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hey welcome back for another episode of porn brain to rewire the podcast I'm Dr Trish Lee and today
I'm really excited to debunk and demystify the six most common myths about porn news I want to
tell you today what you need to hear about porn opposed to what you want to hear about porn and
that's the layout for today at the end of this episode I am going to give you your brain hack
strategy for the day so that you can quit porn for good and ride off into the sunset with a
honey that you have a lot of actual sex with okay number one is that porn is good for you
I know so many men that I work with they want to hear porn is fine for me but the science
shows that porn damages your brain and it impacts your life in such negative ways number one way
is arousal dysfunction which can lead to anxiety and depression and sexual arousal dysfunction
that leads to erectile dysfunction premature and delayed ejaculation porn messes with your
brain your mind and your body okay let's move on to number two porn is fine in moderation and I
hear that a lot okay you know my porn habit got out of control in the past but isn't it okay for
me to go back to porn in moderation so when we think about porn in that way the answer is no
porn is not fine in moderation and we're gonna put a caveat but this is for most people especially if
you have had a compulsive pornography Habit in the past if your brain goes back to porn
it will tend to binge and tend to want those high levels of dopamine that it used to get
so moderation is not usually a thing for people who have had a compulsive porn habit I've heard
this so many times it's the hijacker in your brain you might tell yourself oh I'm just going
to test myself that's the hijacker talking if you hear the hijacker tell you I'm just going to test
myself and see if I can just look at a little porn you might be able to pull it off that time but it
usually leads you to the slippery slope back into a full-blown compulsive porn habit 46.9 percent of
porn users demonstrate escalation Behavior okay number three is a really good one let's dig into
this one because I'm excited to share it with you corn spices up my sex life first of all porn is
unhealthy sexuality not healthy sexuality there is an increase in objectification in dehumanization
of other people mostly men of women meaning that if you watch porn women are treated violently
they're treated like objects for a man's pleasure their studies that show that men who consume porn
are more likely to commit sexual violence and if they see it being committed they're less
likely to intervene so you know is it spicing up your sex life probably not it's making you
objectify your partner use that partner for high levels of dopamine not for serotonin and oxytocin
which are the neurotransmitters of connection and of Happiness so the number one thing that
is gonna make it so your marriage suffers is porn so if you're married or if you're thinking about
getting married I want you to know that porn does not splice up your sex life it makes you
less satisfied with your partner and it has the highest likelihood of killing your relationship
let's move on to number four number four is that this is the myth number four is that porn does not
impact your interactions and how you approach women a healthy women healthy women will not
like being approached that way so if you're in an unhealthy sexual position in your mind and
your body compulsive sexual behavior disorder in your brain and you approach an emotionally
healthy woman she's not going to take highly to the way you're interacting because porn does
change the way you interact but it'll also give you social anxiety and it also gives you shame
number five is porn is not related to all of these conditions you might be struggling with attention
and focus or adult ADHD another myth is that porn is not related to your anxiety and depression it
in fact is you feel anxious because your brain's running too fast you feel depressed because your
brain's running too slow or has lowered its power so porn in fact is at the core of many people's
anxiety and definitely their depression one quick reason you've probably heard me say this before
is that there's a 4D dopamine cycle associated with porn use that last D is a dopamine deficit
in your life you no longer get the dopamine from your life that you would if you weren't watching
porn that creates anxiety and depression this is real and I know you're not associating your
anxiety and depression with porn because it feels good in the moment but in the moment it's creating
all the other moments where you feel bad you might not also associate your porn habit with
lack of motivation or you used to love your work and now you feel apathy towards it you feel ho-hum
you might not associate porn use with feeling angry and irritable think dopamine deficit it's
the same it's the same causality there you might also not connect the dots with your porn use and
your erectile dysfunction I'm telling you the dots are real it's proven by science okay let's move on
to number six I could quit porn if I really wanted to now this one personally breaks my heart because
I know how many men try to quit porn and how very difficult it is so they convince themselves that
they don't want to quit porn and it's not because they don't want to it's because it's so damn hard
it can be really difficult to leave a dependency your brain is dependent upon porn for the way it
makes your brain feel from the dopamine release from the tolerance building from the escalation of
a habit that's probably developed since you were around 10. we might be talking five years we might
be talking 10 years we might be talking Decades of dependency on this 4D dopamine cycle of porn so if
you want to quit porn you totally can but it might be challenging up front and you know I really have
been thinking about this because my 90-day digital program is the solution for people who want to
tackle porn use by themselves get into the 90-day program it has all the tools techniques it teaches
you how to use brain training it's me walking you through lessons every single day for 90
days if you do that if you're able to do that by yourself you will come out 90 days later in a much
better position either completely free from the shackles of porn or you will understand the last
few things that are really challenging challenging for you you'll be in a different state and so many
people make it through that program by themselves and they rock it out and they move on to a new
existence in that program I offer quarterly coaching sessions to the group Zach Carter
offers you a personal coaching session okay now moving on to your brain hack strategy for the day
this is a simple one get your notebook out get your Journal out get your fancy pen out and I want
you to think about these six myths and I want you to think about is the hijacker convincing you some
of these myths are true so here we go number one is that porn is good for you so this I'm going to
do it in your in a in a first person porn is good for me I need porn because I have a high libido
we've already debunked that so I want you to think about it number two porn's fine in moderation
has the hijacker tried to convince you of that number three porn spicing up my sex life
we've already established that is not true number four is that if if
I'm having difficulty with women porn has nothing to do with it and we know if you
have difficulty with your partner or finding a honey porn has everything to do with it
number five is that porn is not related to my attention and focus issues to my ADHD to
my anxiety to my depression to my motivation to my apathy towards my job to my anger to my
irritability to my erectile dysfunction don't kid yourself porns just completely wrapped up
in all of those things and lastly number six is if I wanted a quick porn I really could I
would have done it already don't kid yourself don't let the hijacker convince you that these
things are true and that's why you're continuing to watch porn you're likely continuing to watch
porn because it's just so damn hard to stop so get the right help so we can move you through
until next time control your brain or it will control you I'll see you next time on the podcast
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