- So let's look at the feelings that you've been
walking around with that resulted in a five-page
bullet point letter.
So here, my first interaction with Misha--
when she left me, she spoke to me in an English accent,
and that seemed odd to me.
And that made me feel what?
What did that make me feel?
Superficial, like it was like--
it was-- to me, it was-- it felt fake.
Did you get superficial off the feeling list?
Yeah, yeah.
And there were some words that--
It felt superficial.
Which is a judgment.
Are you aware of that?
Uh, you asked me to name it.
I get it.
Yes.
How did it make you feel?
OK.
But what you came back with is you felt that what she did
was superficial, as opposed to what it felt like in you.
OK.
You made the feeling about her.
OK.
That wasn't your feeling.
That was your judgment about what she did.
You felt it was superficial.
So you name it different because for me, it
was like, I was just surprised.
But you didn't know her.
How do you know she didn't have an English accent?
Because she was in my house for over two hours.
So what?
What if now I start to talk to you like this?
Never come to you that I come from the Caribbean.
Because I don't speak like this all the time
doesn't mean that I can't do it if I need to do it.
OK.
It don't feel superficial to me.
And you don't get to judge it and make me wrong
because you don't understand.
OK.
That's all I'm saying.
How do you know?
Yes.
You didn't know her.
You met her for the first time.
Yes.
It's called a judgment.
Let's come down here.
I think her, Lashonda's, lifestyle.
No, I did not talk about her lifestyle.
Excuse me.
Here's the quote.
OK.
I got the quote.
Let me finish it.
I think Lashonda's lifestyle and my lifestyle
are a bit different.
I think she probably likes to go to the beauty shop.
I prefer to ride my horses.
Why is that lifestyle difference?
The question was if I ever approached
her if we would do something together
or how often I see her.
Therefore, I said--
The answer to that would have been yes or no.
OK.
Do you ever approach her to do things together?
Yeah.
And how often do you see her?
Once a month.
That's the answer to the question.
I didn't know that there is a pre-set answer.
No, sorry.
That wasn't pre-set.
Yeah.
You don't answer the questions that are presented.
OK.
You have a tendency to do that.
You make up what you think you're supposed to say.
The question was, do you and Lashonda do things together?
I would say seldom.
OK, seldom.
I'll accept that as an answer.
OK.
And the other question was, how
often do you see each other?
Maybe twice a year.
That's the answer.
How did we get from that to, I think
our lifestyles are different?
That is not the answer to the question.
This is a judgment based on your perceptions.
For me, it was not a judgment.
I'm telling you it is.
You want to get to the root of the problem?
Yes.
Ms. Rita, you are judgmental.
OK.
And you project your judgments on other people--
OK.
--as though they are the gospel truth.
That's the root.
And you know why you're judgmental, Ms. Rita?
Give me your hand, Umi.
Give me your hand.
You are an adult bully.
Oh, god.
You want the root?
There's a root.
Wow.
You're a bully.
They didn't have to come if they didn't want to.
But it's not that they didn't want to.
OK.
It's that there is a problem.
OK.
And that problem would be you.
Wow.