Hi, this is Ceema, well have you ever been in a situation where someone keeps talking
to you and you want to get out of the conversation? Now, I know, you might feel a little awkward,
a little rude because of having to get out of that conversation but I'm gonna show you,
a few ways, a few tips on how to get out of a conversation without having to feel rude
or awkward.
Okay, let's look at the first way of getting out or ending a conversation. The first thing
you have to remember when you want to end or get out of a conversation is to always
smile. In other words, you've got to look very friendly. So before you say anything,
before ending a conversation, ensure that you look friendly and you can only achieve
this by giving your best smile, right? And you do this so that, the person who you are
talking to, should feel that you have enjoyed having a conversation with them. You have
absolutely enjoyed talking to them. Okay, so the first tip is that always, always look
friendly by giving a really nice smile, okay.
The second tip in order to end or get out of a conversation is to make a positive comment
and give a reason. Now as we already saw, at the beginning, we don’t wanna sound rude.
So, therefore, we are going to make a positive comment about the person we are talking to.
Okay, it could be anything positive and then you are going to give a reason, as to why
you've gotta stop talking to them. So you could say something like, you're so funny
or you could say something like, I could talk to you all day. You’re so entertaining.
So give a couple of positive comments and then you can give your reason as to why you
should go. So you can say something like, you're so funny. I could keep talking to you
all day. However, I've got some errands to run or maybe I've got some household chores
to attend to, so I've gotta run. See you later, okay. Does that sound better? Because that
way, you don't sound rude because you've made a positive comment and you’ve given a very
valid reason as to why you've gotta stop talking, okay.
Alright then, the third way of successfully, and effectively getting out of a conversation
is to summarize whatever you've been talking about and then, informing the person you are
talking to about your next action. Okay, so what does summarize mean? Summarize is basically,
you know talking about the main points. So in a conversation you kind of talk about many
things, okay but summarizing is basically quickly discussing the main points you've
discussed, okay. So, maybe you and your work colleague, say you are working on a project
together at your job. So, you are going to do something for your boss. So, you can summarize
by saying, look, I'm going to prepare the reports and you are going to make the presentation,
that's the summary of whatever you have discussed and then you are going to inform your colleague
about the next action. So you can say that, okay, we are going to discuss the details
of the presentation next week. So, when you summarize, you basically tell the person that
have discussed whatever you wanted to or you have finished your discussion. Most meetings
and most debates always end with a summary of whatever you have spoken. That is another
way of telling that you have finished saying whatever you’ve wanted to say. So always
summarize the main points you've discussed and informed the other person of the next
action that you are going to take. Okay, the next way of getting out of a conversation
is giving a slight pause. Now you know a conversation can get quite tedious, can get excruciatingly
long, if you keep talking or if you keep listening to someone. So sometimes when you're saying
something, you’ve gotta give a slight pause because that indicates that you have nothing
more to say and after giving a slight pause, you can always, you know begin your statement
with words like, well or any way. So say, for example, you've been talking to your friend
about a trip you had taken with your partner and you’ve kind of you know spoken about
for a quite long time and you think that it's time to end that conversation. So you are
going to, give a slight pause after having spoken for quite a bit and then you can say,
well anyway, the kids need help with their homework. I’ve gotta go home. I'll see you
later or I'll catch up with you later. So, when you give a slight pause, it indicates
that, you have nothing more to say, which is an indication that, you're finished talking
and then you can start your statement by saying, well anyway, I've gotta do, whatever it is
that you want to do and kind of exit your conversation, okay.
The next and very important tip, if you wanna end a conversation is to always show respect
for the other person's time. Time is valuable for everybody, right? So if someone has taken
time out of their busy schedule to talk to you, you’ve gotta respect that, right? So
how do you respect the other person's time? Or do you show respect for the other person's
time? Well, you can use statements like, I don't want to keep
you or you could say something like, I'm sure you must be very busy. so, you know you are
in a conversation with your work colleague who may be runs a business and you wanna come
out of the conversation but to show that you respect your friend's time, you can say that,
well I'm sure you must be very busy, running a school or running your classes, I don't
wanna keep you. I’ve gotta go but I'll catch up with you some other time. So when you show
respect for someone else's time, you avoid being rude and getting out of a conversation
will not be so awkward for you anymore.
Okay and the last or the final bit that you might wanna kind of you know use when you
wanna get out a conversation is to express your regret and make future promises in order
to make sure that you can have future conversations, okay. Now how do you express your regret?
there are a few sentences you can use, you could say something like, I hate to tell you
this but my mom's waiting for me or I hate to tell you this but I’ve got a class to
attend to. So you're basically telling the person that you regret having to stop the
conversation. So that way you don't sound rude and it's not so awkward for you and once
you’ve done that, once you've expressed your regret. It’s very important to sometimes
make future promises. so after you’ve said that I hate to tell you this but I'm gonna
have to leave, you can say that, how about meeting next Tuesday for a cup of coffee?
You know or why don't you come over to my place tomorrow night and we shall have dinner
and talk about this some more. So, one more thing to remember is that, if you express
your regret and follow that up by making a promise, only make a promise if you are going
to keep it and only make a promise if you mean to actually speak or have a conversation
with that same person in the future.
Thank you so much for watching. I'm sure if you use these few tips, you will be able to
get out of a conversation without having to feel rude, awkward or sorry that you actually
have to come out of it. Well, I'll catch you with some more new videos until then, this
is me saying goodbye.