if you're single or having relationship problems, the holidays can be especially
stressful I mean does attending holiday parties or a New Year's Eve party
without a partner feel difficult or especially obvious well stay tuned
because in this video I'm going to share some great tips to help you power
through the holiday season and get you ready to meet the one for you
don't go anywhere because we're starting in three seconds
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I'm to being single during the holidays so the holiday season is here again it's
that time of year where so many people are celebrating Christmas and the new
year they call it the most wonderful time of the year but why is it that the
holiday season makes being single feel worse than any other time of year well
probably because during the holidays traditional media and TV bombards us
with romance and romantic comedies and diamond engagement commercials and
images of couples cuddling by the fireplace and kissing under the
mistletoe oh and let's not forget social media all the cute couples posing for
their holiday selfies your social media feeds are filled with people sharing
their happy relationships with the world and then there are the holiday parties
and the family gatherings where people inevitably ask you about your
relationships tears they say things like why are you single when are you going to
settle down or they want to introduce you to their cousins best friend's
brother yeah being single during the holidays can be difficult so without
further ado here are some tips to help you change your focus power through the
holiday season like a boss and get you prepared to meet the right person for
you oh and I can't wait to tell you about the last tip and explain why the
holiday season is actually the best time of year to be single so make sure you
stick around till the end number one take advantage of being single of course
being single has its perks like the ability to be on your own
schedule to watch as much dorky TV as you want and to save some money by not
buying gifts for your boyfriend and you can flirt with people at holiday parties
but the most amazing advantage of being single is that it allows you time to
focus on yourself and the areas of your life that may need attention like your
health and happiness or your career being more mindful of these things not
only helps you prove the quality of your life but your
relationship with your sub grows when you focus on it and spend quality time
alone and when you focus on you you're more likely to recognize the things that
are undermining your well-being and your happiness then when you know yourself
and love yourself you know what you offer and have high standards of what
you expect from a partner knowing yourself also means that you know what
you cannot or will not tolerate in a partner and sometimes knowing what you
don't want in a partner is even more important than knowing what you do want
because knowing what you can't or won't tolerate helps to spot incompatibility
early on and you see the red flags more clearly don't forget that take advantage
of your time for yourself you'll thank yourself later number to focus on and
grow the relationships you already have and reconnect with your favorite people
when you're in a relationship you have less time available for other
relationships many couples unintentionally spend less time with
their friends and family so take advantage of being single by enjoying
time with your closest friends and family and grow the relationships you
already have surround yourself with people who love and support you
appreciate and nurture these relationships and of course feel free to
tell them to set you up I'm joking joking number three keep
dating who said dating has to stop during the holiday season honestly some
of the best dates that I've ever been on happened when I met a person during the
holidays that's because work slows down people are off and often have more free
time so take advantage of the season join an online dating site or if you are
already on one become more active also just putting up a profile is only half
the battle you have to do the work of developing your profile and describing
and talking about yourself and what you're looking for just joining a site
is like getting a gym membership if you don't go to the gym and work out you're
not going to achieve your fitness goals so initiate emails to people who
interest you and be proactive and positive that's what really matters why
not use all of the resources that are available
- you do go on a festive holiday date you just might meet someone who's
exactly in the same situation as you are number four be socially active socialize
and be merry the holiday season gives us an extra reason to dress up and throw on
some great outfits be merry and meet new people you know where you're not going
to meet the love of your life sitting at home so go to an event or holiday party
and strike up some conversations with new people you never know who you might
meet it's true it takes a lot of motivation to put yourself out there but
who knows while sipping a little eggnog under the mistletoe this year you just
might bump into the one so get out there mingle and socialize there's still time
to meet that special someone to kiss on New Year's Eve number five be selfish
take the money that you would have used on a gift for a partner and spend it on
yourself use the opportunity between now and New
Year's to upgrade your life start a new fitness program get a makeover or go on
a shopping spree do something that lifts your spirits and makes you feel great
appreciate and nurture your relationship with yourself get to know yourself on a
deep level many people have a tendency to lose themselves in relationships they
start doing everything their partner dunks or they change themselves in order
for their partner to like them now is your chance to truly get to know
yourself the real you and when you feel better about yourself you attract more
people so make this season all about you and get a solid start on the new year
and that brings me to my next point want to be excited about if you really want
to be in a relationship this new year resolution should be on your list for
2019 yes a resolution to find an amazing relationship because now is the best
time of year to make it happen why think about it so many people are in exactly
the same situation as you are they're making the same decision to find and
fall in love in the new year it's one of the most popular New Year's resolutions
in fact the first Sunday of the new year is the busiest day of the year for
online dating and it's the busiest time for matchmakers so take advantage of
this to figure out what you want and to get
yourself in a great place emotionally physically and socially take some great
holiday shots and create your best avatar or online profile and start
exploring your options and as you probably know there are many options and
new ways that people meet from online dating sites like match that time or
OkCupid or harmony to the newer mobile dating apps like tinder and Bumble in
the lead check them out and figure out what works best for you and don't just
stop with online dating find single events in your area
tell your friends and family that you're looking because being set up by friends
and family is still the number one way to meet your lifelong lover so don't
ignore that opportunity make the decision set your intention take action
and get ready for the new year make 2019 your year and make no mistake about it
like achieving any important goal finding your soulmate is going to
require effort as well as realistic expectations and a well-thought-out plan
and no I don't think finding a lifelong partner is something that you should
leave up to fate or serendipity finding love when you aren't looking for it is
amazing but equally amazing is finding love when you are searching for it so
when you make the decision to take control of your romantic destiny you
immediately empower yourself to make things happen and you will begin to
qualify your dreams and set an intention into action so I'm super excited for
2019 I hope you are too Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to
you and your loved ones I'll see you in the next video