Alright, right now, I need you to agree to
stop doing this, okay? This is hurting you,
it is hurting the people around you and
it's just not good for life or business.
And that is comparing yourself to other
people, specifically comparing your
insides to other people's outsides.
So here's what I mean by that: when we meet
someone, guess what? Usually, they put
their best foot forward, right? First
impressions matter, blah blah blah, all
that kind of stuff. So, when you're
meeting someone, you're seeing them at
their best. Think about a first date,
right? You're not seeing the real person
and if this is a case in business or
where you're seeing someone in their
element, so let's say you, say you see a
professional athlete, say being a
professional athlete playing sports. They
are going to be exceptional in that
field, but they might be really messed up
in every other part of their life as,
it's probably often the case. So, here's
what happens. Because you know your
insides, and by insides I mean you're
unconscious, all your self-doubts,
insecurities, fears, weaknesses, all that
kind of stuff, because you know that,
you're judging yourself, all that inside
stuff against other people's outside,
which you're just seeing the best of the
best, the part they choose to cherry-pick
and share with the world. Here's why it's
even worse, is if you're someone who is
authentic, and I don't mean authentic
like Fifth Avenue coke advertising, "Be
authentic, drink Coke," or all those other
douchey companies that are using
authenticity to sell you garbage you
don't need, but I mean really authentic
where you wear your heart on your sleeve,
you don't mind looking stupid, you tell
people you don't even know that well, how
you really feel or vulnerable stories, if
you're that kind of authentic, first off,
awesome; secondly, this has an even bigger
impact on you because if you're someone
who's really authentic and you share
yourself with people, that means you're
probably not always putting your best
foot forward. You're probably just
putting your foot forward, who you are, right?
So, you're used to being someone who just
shares yourself, who is essentially, let's
say honest and authentic. But most people
unfortunately are not that way, which
means when you meet them, you're meeting
this thin sliver of who they really are,
right? But because you're used to sharing
yourself and being authentic with other
people, you're going to assume that other
people are doing the same. So when you
meet someone and they're saying, they're
always saying, "Oh, I'm great. Life is good.
Look at me. Oh, you know, my kids are so
happy," whatever. Their kids are probably
at home doing crystal meth as they're
talking, but that doesn't matter because
they're trying to make this amazing
impression on you, because that's
unfortunately how most people are wired.
And yet, here you are, being someone who's
pretty authentic, you know, telling the
truth, so you're feeling like compared to
these other people, there's so much wrong
with you. The reality is, there's no way
to objectively compare yourself to other
people, so why not just stop doing it?
Stop comparing what you know about
yourself, which is the good and the bad
and all of that, right, to other people
where you're only seeing a thin slice of
the good. It's not cool, right? It's not
going to serve you. What it does is, it
puts other people on a pedestal. You're
constantly going to compare yourself in
situations where there's no way you can
win, the deck is stacked against you. And
that's going to make you feel crappy
about yourself. It's going to make
insecurities come up. It might damage
your confidence, and ultimately
confidence has a huge role in our
happiness in our success, whether it
comes to talk to members of the opposite
sex, starting their own business, going
traveling, just doing whatever we want to
do or creating an awesome life, we feel
insecure, that means we don't believe in
ourselves. And if you don't believe in
yourself, it's really hard to take a risk, again
talk to the cute boy or a girl, book
a trip to some sketchy country, start
your own business, do anything like that.
So, your confidence is so, so important,
and I think one of the biggest ways to
erode your confidence if somehow you
wanted to do that, is comparing your
insides, all your insecurities, everything
you know about yourself to other
people's outsides. So again, stop this,
don't do it anymore, please. Commit below
in the comments to stop comparing your
insides to other people's outside. It's
not helping anybody. And also, if you are
one of those people who always has to
put on a great face and hide all your
insecurities, first off, I hate you.
Secondly, why not share below in the
comments, a commitment to start being a
little more authentic, because when you
share your vulnerabilities with other
people it encourages them to open up and
share their vulnerabilities with you, and
it allows us all to have a more
realistic view of humanity to realize
we're all human. We all have fears and
insecurities and well, pretty screwed up
from time to time. So, why not share that
openly and get rid of all this garbage
we have about, you know,
being perfect and this need to have this
instagram culture, right, just snapshots
of our best selves. All right, that's Dan's
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