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well I want to talk about something
something that was actually it's actually
actually quite interesting came up
up fairly recently and i thought you
you know i was talking with a friend
friend of mine and talking about how
how to make English anyone . com better
better as I'm always doing i think
think a lot about that how we can
can help you learn more effectively
effectively thinking about lots of
of different words and phrases and
and new ideas that will you know really
really just help you you
you know in lots of different ways
ways not only just the English that
that you use but also in your general
general life and that's why I talk
talk about psychology and philosophy
philosophy and other different things
things that are you know it is great
great for wellbeing and having a more
more interesting life anyway one
one thing we were talking about is
is the fact that we don't really use
use curse words and what we do now
now i will you i will use like you
you know fuck or shit or something
something occasionally but i don't
don't really talk about their very
very often and the reason that came
came up in the conversation was because
because he was talking about a TV
TV show we had been watching and he
he was saying that well like a lot
lot of the you know it's a little
little bit kind of the cursing was
was overdone there's maybe a kind
kind of people people cursing too
too much and he was thinking well
well it's not such a good idea and
and so we started to talk about what's
what's like a good thing to share
share with your kids now
now usually if you're watching a TV
TV show or are you watching like a
a live broadcast they have a seven-second
seven-second delay so that someone
someone can sit there with their finger
finger on the button and hit like
like the big like
like little like beep sound or whatever
whatever so if i say fuck it's like
like you know the little beep sound
sound comes in now for this channel
channel
channel mostly
mostly adults are watching this little
little kids are probably not watching
watching this channel they'd rather
rather be watching cartoons are some
some crazy stuff but anyway so we'll
we'll be talking about why
why in this video maybe we shouldn't
shouldn't be thinking about cursing
cursing the way we think about it
it now
it now so
so when just getting back to that
that conversation we were talking
talking about is cursing a good idea
idea people should be maybe having
having like cursing in video games
games or cursing and TV shows or something
something like that and in my opinion
opinion
opinion I
I didn't think really cursing was
was that big of a deal it doesn't
doesn't really matter to me I mean
mean I you know curse in my daily
daily life and we curse for effect
effect to do something for effect
effect just means that we want to
to add emphasis or will we want to
to say that something is you know
know we we really want to emphasize
emphasize that thing basically so
so i could say it's cold but if I
I really want to say is really cool
cool as it made its fucking cold over
over here it's fucking cold now
now you'll hear this in movies and
and TV shows and especially like movies
movies we have different ratings for
for these things because different
different audiences or maybe like
like little kids maybe wouldn't want
want to hear fucker their parents
parents wouldn't want them to hear
hear fuck so you wouldn't be watching
watching the movie frozen it's like
like let it go fuck
fuck you know you wouldn't see that
that in frozen but you know maybe
maybe may I like an adult version
version of frozen maybe i should think
think about that though maybe having
having like letting you go fuck you
you know it's like put that in there
there
there you
you know some people like cursing
cursing again I don't really care
care about so much but anyway so the
the interesting thing was we're talking
talking about this in the conversation
conversation and I was saying that
that
that well
well it's probably not such a good
good idea of cursing is in there but
but i think it's probably actually
actually a much better discussion
discussion if we talk about what's
what's even worse than cursing as
as far as using words and language
language in front of kids and so we
we started talking about the things
things that we say because he's going
going to be a father very soon and
and i am a new father excuse
excuse me so we're talking about you
you know what words would we be saying
saying and would we curse in front
front of our own kids and things like
like that because i have done that
that on occasion and you you kind
kind of stopped yourself you change
change the way you speak or you try
try to to censor yourself to censor
censor something just means you're
you're trying to stop it or to make
make sure you're not doing that thing
thing but i try to censor my speech
speech a little bit around my my new
new daughter so she's starting to
to hear things she's not at that age
age where she's copying things and
and this is a really interesting thing
thing about kids - they seem to learn
learn curse words faster
faster than anything else so whenever
whenever you say fuck oops then
then the child here is like oh like
like that's a good word i should probably
probably learn that one but if you
you just say I it's fucking cold over
over here
over here the
the child probably wouldn't care very
very much about it anyway anyway excuse
excuse me I'm kind of coming down
down with something kind of like getting
getting a little bit a little bit
bit of cold over here it's
it's quite cold in Nagasaki and I've
I've been doing like a lot of videos
videos a lot of recordings for a lot
lot of the things we'll be producing
producing in the future and
and so it's it's wearing on my my
my throat
my throat I
I guess I need like a like a laws
laws Inge like a throat candy or something
something
something anyway
anyway I always get sidetracked i'm
i'm getting sidetracked by being sidetracked
sidetracked in this video but I hope
hope it's not too confusing for you
you but it's fun to this is my kind
kind of stream of consciousness is
is the way my mind works i start talking
talking about one thing and then I
I started thinking about this but
but hopefully I come back to the original
original thing that's why i'll try
try to do right now so i apologize
apologize anyway so the the cursing
cursing discussion we're talking about
about what we would use in front of
of our kids and I was saying well
well it's probably better to worry
worry about or to think about not
not using the word can't in front
front of your kids as opposed to cursing
cursing like I would if I had to choose
choose one I would rather curse in
in front of my child then
then use the word can't and even if
if i say like you shouldn't do something
something like my child is trying
trying to jump out the window and
and fly would say well you can't fly
fly like I mean that's an example
example where you know it's just not
not physically possible in that way
way you don't want to jump out a window
window and pretend to fly like Superman
Superman after watching superman movie
movie or something but we were talking
talking about that in that most people
people don't really think about that
that discussion and it's really important
important to think about the vocabulary
vocabulary that you use with your
your kids because that's how we learn
learn
learn so
so the things that you don't learn
learn in school like you know obviously
obviously people learn about math
math and science and other things
things like that but a lot of things
things that aren't taught in school
school and money is a big part of
of that so you don't learn about financial
financial literacy so learning how
how to understand money and banking
banking and business that kind of
of things those just aren't taught
taught in school and least not most
most schools anyway like typical school
school
school so
so you learn reading and writing and
and have a spell words and how to
to like say yes or no how to answer
answer questions and write essays
essays but you learn very little about
about money and finance in school
school and the reason is that people
people don't really want you to know
know a lot about money because if
if you did you would not become a
a competent like employees that just
just understands how did like take
take orders and do things like that
that so it was kind of a separate
separate discussion about the education
education system in general and there
there are different schools and different
different education systems but broadly
broadly and i'm speaking more about
about America because I just know
know more about that but American
American schools are designed to create
create American employees other people
people that you know they work for
for companies so that's why people
people go into school and they learn
learn to do well in follow orders
orders and go get a job and so that's
that's what they do now
now part of the reason I do what I
I do is because I maybe didn't do
do so well in school and I was thinking
thinking like well you know fuck
fuck school I mean I'm so I wanted
wanted to do well but I didn't really
really enjoy school enjoy college
college college was fun but you know
know I was also able to do some kind
kind of business things there and
and like I said throw parties for
for profit in college that was a lot
lot of fun because we didn't really
really have good parties at my school's
school's i would like to organize
organize different parties and try
try to do different stuff so anyway
anyway that's part of that thing but
but getting back to get a keep getting
getting sidetracked but getting back
back to the original thing about cursing
cursing when you know because we have
have to think about what's taught
taught in school the
the ideas that especially children
children are learning from their parents
parents the way they think the kind
kind of jobs they have what they think
think they're like social classes
classes like the upper class or they
they wealthy are the poor the middle
middle class or something like that
that as children get older they start
start developing these identities
identities about what it is they have
have so are they thinking about having
having a like a particular idea about
about what kind of money they can
can have and and so that's why you
you see a lot of people following
following in the footsteps of their
their parents so to follow in the
the footsteps of someone means like
like my parent is a lawyer so I become
become a lawyer and you know maybe
maybe you don't have such a strong
strong interest in that maybe you
you do but you know you'll try to
to do the same thing they're doing
doing because your parent talks a
a lot about law at home and so they
they talk about this thing and so
so that
so that and
and also learns about law and they
they decide well maybe I should do
do law to or it's a doctor who has
has a child that becomes a doctor
doctor you know that kind of thing
thing
thing so
so since a lot of people teach the
the kind of thing and they I mean
mean even if you're not like teaching
teaching about medicine to your child
child you talk about things at home
home and you behave in a certain way
way and so the way that you behave
behave about money is the same thing
thing
thing so
so you teach your kids about money
money and you know a wealthy person
person would teach their child about
about money in a certain way or poor
poor person would teach the child
child about money in a certain way
way and a lot of this you know you
you can kind of change the way people
people think maybe if you don't have
have a lot of money yourself you can
can try to encourage them like to
to learn about it from people that
that do have money or you know whatever
whatever it doesn't i'm not even talking
talking about money specifically but
but we could be talking about being
being a doctor or a lawyer or anything
anything like that but anyway the
the whole idea here you
you have to forgive me for like sniffing
sniffing like that anyway so the main
main idea here is that the language
language we use were so focused on
on whether we using a word like fuck
fuck or shit or you know whatever
whatever the thing is in front of
of our kids that we don't worry about
about the other language we use and
and the ways we talk to our kids and
and we say like you can't do that
that
that so
so you don't have enough money to
to do that kind of thing now we don't
don't think about it so much but let's
let's say a parent that's middle class
class and maybe they don't have much
much money they say like what we can't
can't have a second house or we can
can you know take that vacation or
or we can't do this because of whatever
whatever
whatever now
now that teaches the child you know
know what like my dad is like the
the most important person in my life
life especially when child is like
like you know very young and a child
child listens to that and they think
think like well wow
wow I guess I guess we can't do that
that and they understand that they
they just say they just believe it
it and that's what they think is true
true now wealthy person is saying
saying like how can you do that so
so maybe i'm not going to say you
you can't do something I'm not just
just going to buy my daughter like
like any toys she wants but i would
would say instead of you can't have
have that or we don't have money or
or you know whatever I think like
like how can you get that thing and
and so when we were talking about
about this idea just occurred to us
us maybe it's better to focus on not
not the cursing but
but the kind of actual language the
the everyday language we use it's
it's probably not such a good idea
idea
idea use
use in front of our kids so if you
you are a parent you thinking about
about having parents or i guess
not
not parents
parents with kids in the future maybe
maybe you can think about that as
as well
as well you
you have to be careful with the actual
actual language you use and how that's
that's affecting your kids and what
what that's teaching them because
because if you say you can't all the
the time then your kids will be thinking
thinking the same thing I want to
to be very careful about this because
because when i was younger you know
know when people would say like well
well like my mom or my dad was like
like oh we can't do that we don't
don't have enough money or we can
can do this we can do that and I think
think I guess we can't but as I got
got older I was like fuck that you
you know not to get angry but it's
it's like you know you have to in
in order to change your behavior you
you have to get kind of a kind of
of angry about something you have
have to think about doing it in a
a different way and you have to decide
decide
decide fuck
fuck that fuck that now it's okay
okay to say fuck but you don't want
want to say can't and that's been
been kind of the message of this whole
whole video anyway this is just kind
kind of a jumping off point maybe
maybe getting the comments below what
what do you think it's good to curse
curse in front of your kids are you
you think it's not good to curse or
or you think using can't other things
things like that or
or maybe you can even describe particular
particular situations from your own
own life
own life we're
we're your parents you know said something
something like that and this might
might be applicable to you or you
you could apply it to your own life
life if you have a situation where
where you know maybe your parents
parents are saying you can do this
this you can't do that or you know
know something like that so it could
could be both you
you know good and bad usually the
the the students or the young children
children or you know whatever the
the case is the people that get the
the support and the good language
language from their parents are the
the ones that grow up to be successful
successful much more easily so
so if I always tell my child yet you
you can do it you can do anything
anything you want you can do this
this and I say how can you do it so
so even if you don't know how something
something will happen in the same
same way I talk to my learner's all
all the people so I am an English
English fluency guide for many people
people around the world and when I
I talk to them I i start nice
nice to kind of start with this the
the the psychology the most important
important part is thinking that you
you can do something so you have to
to believe that you can do something
something and then you don't worry
worry about how exactly it will happen
happen you just think about the goal
goal you want and you start working
working towards that so
so first believe you can and then
then also think about the language
language that you're using when you're
you're speaking about yourself and
and when you're speaking to your kids
kids if you've got any well
well that's it for this lesson I hope
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