Do you find it difficult to know if your partner truly loves you or not? Would you like to know the
warning signs that clearly tell you that he does not care about you as much as you think he does?
In this video you are going to learn these 8 psychological signs and how to tell the difference
between a man who is faking his feelings and a man who is genuinely in love with you.
I’m psychologist and relationship coach Dr. Antonio Borrello and as they say… love is
blind… That also means love can be blinding and make it difficult to see the warning signs that
a person doesn’t really love you. So, if you are seeing the following signs in your relationship,
you might need to explore what’s really going on.
8 - He Complains About Your Flaws
When you’re in love with someone, you tend to see the good in them more readily than the bad. But,
if your partner loses sight of all of the positive qualities that made you interesting,
it could be a sign that things are heading south.
When he starts complaining about the way you do things…
even though you’ve always done them the same way, that’s the beginning. Let me explain why.
See, when a person experiences increased sensitivity to trivial or small stuff,
it’s their brain trying to tell them something.. It has to do with cognitive dissonance.. they
are starting to feel disconnected and maybe that the relationship isn’t right…
so they stack up evidence to support and justify their feelings of disconnection…
and if there are enough of those little problems and all the dots connect, that gives them
the justification to make the break. So, if the things that irritate him…
his pet peeves about you are becoming more and more obvious and getting on his nerves, beware.
One more thing… IF your talk to your partner about this and he denies it or gets defensive,
there is one tell-tale way that will help you to find out. And that involves
how he speaks about you to friends and family. If he never has anything positive to say or he is
constantly speaking poorly of you or bad mouthing you… yeah.. then your relationship is in trouble.
7 He’s Always Bored. Does your man always
complain of being bored or that his life isn’t exciting like it once was? If so, it could be
a telltale sign that your relationship is in trouble. You see, if he is feeling bored with
the relationship or with life in general, it might mean that he’s no longer in the right situation.
Think about this…. The opposite of love is not hate… the opposite of
love is indifference… not caring at all. And Indifference is a lot like boredom-
lack of excitement or enthusiasm. It’s like not caring. And If he doesn’t care what you do,
where you go or even if he sees you or not, then he’s indifferent about you and bored
with the relationship. And yeah that’s a sign that he is not in love with you.
6. He’s Keeping Your Relationship a Secret Does the man you’re in a relationship with
avoid posting photos of the two of you together? Is he otherwise active on social media? I mean
is he constantly updating Instagram or facebook and posting photos with friends?
Do you feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t get any love on his social media accounts?
If yes, have you two discussed this? See, Couples who are excited about a future together
usually want to share their happiness with friends and family. And, these days,
much of this is accomplished via social media. Now if you’ve been together for some time and
you have no presence on his social media, you’ve got to be wondering why?
Is he hiding you because he thinks he can keep his prospects open?
The second part of this one…. He doesn’t take you out in public
This is another huge red flag. Does he always want to stay in… or does he just
want to come to your place and hang out? This doesn’t just happen once,
it happens over and over.. and when you ask about it… he gives you lame excuses for why he
can't go out with you…. He doesn’t have the money or he is tired… But the real reason…
He either doesn’t want to put in the effort or he is keeping your relationship a secret.
5. He Avoids Coming Home
If you and your partner live together, and yet, he is constantly looking for excuses to stay out,
or he is looking for excuses to get away… your relationship is in jeopardy.
Let me give you some crazy examples… Someone taking the extra long way home….
Or driving around the block a few extra times to listen to more music… or making excuses to
leave the house to run errans without you… again.. if this is happening in isolation,
it’s probably not a big deal… but If your partner is purposefully staying out later than usual,
you’ve got to consider the meaning behind this behavior. It might mean
that your relationship has soured and you just don’t want to be around each other at all.
4. Changes in Your Sex Life Sex is an important foundation
for a loving relationship. And in the beginning when two people are falling in love…
it happens very frequently… but For obvious reasons,
many couples are unable to keep up that pace and that isn’t necessarily a warning sign.
I mean The absence of a sex life may seem inevitable when two people have
been together for so long, but it shouldn’t be.. sporatic or occasional sex is one thing…
going months or years without sex is quite another.
So Changes in the bedroom aren’t always a relationship death sentence,
but in combination with other factors, they can mean something isn’t right. sex is much
more than just physical intercourse. It allows partners to be vulnerable
and emotionally open with each other, its part of the glue that keep couples together.
What am I saying… if you noticed a significant decrease in your sex life… or motivations toward
sexual relations, This signifies disconnection. It may just be a temporary reaction to stress,
but if it's been going on for some time,
it could indicate a relationship decline. Pay attention.. if you go away on a romantic weekend
and are still not having sex.. or If sex has become a chore, Yeah.. that’s a serious problem.
3. You’re not talking about the future or your goals don’t align.
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you and your partner are constantly
thinking about building a future together. If this was an active part of your dialogue
before and now the conversation sounds more and more short term,
this is a major indicator that your minds are in different places.
Or If you find yourself in a relationship where your goals and dreams don’t really align…
then your relationship has an expiration date.. for example, Let’s say you’ve always
wanted children but now your partner is not so sure, well, this is a deal breaker..
You could wait for years on end, and maybe it will work out, but if your partner is crystal
clear that he is not having children, don’t fool yourself into thinking that he is going to change.
2 He Refuses to Go to Couples Therapy If things are not going well in your
relationship and you or your partner refuses to get help to fix things, this is a major indicator
that things probably aren’t going to work out. Let’s say you’ve been having some problems and
In disagreement for a long time or you have tried to work things out on your own but
find you are both stuck in your corner…. Well, Couples therapy can be helpful.
― perhaps you’ve even suggested counseling ― and he does nothing or refuses to go,
You’ve got to question why.. Has he already checked out and has no desire to reconcile?
While you might hope that things will change on their own, his lack of interest
in getting help is a clear sign that he doesn’t care.
Before I get to the last one, I have a question… What are some signs that you have noticed that
convinced you that your relationship was on the rocks? please take a moment and
leave a comment and let me know some important signs that I missed. Ok… on to the last one.
And number 1 is Your Intuition Is Telling You Something Is Wrong
You know that voice inside your head that tries to tell you when something’s wrong,
you know… it’s the one you ignore when you don’t like what it’s saying? Well Listen to it.
sometimes Your body can pick up on changes in your partner’s feelings long before your
brain acknowledges it. You can sense it in his mood or in his body language.,
even though nothing has occurred and he hasn’t said anything.
Think about this…. Are you always the one reaching out, making plans, making an effort,
and showing up? If so, Ask yourself this question— if you stopped doing these things,
if you stopped initiating, what would happen to the relationship? would it be over…
If your inner voice is telling you something’s not right or telling you that his head or his heart
is somewhere else, –listen and follow your intuition. Have a heart to heart
conversation with him and find out what’s going on.. Because if you don’t, it will only get worse
And if you’ve had trust issues before and can’t rely on your gut instinct… At the very least,
use this as a starting point to look out for the other 7 signs that I’ve just mentioned.
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