- [Narrator] Hey Psych2Goers, welcome back.
Ever wondered what signifies in making one seem attractive?
Do you think you're not good-looking enough, smart enough,
or interesting enough for people to like?
Whoa, stop right there.
Chances are,
despite being able to rate others attractiveness,
you can't make accurate enough measures
of your own attractiveness.
Oh yes, truly.
And though it's only natural to wonder
what other people think of you
in terms of looks and personality,
sometimes your own self-doubts and insecurities
keep you from seeing just how much those around us
actually like and admire us.
So if you're one of those people
who have a bad habit of putting themselves down
and underestimating themselves,
then we are here to prove you wrong.
Here are seven signs to look out for
that mean people secretly find you attractive.
Number one.
They like to look at you.
Ever been the one to send longing stares at your crushes
while you think they aren't looking?
Or, have you been at the receiving end
of one of those dreamy gazes?
Chances are, if you have been,
you probably took it the wrong way,
because when people tend to stare at you
and pay special attention to you,
it makes you feel awkward and self-conscious,
so much so, that you start to wonder
if there's something weird about the way you look
or how you're dressed.
But if you notice people looking at you a lot,
it may be because they secretly find you attractive.
Aww.
Number two.
They enter your personal bubble.
Do they seem to have a problem
of always invading your personal space?
Are you annoyed when people take liberties
with your personal space?
Yeah.
But hey,
this doesn't necessarily have to mean something bad.
Whether they're good friends or just acquaintances,
people gravitate towards you a lot,
strangers sit close to you on the bus or the train,
people often greet you with hugs and warm touches,
and everyone you talk to you seems to lean in
and try to get as close as possible when you speak.
According to a study,
all of these examples are nonverbal cues
that signify romantic or platonic attraction.
Isn't that kinda sweet?
Number three.
They seem flustered by you.
Have you heard of good stress?
Wait, what, stress and good?
But here's the thing.
According to psychology,
feeling attraction towards another person
often triggers a feeling of good stress within us,
and this good stress
is what causes us to have nervous reactions
like fidgeting, stuttering, laughing a lot,
walking awkwardly, and stroking the back of our neck,
or feeling at a loss for words.
Sound familiar?
If people often seem flustered, nervous,
or intimidated by you,
it could very well be because they're attracted to you
and are trying their best to hide it.
How cute.
Number four.
They often come up to talk to you.
Are they constantly vying for your attention?
Do they always make a beeline for you
whenever they spot you out and about?
If so, are you reeled in effortlessly
by their witty and interesting conversation?
When we feel attracted to someone,
it makes us want to talk about them
and spend more time with them.
They wanna flirt with you, banter with you,
share stories with you, make you laugh and have fun,
interest in conversations with you.
How nice is that?
Number five.
They rarely compliment you.
Yeah, it sounds counter-intuitive, but hear me out.
In reality, when other people think you're attractive,
they'll rarely compliment you anymore.
Why?
Well, because they assume that everything good
that they find about you, you already know.
Did you dress up and in a cute new outfit today
or impress yourself by giving an important presentation?
Those who already find you attractive
will most likely just give you an apathetic acknowledgement,
like "You look nice" or "Oh, good for you," and nothing more
because they think that you're aware
of your own attractiveness
and don't need any reminding about it.
Number six.
They're surprised by your insecurities.
Absolutely.
They're caught off guard every time you talk yourself down
or open up about something you don't like about yourself.
This is because, from their point of view,
someone as attractive as you
shouldn't be insecure about anything.
Think about it.
Who's the most attractive person you know?
Do you think they have anything
they should feel insecure about?
No, right?
Well, the truth is everyone has insecurities
and struggles with self-esteem from time to time,
and attractive people aren't any different.
And number seven, they act extremely towards you.
Finally, but perhaps most importantly,
if you are an attractive person,
people may display a more positive
or negative attitude towards you than they normally would.
Some people may become nicer and more polite,
offering to do favors for you
or be more understanding of your mistakes for example,
while others may feel jealous, insecure,
and resentful of your attractiveness,
and so, feel like they have to compete with you
for everything and tear you down
by criticizing you or gossiping about you.
Yikes!
Focusing too much on all of your flaws and shortcomings
keeps you from seeing all of the things
that make you wonderful, great, and unique.
So it sure would help
to take a page from everyone else's book
and start to look at yourself
through your most admirable qualities and characteristics
a little more often.
We hope we were able to give you insight
into some of the signs
that you can tell if someone finds you attractive.
What do you think?
Did we crack the code?
Do any of these describe your experiences?
Are you starting to realize
that people may find you more attractive than they let on?
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