Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we are going to learn about 7 confidence tricks
only alpha males know. Now, let’s begin
1. Fulfill Promises We all talk about our
goals and dreams, but only a small group of people actually follow through. If you want
to cultivate self-confidence like an alpha male, you need to prove to the world, and to yourself,
that your actions speak louder than your words. Otherwise, your dreams don’t mean much of
anything. No one, including you, will value the things you say or the commitments you make.
Not unless you genuinely believe in your ability to take action.
Every alpha male understands the confidence-boosting power of this psychological
trick. Day after day, alpha males find small ways to deliver on their promises and actualize their
ideas. When alpha personalities create goals, they don’t talk about them. They achieve them.
When alpha males make commitments, they don’t complain or make excuses. They follow through.
Little by little, alpha males strengthen the power of their word. They find value
in their personal promises, and they learn to take their dreams seriously.
If you want to develop unstoppable confidence, talk less and act more. Build your confidence
and self-esteem by proving to yourself that you can do anything you set your mind to. That may
mean chasing a promotion at work or finishing a personal project. You may want to connect with
someone new or improve your lifestyle. Whatever promises you make to yourself,
do everything you can to keep them. If you value your word above all else,
you’ll not only achieve your goals, but you’ll develop the confidence to push them further.
2. Lower Your Walls
Self-confidence is not something you develop all on your own. In fact,
some of the most confident people rely regularly on their friends, partners, and mentors.
Alpha males, for example, gain confidence by leaning on strong friendships and deep, trusting
bonds. In moments of doubt, they turn toward people who they trust and respect. They seek
advice, field different perspectives, and find strength in the support their friends provide.
Of course, not everyone has these trusting relationships to rely on during rough patches
and moments of weakness. In fact, many people feel like they are missing someone trustworthy in their
life — someone they can be truly vulnerable with. If you don’t have someone like this in your life,
there’s something important you need to remember. It’s not because you’re insecure,
unappealing, or unlikable. The reason you lack trustworthy people may be because you’re unwilling
to offer your trust to the people you meet. In other words, if you never lower your walls,
you may never build confidence-boosting connections. You may isolate yourself
from the world and maintain emotional distance from the people in your life.
It may take time, but you need to become accustomed to taking emotional risks. Alpha
males developed their strong connection by putting themselves in vulnerable positions
and believing in their ability to succeed. They dared to lower their walls, and when they
did… they discovered a world of opportunity. No matter how high you’ve built your walls,
it’s time to start bringing them down. If you want to build self-confidence, challenge yourself to
engage, bit by bit, with the world around you. It may feel like a risk. It may require a leap
of faith. But each new connection you build gives you the confidence to grow and improve.
3. Authenticity Over Fake Kindness Many guys pretend to be kind, considerate,
and altruistic, so that other people will give them something in return. In many cases,
they act nice, only because they expect to receive attention, gratitude, or praise.
For example, let’s say you compliment someone’s clothes. Are you saying something nice because
it’s really how you feel? Or are you fishing for a compliment of your own?
This manipulative social tactic is used by “nice guys” everywhere. Not only is it a
common sign of insecurity, but it’s a band-aid for a large, psychological problem. Receiving
attention or praise is never going to teach you how to be confident in yourself. You could be
praised every moment of the day, and you still would find reasons to doubt your abilities.
If you want to have the confidence of an alpha male, you need to concentrate on one thing
above all else: in every situation, stay true to your authentic self. That’s how alpha males make
such strong, confident impressions on the world around them. They’re honest about who they are,
how they think, and how they behave. They don’t filter their thoughts. They don’t fish
for compliments. And most of all, they don’t place harmful expectations on other people.
Because of this unwavering honesty, other people gravitate toward alpha personalities.
It’s comforting to know that someone doesn’t want or need anything from you. Every time they say or
do something nice, you know it’s genuine. You know it comes from the bottom of their hearts.
By expressing genuine kindness, you can embody the same confidence and security in your life.
Because you don’t need praise or attention to be confident. All you need is a strong sense of
who you are. Stay true to that person, and you will find enough confidence to last a lifetime.
4. Ignore Expectations In life, you will wear
many hats. You’ll fill many roles, take on many titles, and bear the burden of other people’s
expectations. But if you want to increase your self-confidence, you can’t allow those roles,
titles, and expectations to limit your growth. Alpha males think, act, and live outside the
box. In every situation, they find ways to express and protect their individuality. Because the only
thing an alpha male wants to be… is themselves. They could care less about titles, groups,
or social norms. Instead, they fight for what they want and ignore the expectations
of others. It’s not always an easy thing to do, but you will always be your most confident…
when you get to be yourself. 5. Laugh at Your Mistakes
People feel confident doing things they know how to do. On the flip side,
you may feel insecure attempting things you have never done before. For many people, the fear of
embarrassing themselves is strong enough to stop them from enjoying life’s many opportunities.
Many alpha males gain confidence in their mistakes. How? By learning to laugh at
themselves. They never take themselves too seriously, and they consistently see the
funny side of every embarrassing situation. They don’t mind being the butt of a joke
or letting their achievements go unnoticed. Alpha males can do this, because they don’t
rely on other people to reinforce their egos or defend their pride. They have a strong sense
of who they are, so they can accept their mistakes in ways many other people can’t.
If you want to build self-confidence, don’t take yourself so seriously. Whenever possible,
keep your ego in check and allow embarrassing moments to roll right off your skin. Ultimately,
there’s nothing shameful about making a mistake, as long as you can smile, laugh, and move forward.
6. Learn New Things Few things boost your confidence
like expanding your mind. Many alpha males are lifelong learners, who spend every day absorbing
new information and tackling new ideas. They are constantly curious about the world around them,
and that curiosity gives them a unique, confident perspective on the world.
Often, we feel unconfident because we expect ourselves to know everything. But if you
surrender those expectations and allow yourself to learn, something strange happens. Even though your
expertise declines, your confidence increases. You gain self-esteem, and you find the courage to take
intellectual risks. When there’s no pressure to be right, you’re not so afraid to be wrong.
So, let yourself off the hook. Don’t be an expert. Instead, be a lifelong learner. Be the person with
questions instead of answers. Not only will you develop confidence, but you’ll discover a world
full of new and exciting opportunities. 7. Enjoy the Present
When we feel insecure, we crave a sense of certainty. We rush toward the finish line because
we need something conclusive to ease our nerves. But, in these reckless moments of insecurity,
we often sabotage our goals, our relationships, and even our self-esteem. We don’t allow life
to take its course, simply because we’re desperate to feel like we are in control.
The term “alpha male” is often equated with a strong sense of control. But it’s control
that gives alpha males their unfaltering confidence. In fact, much of an alpha male’s
confidence comes from their ability to let go. To put it simply, taking control is not always
an option. In many situations, there is simply no way to know how things will play out. For
this reason, many alpha personalities wield an impressive tolerance for surprises and new
situations. They are flexible and confident in any environment, even if they don’t know what they’re
doing. Alpha males achieve this flexibility by letting go of the reins. They stay confident,
even when their plans fall through, because they know that life is best taken one step at a time.
If you want to be more confident, force yourself to slow down. Stop looking into the future and
start paying attention to the present. Because the obstacles directly in front of you aren’t as
challenging as you think. The more you live in the present, the easier it becomes to navigate
unknown situations. Soon, you’ll discover the confidence to steer through unfamiliar territory
and succeed despite the obstacles in your path. But how do you start wielding this kind of
confidence in your life? All of these ideas can be summed up into one simple trick,
which alpha males use time and time again. When you’re worried about the future or struggling to
stay in control, sit down, lean back, and take a big breath. In that moment, remind yourself
that there is only one thing you need to do. Enjoy the present, and the rest will come.
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