when watching people graduate university in movies or in the media,
it seems like this huge celebration and milestone, with people cheering and exaggerated happiness.
after all, it is a big deal, and shows off all the hard work you put into the past four years.
a couple of week go by and you realize with this sense of accomplishment also comes the
anxiety of uncertainty. what happens when something that you’ve known for the past 16
years of your life - education - just leaves your life? because school isn’t just school- it’s a
community for social interaction, a place to grow, and it’s an area that provides structure to your
life. “graduating symbolizes a leap into adult life, which is a huge transition” says Juli Fraga,
a psychologist based in San Fransisco. this apparent post graduating depression is only
exaggerated by social media. seeing the highlight reels of other recent graduates gives those who
may be struggling an out of proportion sense that everyone else has it all figured out already...
causing them to further isolate themselves. the rigidity of an average adult life, working the
regular 9-5 and the increasing pressure to just “get up and work”, also makes it difficult to
shape your life based on your interests; attending interest groups, playing sports, and enjoying time
with your friends. its common to jump at any job even one you’re not particularly interested in and
underpaid, just because you’re worries you might not find something else to pay off the immense
college debt. no matter if you’re struggling with this particular feeling, feeling lost
in general in life, or needing some motivation for a fresh start... just know you’re not alone.
take a pause and let yourself feel - drop the labels and judgement. feel the disappointment
and let go of the guilt. there can be a feeling of “this is just the way its supposed to be”...
but it doesn’t have to be that way. i came across this quote on pinterest the other day
“you can rise up from anything. you can completely recreate yourself. nothing is permanent. you’re
not stuck. you have choices. you can think new thoughts. you can learn something new.
you can create new habits. all that matters is that you decide today and never look back.
often times, whenever i don’t post on youtube one week, i think that its over... no one will
watch my videos when I come back, leading me to skip more and more weeks because I feel stuck.
i just ruined my once in a lifetime opportunity for my dream job and lifestyle.
but the reality is, the only thing stuck is my mindset.
close your eyes and visualize your dream life and your highest self. who is that person? what
do they smell like? what do they enjoy? do they like coffee or tea? how do they treat others?
think of people in your life that you admire and write down their positive characteristics.
notice the similarities they have with you, and characteristics that you may
work towards. create goals towards achieving the person you want to be even if it’s small.
many people have a plan about how life was going to go and what it’s going to be like. when things
might no go as planned, life might seem like a series of letdowns. some people may start
way ahead of others, some people may experience more hurdles. some people may even be gifted with
steroids that make them a lot faster than others lol. the collective consciousness teaches us that
when we get to the end of something, only then will we be happy, whole, complete, and successful.
only after i finish high school. only after i graduate university. only after i get
married. only after i have kids. only after I get my dream job… will i be fully happy.
it’s like constantly chasing a carrot that just slightly out of reach.
in reality, winning is stopping. going within. and finding happiness within yourself. obviously
easier said than done. i often feel myself running towards the next thing and the next accomplishment
because it avoids me having to look within and gives me a superficial sense of satisfaction
from feeling like I’ve done a lot. whereas I would be more content enjoying the process consciously,
rather than searching for the rush at the end. the biggest takeaway is realizing
there’s no race. you don’t have to be completely satisfied with everything
in order to enjoy the moment and be happy. what you’re searching for has been right here all along
hello guys. now let’s talk about chapter 3 and some personal goals and examples before my
camera dies because the power in my city has been out since literally yesterday after this huge
storm came and knocked down all the power lines so i dont have power i cant charge my devices,
i dont have wifi but i will find a way to upload this video for you guys,
okay uh my battery just died but i’m on my very last battery for who knows how long. it’s not a
surprise that I don’t have everything figured out either. and remember that everyone is different,
everyone has different goals but maybe these could give you some inspirations
1. i wanna make a greater effort to connect and hangout with friends because it’s easy to isolate
yourself and feeling lonely after leaving the bubble of school or university or even in the
summer because you’re not forced to hangout or see people every single day. but remember friendship goes
both ways so try reaching out as well 2. continue with the things I love to do and
not just throw it all away; for example I was really nervous but I forced myself to tryout for
a new soccer team and another field hockey team in the new city that isn’t like my university city,
and even though it’s always nerve wracking to join a new team i was really glad i did
it because it’s a new opportunity to meet other people while continuing sports that i really like
3. continuing to establish a routine for myself. while posting as often as i can, put my entire
effort into every single thing i put out in all of my content. I have some longer videos planned
because a lot of people having asking me to do a podcast but I kind of wanted to make it more
like video essay style so like you can have the choice of watching visuals on the screen but also
you had the choice of just listening it to it in the background if you want and also speaking
of podcasts I did go on my friend leah’s podcast I would link that and description
below we just talked a little bit about my life and stuff and also I did redownload tiktok too
and I've been posting almost every single day on there I missed posting on there so much and I left
in the first place because I found out that it was really toxic but over the past few months I think
I've gotten stronger and develop strategies where I can use it more healthily. Next to continue with
my career outside of socials if you didn't know I graduated with a bachelor of Health Sciences so
I'm continuing like doing research and that kind of work in the future I think I definitely want
to go back to grad school or medical school bonus rounds continue being consistent with my
workout routine including sports like roughly five times a week post on YouTube 1 to 2 times a week
post on Tik Tok everyday or every other day do skincare teeth hygiene and sunscreen on the daily
and then lastly wake up before 8 a.m. if you like this video please consider subscribing and liking
it would help me out so much let me know what some of your personal goals are character traits that
you would like to attain let me know what you think that you want your highest self to be and
any other video suggestion I will be posting so much more often I promise I promise you okay bye