- In this video, I'm gonna show you the weird reason
walking away actually has so much magnetic energy
that it can propel back things to you
that you priorly lost.
Now, energetically, there's something
that is happening when somebody walks away.
What they are doing is sometimes that can also
be implying value
because if somebody can walk away,
it means that somebody has a certain level
of value about themselves that ends up
having this quality of magnetic energy.
Now, also, when we think of this,
think of it like this energetically.
When somebody else is chasing someone else
whether it's wanting their validation, their approval,
wanting something from somebody else,
it's an energy that is very repellent.
It's an energy that repels.
This happens a lot.
When people, especially, first start dating,
people might start dating,
and then what happens is someone's like, well,
I hope they're texting me back,
I hope they're thinking of me,
and they energetically start sending that person
a lot of energy and that can have a very repelling effect.
Now, one of the reasons this is
is because most of the energy that we feel
with other people, it's nonverbal,
it's not just the words that we're saying.
It's sub communicated.
And what quantum physics is showing us
is that everything exists here and now,
that time and space is a form of illusion,
and energetically there are also many esoteric teachings
that talk about this
but when you think of somebody,
what we are doing is we are projecting energy at
and towards the person that we're thinking about.
Now, what happens energetically is when somebody
is chasing someone else,
they are projecting a lot of energy at that person.
And what ends up happening is that person
can feel the energy, and when they can feel the energy
is being projected at them,
it has the opposite effect of what you might think.
You might think, oh, if I project energy at somebody,
they're gonna feel it, they're gonna like it,
and they're gonna want more of it.
But a lot of times that energy feels like resistance.
And one of the reasons being
is because the person projecting the energy many times,
isn't just sitting there appreciating the person
and thinking about how perfect everything is,
A lot of times the person is projecting energy
at the person of, I wish you were different,
I wish you liked me this, I wish you did this
I wish you did that,
and what ends up happening is that resistance
is being projected at them,
they feel it, and it ends up repelling them.
Think about it like this as well,
people are responding to us based upon the energy
we are embodying.
Think about it like not to just compare relationships
to dogs, but what happens
if you start chasing a dog, right?
You start chasing a dog,
the dog will start running from you.
And then ironically enough, if you start running away
from the dog, the dog will start chasing you.
Well, the dog is just playing according
to the energy you're playing with
and energetically, that's the energy that's being led with
and therefore that's what reality's reflecting back.
Now, I'm not suggesting that you go play games
and it's like, oh, if I'm chasing this person,
then maybe what I do is I just run away.
It's not so much about like games
because when we're playing games,
it's putting us in this kind of manipulative energy
or we're trying to manipulate the people
to get what we want.
And one of the things that I've learned
on this process of having magnetic energy
is I think for a long time,
I was in a place to where I didn't know
my own sense of value or my own sense of self worth
so I would stick with an energy
that wasn't conducive or maybe
somebody that wasn't choosing me
or a dynamic like that, because that felt
either safe or that's just what I thought I was worthy of,
I wasn't worthy of anything more.
So I wouldn't have had the balls or the energy to walk away.
And that's because of a sense of self worth.
Now, one of the things that is probably one
of the most powerful energy dynamics for you to embody
is knowing your own sense of self worth
and also bringing your energy back.
So I'm not saying that what you should do
is run away from somebody else
and pull at their heartstrings
and manipulate the experience to get what you want,
what I'm saying is pull your energy back
and stop projecting at this person.
Because when you are sending energy to them,
especially if you are feeling resistance
or you are feeling like they're not doing exactly
what you would like,
then you are sending them resistant energy
that's actually repelling them anyways.
That was the answer to get an alignment
and to feel amazing energy to then project it at them.
No, because when you're projecting energy at them,
they feel it, and probably,
they want a little bit of space.
They want energy space.
They want to feel like they're in their own frame
so giving them space can be one
of the most attractive things that you can do.
But also pulling your energy back,
pulling your energy back then allows the energy
to play itself out
and it allows people to then be in their own energy field
to then say, (sighs)
okay, now I feel safe.
Now I can do my own inner work.
Now I can actually find out what I really do want.
And detachment is one of the most attractive things
you can do because it implies
you can fill up your own cup.
It implies you're already whole
and complete the way you are.
And remember, when it comes to attracting love,
this isn't about like, I'm half of a person,
you're half of a person,
and we're gonna meet up and become whole,
it's about I'm whole and complete myself,
and you will then attract somebody else
who feels whole and complete
and then you can be together in a whole
and complete way where you're not codependent on each other.
So this is an energy dynamic at play
that I'm talking about
where we can realize our own sense of self value
and our own sense of self worth
and once we do that, once we know what our value,
our worth, what ends up happening
is we sub communicate that out.
People feel that energy off of us.
And you've probably heard me talk about this
in prior videos before, but the frame technique,
just simply feeling inside of your own hands
and your own feet, and actually focusing
on the separation between you and someone else
has a very magnifying effect.
I don't know why.
Energetically, I think it's because
imagine there's an energy field around us
and when we want somebody else,
we're projecting our energy at them, wherever they are,
even if they're not physically around,
that energy field that we are projecting out,
think of it, like even the shirt that I'm wearing right now,
imagine that this is us
and we're emanating energy out.
Now, imagine if you want somebody else,
what you would end up doing
is projecting your energy out
and it would be like lessening the field around your body.
It's like your aura goes down.
And then the person over here
can feel the energy that you're projecting at them
and it's causing them to feel uncomfortable.
And one of the things that changes everything
is when you actually pull your energy back
and you focus more on being in your own body
because a lot of times when we want somebody else
to be a certain way, it's coming from a inner child belief
that if I can fix this other person,
then I can feel safe and whole.
If I can get their validation and approval,
then I can close the loop.
And the loop that we're secretly trying to close
is a lot of times from our childhood
because when we were kids,
we may have not felt validated.
It's funny, I was listening to Joe Rogan Podcast yesterday
and he was talking about how these celebrities
'cause you got the Amber Heard and Johnny Depp trial
and he was talking about the dark side of being famous
and being a celebrity,
and almost always, when you look at these celebrities,
the ones that really,
I don't know specifics, but people
that really want validation and approval,
they didn't get it growing up
so then they search for it and they'll do anything
they can to get it as adults.
And a lot of times that's because they're searching
for something in their life
that they didn't receive as kids.
And sometimes as kids, we may have not received
emotional availability.
We may have received a lot of rejection.
So we're like, hey, if I could prove myself to somebody else
and not feel rejected, then I'll finally feel whole.
We may have a dynamic to where somebody treats us like shit
and we're used to that,
that feels safe and familiar.
And we're fighting to keep familiar energy dynamics
at play that were around when we were kids.
Now one of the things that changes everything
is when you learn to say no
to the energy dynamics that aren't fair to you,
I had to literally say no
to people
that were abusing my own energy field because I'd let them.
I had so much trouble setting boundaries with people.
I had so much trouble knowing my own sense of self worth
a couple years ago.
And I'd also date people that didn't value me
because I didn't value me.
I'd also date people that would reject me
because I would reject me,
or people that would abandon me emotionally or physically
because I would do that to myself.
That felt safe and familiar from my own energy.
And when we talk about walking away,
what we're really saying is walk away
from the childhood trauma of needing to feel validated,
needing to feel worthy from the outside external source
and start to draw that from within.
A lot of this also has to do with becoming aware,
that the childhood dynamics as kids,
the abandonment that we may have felt
either emotionally or physically,
sometimes we think that that was our fault.
If I could've been different,
then mom and dad would've treated me differently.
If maybe if I was a little different,
they wouldn't have divorced.
We developed these meanings as kids
that say there's something wrong with me,
there's something wrong with me.
And we think it's our fault.
And an important thing to remember is that
it wasn't our fault our parents divorced,
wasn't our fault that maybe one of our parents
wasn't emotionally available, or both of them.
And the more we start realizing
that we stop internalizing this self-fulfilling prophecy,
the self-fulfilling belief that says I'm not enough,
things aren't okay.
And if I could just control the person I'm dating
or somebody's validation or approval,
if I could just get it,
then I'd finally feel good.
But one of the most powerful things you could do
is actually know your own sense of self worth
and to stop abandoning yourself.
When you are living in your own frame of reality,
you are so attractive.
when you are leading your life
and you have a gravity set up
and you're you're doing what you love,
you are so attractive.
When you are feeling the separation between you and others,
you are attractive.
When you are feeling safe in your own body,
you are attractive and magnetic.
And these are all things you can begin to do by feeling safe
within your own frame
and understanding that this isn't really about them,
they are just a reflection of the energy
you're playing within yourself.
Instead, the key is to stop abandoning the self.
It's to start having fun in your life
and enjoying your life
and to start leading in that way
and develop your own frame of reality
and to stop needing that from anyone else
and start pulling your energy back,
you will be more magnetic than you can even imagine.
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