Hello everyone and welcome to the south of France where I am
currently on my holidays. So this is Biarritz. Gorgeous, cute, beautiful,
warm, sunny Biarritz. And you are here with me this week because I was unwell before my
holidays and I was unable to pre-record any content for this week. So instead, I decided
to take you with me on my holidays and we're going to talk about something very important.
The topic of this week's video has got to do with the size. And I've addressed the topic of the size
before in sort of different ways. I talked about an average penis size,
I talked about different ways to increase it for the gentlemen who are inclined to do so and I also
talked about different positions that would be good for a gentleman who is sort of on the
smaller side of the size spectrum. But I haven't really talked much to the gentlemen who are on
the larger end of that scale. And I know that there's quite a few of you watching my videos
who are at least six inch or above. And I've been receiving a lot of different questions from you
so this video is about addressing the very common question of what actually is too big. Like, there
are different sizes but where is that barrier, where is that kind of limit that says "okay, now
that is actually too big". And when I was doing research for for this video I decided to dive
into different sort of online forums and different online discussion boards in order to just see what
people are saying. Because I know what I think, I know what I've been hearing from my clients,
I also know what sort of literature says on the topic. So being a trained sexologist I obviously
have read a lot of manuals and research and a lot of opinions and a lot of just studies on this
topic. But I wanted to really see what are people saying, what are both men and women saying about
this size issue. And, you know, particularly about those bigger penises. And I discovered something
very interesting. Because it seems like among those answers or among those responses on those
online forums there were two sort of trends that I was noticing. One of them was that the
gentlemen who are responding to this question were talking about the size as something that had to do
more with the visual aspect of things. And so the bigger size, it seems that the bigger size
is more valuable because it looks better. Whereas the ladies or the responses coming from the ladies
were concentrating around what feels good. So a certain size felt good while certain sizes above
that would potentially not feel good anymore, it would feel painful. So here you've got these two
very different trends: what looks good versus what feels good. And it kind of makes sense when you
think about it. Because men see penises often in the framework of porn, so that's when they would
typically see a larger number of penises than just their own - typically. And since we know that the
porn actors (male porn actors) are typically chosen for the role because they are larger
than average, then all these men watching porn are kind of getting used to a certain aesthetic that
is imposed by the producers or creators of porn. So that's what they're seeing, that's what they're
referring to as in what a good size is. Whereas for ladies who typically don't watch as much porn,
and they think of penises in terms of what feels good to them. And a huge majority of
women were speaking of those larger penises - so maybe about seven inches and above - as
painful to have intercourse with. And while yes, there were, you know, and there are a certain
number of responses claiming that larger penises are better, it was actually quite a big majority
stating that the more average size is actually absolutely sufficient. And those larger penises
can actually feel uncomfortable to the inside of the vagina. And something important to recognize
here is that just like men have different size penises, women have different size vaginas. Like,
we are different, different bodies are very different. So if you are seven inches and above,
don't worry, it doesn't mean that all women will find sex with you uncomfortable or painful, not at
all! Majority of women do have vaginas that are about four inches length when they are aroused.
And so they cannot very comfortably accommodate a larger gentleman. But there are women who have
longer vaginal canals. So they don't feel very much when they are with a smaller sized man.
So this kind of women they would sometimes, you know, would say their responses on those forums,
saying you know "go big or go home", something like that. And and a part of that potentially is
because her vagina is longer than average. But a part of that can also be a bit of I guess social
pressure around this narrative that we hear and we've been hearing for such a long time and so
often that bigger is better. Well, not necessarily and not necessarily in sex. But it does mean that
it is potentially difficult for someone to say "I prefer a smaller size penis" or "I prefer a
nice average size". So while that might be exactly what they're thinking and what they're preferring,
it might be difficult to say that especially online, especially on a forum where anybody
can judge you and anybody can call you uncool or a loser for having some kind of opinions. But the
truth is that majority of people are average in size - both penises and vaginas. Penises
being just over five inches in length when aroused and vaginas being around 4 inches in length when
aroused. And this simply tells us that average size is a really good size for a huge majority of
people. Not for everybody, there will be people who are different than the average,
who aren't average in size. So there are obviously women who want the bigger size,
for whom 7 inches and above is the dream and exactly what they want. And you know, if that's
your size as a man, you'll be able to satisfy them and give her exactly what she wants. If however,
you are a man of a larger than average appendage and you happen to fall in love with a woman
who hasn't got a larger than average vagina, then you might just need to be a bit creative
here. It doesn't mean that you're doomed, it doesn't mean that you're sexually incompatible or
that you're bound to cause her pain or discomfort every single time. Not at all! It just means that
you really need to take those size differences into consideration when you're making love and
that you need to really give her extra time or caresses and extra stimulation, extra foreplay,
maybe make sure to use a a good lubricant so that she can accommodate your larger size more
easily. But above all, have conversations about it. You know, this is not a taboo topic anymore.
You need to talk to your partner or different partners over the time, over the years about sex,
about the size, about what feels good. Because maybe in many cases your idea of what she should
enjoy or how she should enjoy your large wand, maybe it's not exactly what she wants and desires.
And so you might need to adjust how you make love to her or in what kind of ways and what
kind of different activities are included and how long they last or you know what else is needed in
order to make your experience together the most enjoyable, satisfying and fun for both of you. And
if this information was helpful, please make sure to leave me a 'Like' and also a comment below:
what do you think is too big? I love reading your comments and I always respond to them personally.
And I also hope that you've been watching my vlogs from the south of France on my vlog channel,
you will find the link in the description bar below. I do have a second channel,
not just this one, the sexual education channel. I also have my personal channel where I share my
personal thoughts, experiences and more recently - travels as well. So I hope that you enjoy
watching my videos and now have an absolutely wonderful day. And I'll see you next week!