight assessed for some reason. Well this word is quite the opposite
of the word easy. Okay so these are opposites, they are not the same they are opposites.
So these girls make sex a really big deal. Okay so you take them on one date. Okay you
haven't scored; you take them on two dates, three dates. May be ten dates, six months,
a year and then they might just sleep with you depending on how they find you. Okay so
they are really tight assessed or what we call as very tight girls. So guys go something
like that girls really tight. It's kind of hard to get her on a date. Well she's not
easy she's quite tight. Yeah so easy and tight have two different meanings when it comes
to how often a girl sleeps or wants to sleep with a man. Okay and the next one is hard
to get. Now again this is used for girls and um... the word hard to get is basically a
term used for people who pretend or girls for that matter who pretend that you know
they don't want to have sex or they don't want to get in to a date very soon or they
don't want to get into a relationship too soon. So they pretend that they don't want
to get too involved. So people who are hard to get really test your patience right. I
mean you really want to go ahead and have two dates and you know hit it with the girl
but she's really hard to get. So you are kind of wondering you know is it going to take
two dates, is it going to take three dates? Is it going to take one night? Well some people
are just hard to get. So well may be the girl wants it as much as you do but she pretends
to be a lady. She pretends that she doesn't want it as much as you do. So such girls are
hard to get. But you know they come by easily I guess, eventually at least. So that's what
hard to get means. And umm... the next one is a slut or you could say a whore. Now this
is my advice don't ever, ever use either of these words to someone's face okay. So this
is something that you would call a girl but not to her face because it's very offensive.
You might get beaten okay. Now what is a slut? Well a slut is a word you use for someone
who sleeps around. So some people just go every night, they get a new partner, and they
sleep around. The next day you know it's the same thing over and over and over again and
they have multiple partners. So such girls who are you know very easily available for
sex are called sluts okay. Now such girls can also be called as a whore. But a whore
even though you can use it as an informal slang to talk about girls, who sleep too much,
can also be another word for a prostitute which means that such girls actually get paid
to sleep with someone. So this could be used as a slang where you say, that girl sleeps
around, she is a whore. You may not be getting paid to do it, but you call her that because
of her lifestyle. But there are people who are whores by profession, so they get paid,
they are prostitutes. They get paid may be an hour, you know a certain amount an hour
to do whatever they are doing, right. So you don't call these names to anyone on their
face, okay remember that.
And um... well this is one category of people who are very difficult to understand for me.
They are the frigid type. So these people are sexually unresponsive. Well there are
some people believe or not you know no matter what you do, they just don't respond to sex.
You know they have no desire to indulge in any kind of sexual activity, mating whatever
you may call it. They are just frigid, they are cold. You call them cold or frigid. Okay
so this could apply to a guy or a girl. Okay so well, it could be a medical reason because
of which they are this way or it could be because of a lot of childhood trauma that
has made them frigid person. But people are frigid. Some of them and the next one is bang
worthy. Well um... normally guys call girls bang worthy if they find the girl really hot,
really attractive. Someone who they would like for a one night stand, you know. You
know guys go like, did you see that girl, she's really bang worthy. Well, she might
be because she is really hot, she's really attractive, then she could be someone ideal
for your type of a one night stand. So that's what bang worthy means, right. And um... these
two expressions are for guys okay. We've dealt a lot with girls, okay. Now a lot of these
expressions are not used for guys because it is you know considered that guys are easy,
guys want to sleep around you know most of them. So most of these terminologies are meant
for girls but there are some guys you know who can't get away with you know sex because
they really behave very badly. So a man-whore, well that's a guy with really standards okay.
So a guy who sleeps around. So a guy who sleeps around too much is called a man whore. Now
this guy has very low standards because you know he may end up sleeping with several partners
in one night probably and the next morning he may not even know their names, not even
recognize their faces. Well that's a man-whore for you. Now that may not necessarily mean
that he is getting paid to do it but he is called that because of his behavior, that's
what his lifestyle is. Okay so that's a guy with really, really, really low standards.
Okay that's not a guy you'd want to date. So that's a man-whore. And um... you have
a Casanova. A Casanova is a word that is derived from the name of a person called Casanova
because that person used to be a very smooth talker. You know a very charming person. Do
you there are some guys you know, they talk to you and you melt. Right your heart just
pops in your mouth. So you know they are smooth talkers, they say the right things at the
right time. They make you feel really weak in the knees. They are very charming, very
smooth. So a man called Casanova sometime in the late 1880s it was probably who was
a writer and a spy used to be a very good smooth talker and a nice charmer for women.
So women always fell prey to his charms. So a guy like that is called a Casanova. Another
word for Casanova could be a playboy or a womanizer. Well they almost attract women
like iron to a magnet. Yeah like bees to honey. So that's what a Casanova or a womanizer or
a playboy is all about. Now we are going to deal with the different types of sex that
people are indulging in okay and there are quite a few of them.
Okay, let's see what they are. Alright now getting on with people who indulge in different
kinds of sex okay. Well there are some of them, right. So we've got some people who
are called as boy toys. Okay this is a word referred to boys or men who are really young
but they are called especially for giving pleasure
to ladies after they have a bad break up or a normal break up may be. Well the girl is
heartbroken and she wants you know to feel a little good. So she calls her boy toy who
makes her feel really good in bed. So gives her a lot of pleasure when she is feeling
lonely because now she is without her boyfriend, right. So that's what a boy toy is and it
is referred mostly to men or boys. And then you've got some people who are sadist people.
Well who are sadist people? You know there are some people who like to inflict pain.
There are some people who like to humiliate you or even demean you as a person while having
sex. Apparently this gives them pleasure. Now it sounds like a very mean thing but if
two sadists, they consensually you know agree to having sex, for them that's a lot of fun
because they are both agreeing to do that right? So that's what sadism or being a sadist
is all about. So when you inflict pain on people, humiliate people and have sex while
doing that and you are having fun, well you are a sadist yeah. And the next one is a cougar.
Well what is a cougar? There are some older women, well not really old women... but women
in their 40s or late 30s or even may be even in their 50s who like to sleep with younger
men may be in their early twenties or thirties. Well they get a kick out of it. Okay so they
don't like guys or men of their age. They prefer the young ones, the hot blooded ones
yeah. They make them feel good; they make them feel young perhaps. So they are what
cougars are all about. Okay, and then you have a paedophile. Okay well this is a very
bad breed of people. It's a very wrong thing because a paedophile is someone who likes
to have sexual relations with children. This is something that is illegal, it has to be
stopped but sadly we have a lot of paedophiles in society today who prey on children in their
puberty, children who are as young as may be 5 or 6 or even you know infants for that
matter. So there are what paedophiles are all about and that's a very bad breed of people
yeah because they are very dangerous and they are very illegal. And then you have got incest.
Well I find this a little bit eww.... because well incest is about having sex with your
family members. Well you can have a brother and a sister having sex. well i don't know
how that works but you can have an uncle and a niece having sex or you can have a mother
and a son having sex which is like really something that you know you can't imagine
these days but there are people who indulge in sexual relationships and that's what incest
is all about, having sex within the family. Right it could be mutual, consensual I mean
and it also be forced. This again is a bad thing if it's forced. Well if it's mutual
and consensual then well it's a different thing altogether. But that's what incest is
all about. And that you've got kinky. Well kinky is a little bit like sadism or being
a sadist. Except that kinky may not always involve pain. So it could be like really weird
stuff, okay. So there are people who like to be tied and made love to, there are people
who like to have really gooey stuff all over their body and you know they like to have
sex in really weird situations. They don't have traditional sex; they have sex in a very
different abnormal way, a very weird way. So it's all weird stuff and that's what kinky
is all about. But whatever gives you pleasure I guess. So these are the different kind of
people and the different kind of sex that people indulge in. Well that's it from me
on this lesson with people and sex. I hope you found it interesting and quite informative.
I'll be back with some more lessons, until then this is me saying goodbye and have safe sex.