now a lot of women think that men are just like light switches and that might be true when it
comes to the bedroom but you know what I too have feelings and if you've just started hanging out
with a new guy before you get to that level in the bedroom let's build some emotional attraction
first and what does that mean let's basically turn them on up here before we go any further because
we already know if he's already pursuing you he's likely already turned on in other ways so in this
video I share four really strange kind of weird ways to turn a guy on emotionally and at the end
of this video I'm gonna share one common way that women try to do this that can actually ruin your
life so keep watching [Music] hey there my name is Adam lodolce I'm the founder of lovestrategies.com
where we help successful single women get out there and attract long-lasting love and do it
with a proven strategy now having been doing this for so long and works with so many clients we
know that most of our clients when it comes to attracting love they don't want anything short
term we want something that is going to last not just for the next 10 days not for the next
10 months but for the next 10 20 years in the future and if that's the type of relationship
that you want then it's important to start off a new connection the right way let's focus our
energy on building that emotional attraction that emotional connection before turning a guy on in
other ways so here's exactly how to do that for starters withhold intimacy until you've built that
emotional connection long story short as humans we value what it is that we work for and the easiest
way to build that value and position yourself is that high value woman is to slow things down in
the bedroom until you've just gotten to know the guy and you built that real connection you built
a little bit of a friendship so as I was thinking about this I remember this moment that happened
about 10 years ago okay long before I met Jessica and I went to this event and I met a woman there
and I was absolutely just blown away I mean she was charismatic she was beautiful we had a lot
in common and I was really really excited to get to know her further so I asked her out I got her
phone number and she was open to that and I took her out maybe two or three nights later and I
remember when we sat down the date went for maybe about 10 15 minutes and it was awesome like I was
really into it and she looks at me and she pauses and she says look can we skip all this whole
thing and go back to your place I like to look for sexual compatibility before really getting
to know someone my jaw dropped to the floor I I'm not the type of guy that this happens
to okay this is an unusual situation for me and I remember just being completely thrown off my
balance here I didn't know what to do it was like one of those moments that like a man has always
we always desire this like in the movies we want this to happen but the moment that this actually
happened to me it kind of killed the vibe it was kind of like there was tension between the two
of us I was enjoying getting to know her getting to know each other and then she just kind of cut
the tension immediately needless to say honestly it didn't go any further from that point and it
just kind of killed the whole conversation at that point honestly I really wasn't that into
it she no longer was really that into it and uh yeah it just didn't work out so at the end
of the day building an emotional connection with someone before it gets physically intimate is not
only a great way to keep guys pursuing you but it's also just a healthy way to date and if you
want some more weird stories like that into my past my best dating life then please give this
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next way to turn a guy on an emotional level is to change your voice tonality to a little bit
more soft and sensual now if you're like many of my clients who struggle to attract that kind
of masculine man that you're looking for that dominant take charge guy then it's possible you
may need to learn how to step a little bit into your feminine because ultimately masculine men
who lean into their masculine tend to be more attracted to women who lean into their feminine
and ultimately one of the quickest ways to lean into your feminine is listening to your voice
tonality and being aware of your voice tonality even think of the way that I'm speaking right
now imagine if I was talking like this are there any other ways I could be speaking that would be
certainly less masculine and one of the things I certainly worked on when I started dating myself
is being aware of my voice tonality when I was meeting women and same goes for you if you're
meeting a guy learning to be a little bit softer and a little bit more sensual as you're conversing
with guys it's going to build that kind of emotional connection and the thing that I
think a lot of people lose sight of when you're dating and going out and meeting new people we
lose sight of this one idea that is that the words that you actually say that come out of your mouth
it matters way less than the way that you say it all right imagine if I was just talking right now
and my body language my voice tonality was very flat imagine if I said the words you say matter
way less than how you say it versus the words you say matter way less than how you say it so notice
it's your voice tonality as well as your delivery and these are all things that you can work on and
actually change pretty instantaneously and here's the thing many of our clients they are that alpha
female type that just like they walk into the boardroom and they absolutely run [ __ ] and
they struggle with this idea of stepping into their feminine because they subconsciously or
consciously believe that feminine energy is weak energy and I'm here to tell you that through the
dating process feminine energy is actually the most powerful energy in the process you're the
one who leans back and you decide who's right for you and just the small shift of changing
your voice tonality can be extremely powerful to build that connection with that masculine man
that you're looking for another strategy that you can use to build that emotional connection turn a
guy on emotionally is to ask a guy for advice I had a client the other day and she is one of
those super Alpha females that I was just talking about and she's a chief software engineer one of
the top Silicon Valley companies of course I'm not going to say which one and she had a guy that she
was talking to but she could feel he was kind of slipping away and she felt like she was falling
into her old patterns of being that kind of like take charge masculine type when it came to dating
and based on her actions up to that point the way she described them I got the feeling as well that
she went into that Alpha mode have you ever gone to that Alpha mode leave a comment below so what
I told her to do is at this point just go ask him for some advice and she says what are you talking
about asking for advice what type of I don't need any advice from him so I said well okay
do you want to feel wanted by this guy I asked her do you want to feel wanted by him she said
yeah I do want to feel wanted but of course I do and I said great well he needs to feel needed by
you and it's not that men are intimidated by successful women and I mean of course some men
are intimidated by successful women but most guys just need to feel needed in a connection and one
of the easiest ways to engage someone emotionally is just to ask them for some advice it could be
life advice it could be even professional advice although I probably wouldn't recommend that in
many cases I had a client the other day who was talking to a guy and she was asking for
advice on where she should move like what's a good neighborhood hey I just want to run something by
you have a quick question what do you think is the best neighborhood in in town for me to move
I'm just I'm kind of exploring different areas and when you ask a guy for advice you're going to see
instantaneously his chess is going to go up and he's gonna feel needed he's going to lean into the
conversation and he's going to want to guide you after that process and it's an easy way to appeal
to his kind of like Hunter masculine side that just needs to feel needed by a woman and the final
way to connect with a guy on an emotional level is to just get out of the house and try something
new together newness creates naughtiness when you and your guy go on a new experience together and
it could be something as basic as just traveling to a new local city or even just walking around
town as if you are just a person traveling in your city when you have a new experience with a person
and it's a fun experience or it's an exciting experience when you have that experience a lot
of people will associate that experience and that good feeling they get during that experience with
the person they're experiencing it with so if you go on an experience with him maybe it's
exciting maybe it's a bike ride maybe it's a walk throughout your city if you want to take it to the
extreme let's say you go skydiving together okay that's in the total extreme when you go on some
some experience together and it's new and it's exciting he's going to now associate that with you
and this is a powerful way of just reconnecting on a deep emotional level and I call these emotional
experiences and our clients once they go on maybe two or three dates with a guy I highly recommend
them actually organizing an emotional experience with their guy it could be rock climbing I had a
client the other day who went rock climbing at a rock climbing gym with her guy she'd never done
it before he'd never done it before it created that Adrenaline Rush when they got to the top of
the Rocks together and they had so much fun and it just deepened that Bond notice doing things like
this are going to build that emotional connection and that emotional intimacy before it even gets
physically intimate and notice how much more that will create that Bond and I typically recommend
that when our clients get to what I call Little of Step number four where we're going on dates
and meeting lots of guys and that's little left step number four out of our seven little love
steps and if you want to learn all seven little love steps you can watch the training it's fully
interactive you're going to really enjoy it we'll leave it in the description or you can just go to
lovestrategies.com and now finally as promised at the beginning of the video there's one thing
that a lot of women will do to turn a guy on whether it's emotionally or physically but I
do not recommend you do it because in fact this can actually ruin your life if you do this do
not and I repeat do not ever send a guy a picture that you wouldn't want posted publicly on social
media I don't care if it's a little bit overtly sexual or if it's fully nude or if it doesn't
have your face in it whatever if you wouldn't want it seen by your entire world don't send it
to a guy can't tell you how many horror stories I've heard over the years of women sending guys
kind of scandalous pictures and then they got out and it once a picture like that gets out
it can't un get out thank you so much for watching I'll speak to you next week bye