you know something I realized so as Lafe and I have been talking about why you we
wrote the book the dichotomy of leadership why we pick that topic and
what we've been saying is most of the questions that we would get asked would
be about the dichotomy of leadership that's completely true but I'll tell you
on top of that more important most of the answers that I give are that there's
a dichotomy in leadership and you need to be balanced that is what you even
today I got asked at camp hey Jocko I'm a white belt but I want to
be default aggressive but I also hear you tell me to relax all the time which
one is it what do you want me to do should I be default aggressive and get
after ya or you you tell me relax and I actually you know I say relax harder
right you relax harder which one do you want me to do and I said well luckily
and Leif's they're doing like luff luckily for this very reason laughs and
I just wrote a book called the dichotomy of leadership and there's a dichotomy
with aggression even though I say default aggressive and I say that's got
to be your mindset that's gotta be a default Buddhist you're gonna be
aggressive and you're gonna go get after it and there's a chapter in the book you
that doesn't mean that you run to your death right you have to balance that
with caution with with energy conservation with not wasting movement
on the mat with not wasting capital in business without burning bridges like
all those things you have to be balanced and that's why I think like you that's a
great way of putting it it's gonna it's gonna recalibrate and fix your brain yes
yes I've had a lot of these conversations would be little you know
okay because something cuz he's he's a different beast than I am I'm pretty I'm
pretty passive like like do your job do it right like I'll help any way I can
and that's just in general right like I'm there like I'm there I'm always on
contact me any time of day and some and some and so be littles in a leadership
position sometimes like Jaco says you ever get goes yeah oh oh yeah yes so the
chaco says thing in you know jungle says default aggressive Jocko says this
and the idea isn't that in your brain you're thinking Jocko says the if the
idea is that you you you rewire your brain so that innately you're saying
something and not thinking about what Jocko would say you know you want to
make it your own and that's a real ownership and we've talked about a
little bit of real ownership is that you're not just saying it but you're
understanding what you're saying and why you're saying it and the words are
coming not as a game but as truth because that's what you believe yeah
and that I think takes a long time for people I thought where you're going with
the Jacque Allah says is when when the subordinate uses your name to make
something happen right what exactly exactly hey well a joke was it this is
where we're gonna do things it's like okay well that's not if why do you need
to say that that's the same as saying I outrank you
that's the same as saying look exact you and you say we're gonna do it yeah hey
jock who said that's what he wants it doesn't make any sense
Jacques Allah said that's what he wants like you can't do that you can't do that
you can't use your boss's name as your authority right if what your boss has
told you to make it happen doesn't make sense and you can't explain why it makes
sense you need to go to back your boss and say hey boss I'm having some trouble
here can you explain to me why we're doing it this way so I can explain that
down the chain of command of the troops I know what's going on in the field and
you know what else is real important and valuable that I think I took away this
year is like the 70/30 the 80/20 the 90/10 if if if there's a decision that
needs to be made and someone else is 70 percent there and you're the leader and
in your mind you're 90 percent there what do you do you know all day long
take it over set and that has been a hard lesson for me