you say jiu-jitsu makes you humble why do some jiu-jitsu instructors and many
jiu-jitsu practitioners act like complete arrogant jerk oh yeah
that's a good one that's a great question and we haven't really talked
about and we talked about I don't think we've talked about that now I've talked
about how some like is there's bad there's bad apples in the jiu-jitsu
community for sure but the way that the way that I talk about the jiu-jitsu in
the way we talk about it like everybody that does jiu-jitsu should be some
Buddha like enlightened being at one with the universe and totally free of
any ego right because that's what we talked about jiu-jitsu but like I said
I've talked about the fact that there's definitely bad people in jiu-jitsu and
that's why you need to be careful when you're you know jiu-jitsu should not be
a cult you you you should not be worshiping your instructor your
instructor is a human being there's been jiu-jitsu people that have been wrapped
up in all kinds of terrible stuff that every kind of crime you can imagine so
again just like a person to military just like a seal just like being in the
SEAL Teams doesn't make you a good person it applies to everything else
jiu-jitsu just because you do jiu-jitsu does because you're a black belt in
jujitsu doesn't make you a good person yeah like here's a quote just because
you're a priest doesn't mean you're a good person there's plenty of malevolent
people out there that wear the cloth of God but actually practice the work of
Satan so you have to apply that rule to everything and it's definitely the same
with jiu-jitsu and jiu-jitsu you do too as a power it's a position of power
right when you're good at it you have some power over other people and some
people are going to abuse that power if you have the right mindset jiu-jitsu is
extremely humbling because you realize that what you realize when you do
jiu-jitsu is that you can be beat by other people that's what you realize and
and it for the most part as a broad generalization if another human has been
training longer than you they can beat you and this is especially
in the beginning of jiu-jitsu right once you have once you get further along it's
it that that gap closes up but in general if someone's been training six
months and you've been training one you're gonna get beat there's very few
exceptions to that if you've been training for a year and someone's been
training for one month you're gonna beat that person that's been training for
months that's just and there that covers a huge that covers all kinds of weight
classes and an athletic ability and all that stuff a great athlete tonal stud
can we have you been training for one month and you got someone there to learn
someone that's been training for a year year and a half it's gonna be a problem
so if you realize that when you start that makes you humble and if you
remember that as you get better it will keep you humble
if you don't forget that but what happens is sometimes people forget that
it's jiu-jitsu that gives them the power to submit other people and it's not
their power right it's not their power they believe that they are the power of
jiu-jitsu they think it's them and so they think they're better than anyone
else and that what that is is that's arrogance that's what it is and it's
ugly and I think really if I was to drill down I would say it's caused by
people that are number one insecure right they're insecure so they just they
get this thing that they're that they can dominate other people and they they
relish it or you know also people that are just like not that smart right yeah
they don't realize they don't they don't put two and two together that like oh
the reason I'm better the reason I can choke this person is because I've been
training longer than them that doesn't make me a better human being yeah it
just means I'm better at this one aspect of being a human being so I would say
those are yeah those are those are some of the reasons and if you end up at a
school where people are arrogant just don't train there go to your different
school yeah it's like the only school option you have
and if it's getting in your way I mean because there's a difference let's face
it like being arrogant is kind of strong but you know being not humble in these
teeny tiny little ways you know you run into that all the time just these small
ways but still within the jiu-jitsu community though you know so you know
this guy may always talk about how good his triangle choke is or anything like
this you know and that's not to mention like it's not offensive though yeah
exactly is it no I'm not offended by that I probably tell ya you do have a
good yeah but you know how guys will brag and you know be like oh this
tournament I don't know something like that it doesn't scream humble you know
it doesn't yeah so maybe like that expectation
whatever okay I think he kind of got to make a concession for those sorts of
things yes yeah absolutely like you know this
is something I talk about it's a dichotomy leadership it's a dichotomy of
the ego right yeah you don't want to go to a school where no one cares if they
go into loses you want to go to scale like where hey when we train here we're
training to beat each other like we're training to win yeah there was you and
your half years ego on the map for sure my egos on the map I don't like to lose
it don't like to tap but don't lean it looks like great yeah but I mean at the
same time I love the tap because that means I'm learning but you don't so
that's that's acceptable like that's of course yeah you want to
train a place where there's competitiveness in the school yeah but
this is totally different this is you know when you get people that are just
airing error and they're definitely out there you know but most of them I don't
know I don't say most that's the way it should be
they haven't learned you too correctly yeah that's not what you Jitsu is meant
to be I think you're 100% right when you say it's like an insecure person and not
the kind like broking insecure it's just you don't like someone who think
security you know someone comes in like especially if you're in like a certain
type of instructor and you're used to like everyone just listening to every
word you say and then I don't know a student or someone comes with something
different than what you said or the opposite of what you said or something
that kind of indicates that what you said isn't hundred percent correct it's
like boom you're gonna defend that little position that you've kind of
grown accustomed to you know if you're even a little bit insecure you can at
least have those feelings so and it's interesting how that even that this
jiu-jitsu once again reflects leadership in life if you get a guy if you
instructor that gets shown a move but it's not his move and he gets mad about
it yeah like your respect for the instructor goes down it doesn't go up
you know if you get a guy that goes wow that's awesome let me see that again let
me learn that let me incorporate that in my game that's a great thing thanks for
showing me yeah you respect for that teacher goes up yeah because you
recognize that they're Humboldt that they're evolving that they want to learn
that they have an open mind which is what you want to see in your leaders and
in your digital instructors