churchill says there's no way to be a perfect mom but there's a million ways to be a good one
oh i like that i like that no matter how perfect you think you are you're not i think that's just
probably the the truth right there and we're but we're all going to do everything as unto
the lord right we're going to do our best try to be present every day in every way every time
you're together i think that's beautiful when you have jesus at the center he is the great balancer
god balances the universe he all the universes he's the one that has it all in order and all
together if i'm spending time with god the first people the overflow of that is going to
overflow to those closest to you and that is your husband and that is your children that's your home
that's your family and then it just spills out from there yeah and so i don't think we can ever
replace the time with god whether you're getting up at whatever stage in the morning
if you're laying there nursing your baby you're meditating on the good things of god
and once you magnify him everything else is just an outpour of his goodness and his
fullness it's like a tightrope you know in a tight rope you're never perfectly balanced walking
straight sometimes you're going to the right and sometimes you're going to left but i think the
holy spirit is the one that leads us in that and that's the one that leads our balance because i'm
not going to get it right and i also want my kids to know i don't get it right all the time either
you know i say my kids may not know everything but hopefully they know what repentance looks like
and admitting you know mommy messed up and i didn't do this right and will you forgive me and
i'm asking the lord to show me or i was relying on my own strength instead of god's strength and
that's why i responded in that way but teaching our kids that too of i will not be a perfect
mom but i can point you to a perfect father in all things and that's who we rely and that's who
leads us but i think when we think oh we'll we'll do this perfectly like i got this i think it's a
daily surrender of lord what is on my plate today what is the next thing that you've called me to do
and for you and maybe go on a football game one day one day it may be sitting down talking with
your precious girl maybe a day you're doing podcasts or speaking or whatever that is it's
what is before us today that we can give glory to god with being all in with what god's called us to
do yeah and there is the reality i mean we live in a world that we are balancing a lot of different
things and i always was you know very thankful to be a stay-at-home mom when my kids were younger
but i also know that is a huge privilege that is not most of the world for women
most of the world for women are having to take care of their family financially
either because they're a single mom or they live in a country that is more impoverished or in the
city that is more impoverished and so i know that was a huge blessing and so i think this balancing
of how do we take care of all of the things that are around us is an important conversation and so
what does that look like for you guys in balancing ministry pastor husband children grandchildren
jobs traveling how do you do it yeah i think in my world i can only speak from my own personal
experience in my generation i'm a gen x baby i i think millennials have more of the options of
like everything is kind of displayed out there and it's an option for you to pick up and add to
your life where in my generation it was a choice either or either be a stay-at-home mom or be a
marketplace woman either be a pastor or just be a stay-at-home mom you know that kind of thing
deep contrast and very much shamed into if you were pastoring leading um a marketplace
you know guru whatever you want to call yourself and motherhood it was almost like that's that's a
no-no or almost impossible like don't even desire that and so many conversations were had with me
with particular women that were if if i saw myself seeing myself preach the gospel
and have a baby in tow it was as if no you cannot do that that is not an option for you
the kids will suffer so the whole balancing act was never even a question so now that i see the
generations coming up they have more of a handle and freedom and at the same time i could see where
some of my decisions in my own family forced what the rhythms of my own life the rhythms of
grace in my own family what it required so i had four little ones under the age of two
if i birth them i need to i need to be hands on no one else is going to raise them for me
does that make sense so um if i wanted certain values certain precepts certain things that i want
instilled in their character in their mentality where they're at a place where i can leave them
you know you know step away from them and travel more then that's what balance would shift to so
those were the decisions i own but they were important decisions for my family and i in
looking back i don't have regrets for the things that i have chosen for my own particular family
because i could see the fruit of it in hindsight um but that that choice is left up to each person
but i am a you had to be intentional about it i i did but at the same time i'm not gonna
shame a woman right to make decisions if they decide to travel with a baby in tow that's just
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