- He has not texted you for a couple of days
and you're getting really scared to lose him.
Well, don't be scared
as in this video, I will share with you eight reasons
why men respond to distance
and why they they actually start to pursue you
when you become distant.
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So without further ado,
the tip number one, give him a chance to miss you.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
and a lot of men realize their feelings for you
when they are not with you.
I would even say distance is fabulous
as it makes him realize
how he truly feels about you.
If he realizes that his feelings for you are strong,
will soon becoming after you
and sweeping you off your feet.
Number two, distance makes him wonder about you.
When he doesn't know what you are doing,
he starts to wonder about you.
This is good as it creates a bit of mystery and uncertainty.
Some women share with guys every single step that they take.
Even when we went to the shops to buy some milk
and bread and on the way back had to stop for petrol.
Ladies, this is boring.
If you have nothing interesting to say about,
perhaps don't say anything.
Then you will let him wonder
what you're thinking and what you're doing.
Rather than share your every single step
and keep him bored,
that is when he will be in touch with you,
asking more about you.
You will create some mystery and won't behave
as an open book.
Number three, and I would say this is a bit
of a unique tip.
Give him distance and encourage him
to hang out with his guy friends
when he is grumpy or starts to pick on you.
When a man starts to nag, complain
and looks irritated,
usually it is a sign of low testosterone
as this is a woman-like behavior.
When a man is on a low testosterone,
and behaves like a winy little girl,
he is not pleasant with you.
Same as when a woman is on a high testosterone
and acts all masculine.
So instead of getting offended
or getting involved in his mood swings or arguments,
encourage him to have some fun
with his guy friends.
Encourage him to hang out with his masculine friend John
or play some football or go to the gym, et cetera.
And do you know why men pick fights
when they are grumpy?
Because it raises their testosterone level
and makes them feel better.
And once he wins the fight, he feels really good.
Therefore, remove yourself.
If he's trying to cause an argument,
for example, why there is no milk in the fridge,
as arguing with him will not solve any problems.
And by behaving aggressively,
he will feel better at your expense.
Number four, distance will make you look like a challenge.
When you stay distant, you are behaving as a challenge.
You are not focusing on him,
putting him on a pedestal or obsessing over him.
When you behave as a challenge,
you become his goal.
Mean are go-getters, right?
They love challenges, games, competition.
Don't make it easy for him
by putting yourself on a plate
and obsessing over him.
Instead, focus on your path,
on your life, have goals and dreams
and see does he see enough value in you
to make an effort to conquer you?
It's actually a good way to test a man,
is he really into you?
A man who is truly into you
will come after you thinking of the ways
or strategies to conquer your heart.
A man who doesn't see your worth
or your value will just leave it.
And this is awesome as you will not be wasting your time.
Number five, when you give him distance,
he thinks about what he has done wrong.
If you're being distant
because he crossed a boundary, for example,
well, you're giving him time
to think about what he has done wrong.
And if he has real feelings for you,
the will reflect not only on what he did wrong
in that situation but what he has done wrong
in the whole dating or relationship.
And your distance boundary
will make him appreciate you more
and not overstep the boundaries the next time.
Number six, by distancing yourself,
you are giving him his freedom.
When you distance yourself from a guy,
he gets all the freedom.
He can do whatever he wants.
Hang out with his friends, travel, whatever.
Yet, when you have all the freedom
but all you can think is that one special person,
their freedom becomes not that fun anymore.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
Giving a man freedom within mutual respect and trust
makes him experience that,
see the reality and appreciate what he has.
Number seven, distancing yourself,
you show him that you trust him.
By giving a man distance
and not nagging, complaining or checking in on him,
you're showing him that you are secure and confident,
which is really attractive
and you're showing to him
that you respect his personal space and trust him.
By showing him trust,
you are honoring him and making him feel valuable.
Number eight, give him distance,
especially if he has problems.
Well, usually men just take distance themselves
when they have problems.
You don't give him distance,
he usually just pulls away automatically.
Why?
Well, men, unlike women, like to go to their cave
and sort out their problems by themselves
and offering him help
will most likely make him feel emasculated.
Whereas just leaving him to it
will show your trust and respect.
Ladies, if you would like to know the differences
between men and women,
I have a whole playlist on my YouTube channel.
You can find it somewhere here
but also, I would really recommend you
to read Dr. John Gray books
as he really breaks it down very well,
the differences between men and women.
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