former husband?
>> Yes.
>> Judge Judy: With regard to --
And then I'll get to both of
your cases because I have
complaints and a countersuit for
exactly the same thing, that
each of you alleged -- the
mother-in-law and the former
daughter-in-law allege that the
other has harassed them, caused
them to spend money for legal
fees...
Yada, yada, yada.
All ridiculousness.
But I want to get some of the
background.
So you lived together for a long
time.
You have an 8-year-old child.
How many grandchildren does
Ms. Reynante have?
>> Grandchildren? I believe 2.
>> Judge Judy: You have this
granddaughter.
This is a granddaughter.
>> Correct.
>> Judge Judy: And where is
your other grandchild?
>> She lives in Georgia.
>> Judge Judy: And you live...
>> Here in Southern California.
>> Judge Judy: And Ms. Paredes
lives in Southern California?
>> Correct.
>> Judge Judy: Right.
So this is the only grandchild
that's near you?
>> Correct.
>> Judge Judy: Did you have a
settlement agreement in your
divorce decree, or was this a
case tried with regard to
custody and visitation and
support?
>> Well, we went to court a few
times, but in the end we agreed.
>> Judge Judy: Okay, what did
you agree to with regard to
custody?
>> Uh, we finally agreed to
50-50 on legal and physical
custody.
>> Judge Judy: And how does that
work with an 8-year-old in
school?
Do you live close by to each
other?
>> Kind of.
Maybe like 12 miles apart.
As far as school, from my
understanding, they're late a
lot, so --
>> Judge Judy: No, no, not --
That's not what I asked you.
>> Oh, okay.
>> Judge Judy: How is the week
divided?
>> Oh, I see.
It's one week on, one week off.
>> Judge Judy: And when your
daughter is with her father,
does her father live with his
mother?
>> Yes.
>> Patricia: I live with my son.
I moved into his house.
I live with him.
>> Judge Judy: You live
together?
>> Correct.
>> Judge Judy: Fine.
So you have 3 minutes to tell me
what the problem is and why you
think you have a lawsuit.
>> Um, 2015 she brought me to
court, filed a TRO, was granted
the restraining order for both
sides to stay away from each
other.
>> Judge Judy: Just a second.
So she brought you to court
on a restraining order.
>> Yes.
>> Judge Judy: She made an
application for a temporary
restraining order, is that
correct?
>> Yes.
>> Judge Judy: And you were
served with a temporary
restraining order?
>> Not served, necessarily.
I was told through my son's
lawyer that I was being served.
>> Judge Judy: What were the
allegations in that application
for an order of protection?
>> She claimed I threatened to
stab her in the back with a
knife.
>> Judge Judy: And was that case
tried or settled?
>> Well, it wasn't tried.
I think it was --
>> Judge Judy: Was a final
protective order granted?
>> Yes, for 3 years.
>> Judge Judy: And were they
mutual protective orders?
>> Yes.
>> Judge Judy: So after she
filed an application for a
protective order, did you file
an application for a protective
order?
>> No, because the order was a
joint order.
>> Judge Judy: No, no, no, no.
It wasn't a joint order.
She went first.
>> Correct.
>> Judge Judy: She filed an
application alleging that you
threatened her.
>> Alleging.
>> Judge Judy: Then, either one
of two things happened.
Either you filed for a
protective order and both those
cases are joined together, or
when you go to court because the
judge is maybe a little bit
lazy, maybe one person has a
lawyer and says, "Listen, we
don't have to try this.
Why don't you both just agree
not to annoy or harass each
other for 3 years, and then we
can save ourselves a lot of time
and a lot of expense."
So, either one of two things
happened -- either you filed for
a protective order after she
served you in 2015 --
Did you do that?
>> I did not, no.
>> Judge Judy: Well, then if you
did not, then what happened is
the second thing happened on my
menu which was maybe the judge
is a little bit lazy.
Did you have a lawyer?
>> Yes.
>> Judge Judy: And did her
lawyer speak to you?
>> No. He spoke to my lawyer.
>> Judge Judy: So you both had
lawyers?
>> I had a family lawyer because
it was her son's family lawyer
and they already knew each other
with our custody case, so that's
how they spoke to each other.
So, my lawyer, my family lawyer
had to get involved in this case
because of that, because --
>> Judge Judy: Well, he didn't
have to because of that, because
you weren't a defendant or a
respondent in that case.
>> Mm-hmm.
>> Judge Judy: Only she was.
>> Mm-hmm.
>> Judge Judy: But you brought
your lawyer with you, and the
two lawyers talked to each
other?
>> Mm-hmm.
>> Judge Judy: Did the two
lawyers also talk to the judge?
>> Yes, I believe they did.
>> Mm-hmm.
>> Judge Judy: Right.
So mutual protective orders were
granted?
>> Yes.
>> Judge Judy: Great.
Even though no case had been
filed against you?
>> No.
>> Judge Judy: So, I still don't
hear a lawsuit.
>> I have not talked to this
woman since 2009, so the
allegation that she put that I
stabbed her in the back was
something that I said --
>> Judge Judy: Ms. Reynante,
let me explain something to you.
You had a lawyer.
>> Correct.
>> Judge Judy: If you wanted to
fight that order of
protection -- listen to me
carefully.
If you wanted to fight that
order of protection, you should
have said to your lawyer,
"I want a trial."
>> Okay.
>> Judge Judy: Not say, "I
consent to an order of
protection."
>> But it wasn't really about
that.
It was about my granddaughter.
She filed the restraining order
against both me and my son,
separate, had two separate
judges sign it, and he couldn't
have my daughter in visitation
because I lived in the house
with him.
>> Judge Judy: Listen --
>> So I went to court to fight
the visitation.