I don't know about abroad but in Japan
we have that (dating) culture and it's a pain.
That's so complicated - Complicated
Accessories? - NO!!! - YES yes yes
Underwear?
YES YES YES number one YES!!!
Hey guys and girls on Ask Japanese it's your flashy fashion reporter CathyCat!
And today we are gonna talk about why boys hate dating in Japan
why some Japanese boys don't really like dates that much because
there are some things that really annoy them. Let's find out what they are and
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Oh special guest today introduce yourself please
Is Japanese ok? My channel is called Takashi from Japan.
I do Youtube. I am Takashi. Nice to meet you.
Nice to meet you too.
Is it ok to ask you about your love life? - That's fine.
What is a pain about dating in Japan?
What? Well when going for dinner and it's around time to pay the bill
In Japan it seems to be taken for granted that boys pay
I once went on a date with one girl who would not even try to take out her wallet
That girl was cute but
But when I saw that she did not even try to take out her wallet... I didn't like that
Even if she is cute, even if we had a nice chat, that paying moment can ruin that.
We do not have to split the bill, but at least try take out your wallet or say you will pay
There are some girls who want to pay themselves right?
Some earn their own money. So on the first date I pay
and they pay the second date bill.
Or if they pay the first, then I pay the next bill
So yes that bill moment, might be different abroad but in Japan it's a pain.
Sound complicated - It is
But some restaurants in Japan don't let you split the bill at all
Yes and also if you want to use credit card
But generally I pay the bill
The man's way
I pay and if we move on, maybe have her buy me a water or such
to balance it a little
So you pay the restaurant and she pays for the dessert later? - Like that
That is good
Some people don't just want to be treated right?
So they can buy the sweets later or
pay the bill at a cafe later. Both feel good about that right
How do you find people for dates? Online? Instagramm?
I am a university student, so at school.
Or have friends introduce me to them. When I used to go clubbing, I met girls at clubs
at bars and drinking restaurants. When I used to go to Japanese izakaya bars
even if people are from a different group, if our seats are close we might drink together
That's how I met girls. Or if you go to Shibuya at night, you will meet girls.
I assume that the boys still have to make the first move in Japan?
Is there something tough about that?
On the contrary, living in Japan and especially in Tokyo
Even if you cannot drive, you can take people on dates.
I heard Los Angeles is a car capital.
If you do not have a car or cannot drive...
it might be hard to take girls on dates, is what I heard.
But that's not the case in Tokyo. I have a license but I don't have a car so this is convenient.
You know it.
Give me your honest 2 cents about the annoying parts of dates in Japan
Annoying? - What's annoying about dates here?
What could it be? - My money goes missing
Shopping. For me it's that.
I don't like it.
Not a fan.
So if she takes time shopping - I get bored. - I don't!
I like shopping in general but
i get bored
How long can you endure the girls shopping?
30 minutes is my limit
So short - I can do an hour
If it's something I am interested in I can stay longer - that's true
If it is only her hobby, I don't think I can stay that long
If she wants me to pick clothes for her, then I will watch it together but
If I pick something for her, and she doesn't like it, this shopping spree is over.
So annoying.
Can I ask something weird? - Ask anything
Please just give me a YES or NO. This type of shopping is fun:
One, clothes
Yes - Yes
Shoes: - Yes - NO
You don't want to go shoe shopping for girls - No
Stationary - No - Yes
Nonono i got it wrong.
Accessories - No - Yes
Underwear?
YES - YESYESYES number one YES
Yeah that's different.J
She can take as much time as she needs - I will go shopping for that 24 hours!
You said your money goes missing?
Of course birthdays and such are expensive right?
Anniversaries and such, I spend a lot then
Do you spend a lot of money on those? - I do
I spend a lot on her, so no matter how much I have it's never enough.
I don't want a girl to have to pay when we go for meals.
In front of a girl I will pretend to be cool and pay. With the boys I will be like "dude I am broke!"
Let's make a skit! What you will pay? - No worries at all girl. I will take care of everything today girl.
Very cool
And now the boy version
I am broke, so let's split the bill right.
Whaaat
Thanks
Nyaa well definitely the...
PAY DANCE is a thing that Japanese boys mention, the kind of...
some girls who just expect to get paid for...
like there is no special appreciation for it and
they don't even take out their wallet, that's definitely a big no no generally
on dates and such I mean
the dating world here has changed a lot, we hear a lot more about tinder and dating apps
which a couple of years ago people did not dare to mention.
we had a bit of a change of that aspect
in the dating world recently too
But boys if you are watching ... what do you hate about dates in your country?
What is something that annoys you? Let us know in the comments
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