This is him trying to wake me up in the morning.
Hi, my loves.
Welcome back to Lavendaire.
Today, let's talk about the simplest way to change your life.
I know a lot of us wanna change our lives for the better,
but we also know that real change can take a lot of work and time.
Most change happens through consistent effort over time,
like building a new habit or working towards a big goal.
And we talk all about how to do that on my channel.
But today, I wanna talk about something simpler,
but still as effective.
Something immediate that you can do
to bring more joy, peace, and love into your life.
The quickest, simplest way to change your life is
to shift your perspective.
Your perspective is what you choose to see,
what you choose to focus on.
The keyword here is ‘choose’.
Most people don't realize that you have a choice
in how you perceive your life and your reality.
Your reality is subjective.
Sure, there are objective events that happen in the world,
but all of those events have to get processed in your mind.
The way you process an event is how you interpret it in your mind,
how you come to understand it.
Essentially, you are the filter for how you interpret your reality.
Once you understand that,
you'll realize that you can change your reality
by choosing how to shape your perspective.
Again, it's all about what you choose to see
and what you choose to focus on.
It's not the fix to all the world's problems,
but a shift in perspective can make the world of a difference
in how you see and feel about yourself and your life.
So, let's explore some ways we can shift our perspective
and find the blessings that already exist around us.
Shift #1: ‘what I lack’ to ‘what I have’.
We often feel low about ourselves
when we focus on what we lack--
whether it's money, looks, achievements
or anything we wish we had.
This gets compounded daily when we're exposed
to people's highlight reels on social media
and we fall into the comparison trap.
The more power we give to what others have that we don't have,
the more disempowered we become.
Instead of focusing on what you lack,
focus on what you have.
Stop comparing yourself to others,
because it's not a competition.
Make a list of the things that you do have in your life
and recognize how lucky you are to have those things
because not everyone has them.
Focusing on what you have and being grateful for it
is one of the quickest ways to shift
from feeling disempowered to empowered.
Shift #2: ‘what's going wrong in my life’ to ‘what's going right’.
Life is always throwing challenges and obstacles at us,
so it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and stressed
when we focus on all that's going wrong in our life.
Nobody's life is perfect
and each person is fighting their own battle.
That being said, you can learn to handle your own battles
with more grace and gratitude.
Instead of focusing all your energy and worries on what's going wrong,
choose to focus on what's going right.
Of course it doesn't erase the challenges,
but it can give you a brighter perspective on your life.
You realize that, although there are things going wrong,
there are also things that are going right,
and that is something you can be grateful for.
No matter how many challenges I'm experiencing
in my work and in my life,
I recognize that I also have so much going right in my life to be grateful for.
One of those things being the joy that Togi brings to my life.
Special thanks to The Farmer's Dog for sponsoring today's video.
It makes me so happy to see Togi happy
and I love how excited he gets for his meals.
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We made the switch about a couple months ago,
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This one's the Turkey meal.
You can really see pieces of Turkey, carrots, and greens in here.
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and it can be worth it in the long run.
I feel good knowing that I'm doing what I can
to give Togi a healthy, nutritious life.
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Shift #3: ‘every day is the same/boring’ to ‘finding something beautiful in every day’.
If you're someone who feels like every day is the same and life is kind of boring,
try challenging yourself to find something beautiful in every day.
The more you choose to see something,
the more that thing will be seen.
Instead of letting your day slip by in a monotone fashion,
focus on appreciating what's beautiful each day,
and you'll find that the world around you
will become more alive and vibrant.
Shift #4: ‘I'm not where I wanna be’ to ‘look how far I've come’.
Instead of feeling down or frustrated
because you're not where you wanna be
and you haven't achieved what you wanted,
look back at all the things that you did accomplish,
things that you weren't sure you could do before you did it.
See how far you've come and be proud of yourself.
This is learning to have gratitude for your journey and your growth.
If you don't understand this perspective shift,
you may become those people
who are never satisfied with themselves,
no matter how much they've done.
It's a curse to feel like you're never good enough
and you're not worthy enough to celebrate yourself.
The alternative is to see the version of reality
where you are good enough,
where you've already done so much
and you can celebrate yourself
no matter where you are in the journey.
The final one I'm sharing today is a huge one.
Shift #5: ‘what I can't control’ to ‘what I can control’.
When you focus on what you can't control,
you feel powerless and frustrated.
You wish you could do something about it,
but it's out of your control.
This could be over something as minuscule as getting caught in unexpected traffic,
or as major as being frustrated over the world's broken systems.
Instead of focusing on the things that you can't control,
shift your perspective to discover what are the things that you can control.
If you can't force traffic to move the way you'd like,
you can change the way you respond to it.
Instead of fueling your frustration,
you could put on some calming music
or listen to your favorite podcast
With the bigger problems like systemic issues,
don't focus on the huge issue at hand
because it could be so overwhelming,
plus you can't change it all at once.
Instead, focus on the small actions
that you can take in your everyday life
to work towards making progress,
to solving that big problem.
It's all about asking yourself,
“What can I do?”
“What can I change to make even the babiest step progress towards solving this problem?”
The more you learn to shift your focus,
the more you'll realize that there is so much
that is within your control.
And that is where your true power lies.
There are countless other ways you can shift your perspective,
but these are a good start.
On your own, start to explore all the ways
that you could shift your perspective
to create an impactful change in your life.
For example, from focusing on your ‘weaknesses’
to focusing on your ‘strengths’;
or focusing on ‘where you feel limited/restricted’
to focusing on ‘where you feel abundant and expansive’;
or from focusing on ‘what makes you feel small’
to focusing on ‘what makes you feel tall.’
As you can see, you can get as creative as you want.
There are no limits to how you can change your mindset and perspective,
just by making these simple shifts.
All right, my loves.
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And I'm sending you all so much love.
Bye~