What’s up ladies and gentlemen, it’s Brad Browning here… this is going to be a pretty
short video, but it’s one that I think a lot of you will find helpful, because it answers
a question I get asked all the time.
If you’re watching one of my videos for the first time, then hello and thanks for
tuning in.
As I said, I’m Brad Browning, I’m a relationship coach and breakup expert.
I’m known best for my best-selling Ex Factor program, which teaches readers how to win
back their ex and re-build a lasting relationship.
Learn more about me and my program at BreakupBrad.com.
For now, though, let’s move on to the topic at hand.
Should you tell your ex that you still love them?
On the surface, it seems simple… of course you should tell your ex how you feel if you
want to get back together with him or her, right?
Shouldn’t you explain to them how much you still care about how much your heart is aching
to get them back into your life?
It’s actually not as simple as it seems, though.
Most of the time, the answer to that question is actually NO.
Telling your ex that you still love them isn’t going to help you win them back.
It might make you feel better in the short term to get those feelings off your chest
and out in the open, but your ex is unlikely to change his or her mind… in fact, that
kind of stuff usually just makes things more complicated and hurts your chances of getting
back together.
In most cases, you do NOT want your ex to know that you want them back or that you’re
struggling to cope with the breakup.
On the contrary - you want your ex to think that you’re done with the relationship and
you’re moving on to bigger and better things.
You want to make sure your ex knows that you’re not a desperate, heartbroken loser… and
that if he or she won’t take you back, you’ll have no problem finding someone new to take
their place.
I know that may not be the truth, but giving off that impression is going to make you far
more attractive in the eyes of your ex.
It’s the opposite to what they’re expecting you to do, and it always makes them think
twice about their decision to break up, second guessing themselves and wondering if it might’ve
been a mistake to let someone like you walk out of their life.
I know this because I see this strategy work for my coaching clients on a daily basis,
and it’s worked for thousands of people from around the world who’ve signed up for
my Ex Factor program.
This isn’t really about playing mind games and trying to be dishonest with your ex.
This is just what you need to do if you want to change the perception that your ex has
of you.
If your ex broke up with you, there’s probably things that he or she didn’t like about
you or your relationship…
essentially, their attraction to you faded to the point where your ex decided that it
wasn’t worth staying together.
So now you need to help them forget about those doubts and re-focus on the positives…
you need him or her to begin chasing after you, deciding on their own that the breakup
was a bad idea after all.
Simply telling your ex you love them is absolutely not going to do that, and if anything it will
just make you seem needy or clingy when really you want to give off the opposite impression.
Sometimes, there are situations where you may need to say something to your ex before
you’ll be able to win them back.
Occasionally, for instance, an apology is necessary if you’ve done something to upset
your ex that contributed to the breakup.
If you’re in that kind of situation, you can explain the details to me I can personally
help you decide on the right course of action…
I will also be there to help you on an ongoing basis, whenever you need some advice or a
second opinion.
For more on working with me, visit my coaching page at www.BreakupBrad.com/Coaching… that’s
breakupbrad.com slash coaching.
So, in conclusion… should you tell your ex you still love them?
Should you spill your heart and send a love letter and a bouquet of roses?
In my experience, the answer is almost always no, you shouldn’t.
I know some of you may decide to go ahead and do it anyway, which is fine, just keep
in mind that it very well could hurt your chances of getting him or her back, so you’ll
have to decide if it’s worth the risk.
That’s it for this video, folks…
thanks very much for watching, and thanks for your comments as well…
I’m always interested to hear what you have to say, so as always please use the comments
below for your questions and feedback, I’ll try to respond to all the comments within
a day or two.
Lastly, please remember to watch the free video on my website for more help and tips
on winning back your ex… just go to www.BreakupBrad.com to watch the full video now.
Thanks and see you next time!