I hope you're hungry dinnertime folks
etiquette experts Monica and Derry and
Luis are back with us and this time we
are talking dining dilemmas this is a
really good conversation welcome back
okay we are getting started with all of
this yes so we're gonna get started I'm
gonna give you six seconds you both to
set up the place setting according to
what you think it should be are you
ready
hands up stop all this talking put your
hands up okay ready set go one two three
how about ten seconds seven who sets a
table in seconds nine yeah I demand a
recount
fam this is not oh it should have been
my guess it should have been like that
did I pass bail okay you only missed one
both of you okay so I'm gonna come
around to show you really cool okay if
you familiar with the luxury car BMW
okay
never heard of him whatever okay be for
your bread plate this is your bread
plate be even see this yes yes I don't
know what you what you doing over there
Courtney I know okay be and this is your
butter spreader for your bread right
chocolate okay topless YUM meal plate
right in the middle be Elma w water
water okay where does hey where's the
team don't worry about that we're gonna
get to that okay so your napkins on your
left hand side forks it's on your left
there's four letters in the word left
four letters in the word Fork that's a
good way to remember okay on your right
the only utils have on your right is
your knife and a fork
just remember knife is closest to the
plate knife that's five letters the word
right has five letters knife spoon five
letters boned if I'm you're right
does that make sense it does all right
so now let's talk tea
let's switch them let's get those
napkins on the left side yes yes yes can
start on the left side yep
to do them I like to do them to the left
of the fork and knife in that way
because that's gonna be the indication
at the mill is gonna start when you
actually take your napkin and place it
in your lap that's the the signal to the
attendants
I'll take their napkin and put it in
their lap the moment they sit down yes
is that about the fall of the hole right
because they actually thought the order
of the meal okay got it but leave your
napkins in place until the host exactly
okay
and now let's talk about this all right
so sometimes when you go to sit down you
have things that are complimentary for
the table like maybe it may be some
mixed nuts or some other appetizer let's
talk about double dipping real quickly
here first things first is if you want
to take something it's okay to use your
hands in something like this but only
reach once once you've gotten your feel
then you pass it on to the next person
if it's something like chips or salsa
one dunk and done on your inside so you
should put the salsa on and then get a
few chips yes okay absolutely
all right now what we're talking about
that for something like this yes you can
because you're only eating you're only
putting your hand to your mouth and
you're not actually gobbling them up
with your whole hand so if you're gonna
go in for one go for one but don't you
know do all that right lick your fingers
and keep going all right what if it's
queso or something I mean small saucer
and then you you eat it from your sauce
and then you refill the salsa okay all
right so let's let's talk about tea all
right so your tea cups will always
appear on the upper right along with
your water glass your wine your tea your
water all of that appears at the same
time now there's a correct way to hold
your tea cup and there's an incorrect
way first things first is you're going
to use your index in your thumb and
you're gonna pinch handle yeah yes and
you're gonna lift it and you're gonna
anchor it with your middle finger your
pinky and your ring finger should be
folded under so no peak comes up right
so you're gonna hold it there and you're
gonna keep your posture straight and
you're gonna bring it straight to you
look down in the cup and you sip these
cups are made for people with tiny hands
exactly and then you place it right back
down that's very nice now now that
you've taken that first sip you can
determine if you'd like to
it or not if you'd like to sweeten it
you can add up to two packs of sugar at
a time but this is not the time to take
all the open them up and there's their
sugar all over the place and then what
do you do with your wrappers anybody
know what you do with your wrapper toss
them to your name exactly you just place
them on the floor no the thing is you
place them under your saucer under the
team like never even happen
so that you're getting the tower exactly
and then you go in and then once you're
able to sweeten your tea you take your
tea spoon and you're gonna stir from 12
to 12 not not around you're not going to
make a hurricane
there's no clinking of the teacher let
me ask you this when we're finished and
maybe I'm going off topic here we can
when we're done of course that's our
salad fork right so main meal is done
I've seen so many of these okay so what
you're doing Courtney there's two styles
of dining okay in style in continental
style what you're doing that is American
style of dining you don't you showing
that finished position that I'm finished
yes American continental you probably
have seen that before yes the cross
thing okay but either way is a signal
that you're done that's your guy okay
but the thing is you can't cross the two
so if you use continental style you have
to start with that and finish with that
real lightening round we got to talk
about that's and who pays but we have
about thirty Seconds all right man so
complimentary one will do you not this
right okay who pays the host if the host
invited you the host typically will pay
if it's something were you going Dutch
you need to decide that before you sit
down before you place your order let the
server know that it'll be a split ticket
okay and then also if you're inviting
someone let them know in the invitation
exactly if they're gonna be paying for
their meal or not because sometimes you
invited to parties and you're being
invited you think your meal is covered
and then at the last minute you get a
bill right yeah you want to go to dinner
corner you're buying thanks so much
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