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This is a very unusual place for me to be doing a video because I'm in my car right now
But I'm actually waiting at my son's school to get him and I was just reading some comments
so I thought I was like
You know what there is definitely a topic in a couple of these comments that I was reading
And so I wanted to kind of make a video on
the difference between
Our subconscious mind our conscious mind
critical thinking or logical thinking and emotional thinking so when I talk a lot about self parenting self parenting is basically the process of
Being emotionally mentally healthy. It's the process of learning how to
go through life go through experiences go through challenges and
basically coach ourselves be our own therapy how to
really learn how to love ourselves through our thoughts because our thoughts are really everything if you're depressed if you're anxious if you're unmotivated,
If you're procrastinating if you feel like you don't have enough confidence
all of those things have to do with the thoughts that you think so in order to
Really get your thoughts and check where you were the healthiest person you can be
You have to know number one where your wounds what are the insecurities that you have? What are your triggers?
What does your tape sounds like what does your tapes sound? Like what is your story?
Basically, your story is the the negative stuff that you tell yourself every single day. Where does that negative stuff come from?
Well, maybe it comes from an experience that you had in childhood. Maybe it comes from so your husband of 25 years left you and
Emotionally abused you sorry planes going by
Emotionally abused you through the course of that relationship. And so now you have a lot of insecurities within yourself because this person every day
whether blatantly or
you know under the rug with little jabs here and there and dwindled your self-esteem and your
Self-confidence until it was so low. So really learning about yourself and your past is so so important. Let's get back into our mind
so in our mind, we basically have two sides of our
Mind we have our conscious mind and we have our subconscious mind
your subconscious mind is the part of your mind brain that basically is where all of your
Programming is so who you are as a person your value your beliefs your emotions
How you react?
Memory long-term memory is stored there so pretty much
95% of your day-to-day life is controlled by your subconscious mind
that's why you can get into your car and drive to work and not have to consciously think about where you're going because now
You have gone there so many times and the repetition of going there
So many times then created a programming in your subconscious mind that you know how to get there without even
logically thinking or consciously thinking
then we have our conscious mind our conscious mind just to make this very easy and not get into too much like
psychology and stuff like that is basically we'll just say it's critical thinking it's where you logically are able to think so if I
Say a story to you
You know, I don't think I can climb that tree and I really really believe it
so we the thought that you have when you back that thought up with emotion belief a
Feeling like I said an emotion then the thought that you are thinking begins to feel
Really real because you had a thought and you backed it up with all of that emotion and the emotion
Is what caused the thought to keep pushing it forward to be believable?
Now if you have a thought and when the thought comes in instead of going to old
Programming your subconscious mind, which will just again simple. Terms are just going to be very simple with us
Instead of having this thought and going to your subconscious mind and having all of this feeling go into that thought where it becomes
believable and you just run with it if when you had a thought
Let's say you could do this with every thought which is pretty much impossible because we have so many every single day
but if you had a thought and
You challenged the thought by logically thinking about this thought
No emotion a tied to the thought just logically does this thought make sense?
You would never attach a motion to it because a lot of thoughts that we have are not logical they're emotional
So because they come from our subconscious mind they come from programming
so now if you're going about life or say for example
I'll use this example if you're talking to a friend and he or she is going through
Experience right? Let's just say there they're getting divorced and they are having this thought of like, oh god what if I die alone and
Or anyone's talking to you about anything that they're going on that's going on in their life right now
And they're really struggling with this thought or this fear the stress or whatever
You're not emotionally in the thought with them you are on the outside looking in so you don't have any
Emotion to what's going on with this thought what's going on in their mind? Because you're not living the thought like how they are
That's why when we hear someone tell a story
We can logically give them advice and say well that doesn't make sense because blah blah blah because we're not emotionally in it
So a lot of mental health and learning how to be mentally healthy and emotionally healthy is learning how your thoughts work and not attaching
emotion to every single thought that you have
That is a practice
That is a skill that you must learn in order to start detaching from thoughts so you can begin
Reprogramming the negative self-talk the garbage that you tell yourself day in and day out
Because a lot of the fears that you have a lot of the stress that you carry with yourself if you were not
Emotionally in it and we're able to take a step back
You would realize that a lot of the stuff that we dwell on think about stress about fear is very not logical
right and
Nine times out of ten is probably not going to happen
So when you start to kind of approach your mind from that angle you begin to practice the process of self parenting in this process
which I like to call self parenting or life skills or
Either of those things work is a process because there's layers to this. It's not just okay
I'm gonna see a thought and okay
I can logically think and not use any
Emotion that's kind of hard to do because you're human you have an ego and you do have wounds the more you practice
Self-awareness the more you practice being mindful of your thoughts the more you practice
Detaching from thoughts and challenging thoughts you begin to reprogram your mind because you're becoming more conscious
Every single day versus just living life and when people say well this person's very unconscious
They're very unaware. They're going on autopilot
that's because
Majority of our day. Our minds our lives are controlled by our subconscious programming
So in order to really change that you have to start by first challenging your thoughts
Challenging your thoughts detaching from thoughts and using more logical thinking so emotional thinking I think we all know what that looks like
It's oh my god. What if oh my god? No, no fear. Oh my god. Is this true?
What if this what if like there's all emotion that's attached to that the what ifs the oh no
The what if this happens what if they don't like me what are people gonna think all of that stuff?
that's an emotional kind of thought a logical thought is more of a knowing of a fact of
I don't want to say even a fact because we don't know if someone's gonna like like us but it's more of a
confident knowing
Than an emotional thought that we're thinking and like I said the emotional thought is more of that
What if so, I hope that kind of has helped you understand the difference between your mind the way you think and really start understanding
The process of self parenting really understanding the process of okay. I need to learn how to take care of myself every single day
That's why I always say you need to wake up every single day and ask yourself
How do I feel what do I need in this moment? What do I need today?
Because every single day is going to be completely different on what you need what you're going through how you're feeling the more you have
Inner conversations with yourself the more you stay connected to yourself the more, you know
What is really going on the more you take responsibility for?
everything that
You feel regardless of what someone does to you
Allows you to really start healing and really start programming
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