Do you have a hyper sex drive?
If so, what do you do?
Hi, welcome to today's Little Lesson and we've been talking, I think this is the fifth or
maybe the sixth, but I'm going to say the fifth Little Lesson that we've been talking
about sexual desire, masturbation, and related subjects.
All about human sexuality and in the context of God's original design and the context of
how that's revealed in the Bible and of course in our experience.
You know, before I reached puberty, I don't recall having any sexual desire and I think
probably you'd say that was my experiencing as well.
So this is a biological thing that's not something to be ashamed of, but something to be acknowledged
and embraced and appreciated.
Oh, I'm so glad God gave me sexual desire.
And I'm glad that he came up with the idea of sex and put the nerves in my body in the
places that he did and everything else involved in that.
And the mysteries that are involved, just are mind blowing when you think about it.
Again, I don't understand a whole lot about women, I'm trying to understand them the best
I can.
I'm married to a beautiful woman.
But men are clearly visually sexually aroused.
And that's a problem.
That's why scripture tells women to dress modestly 'cause you don't want to cause a
brother or anyone to stumble, to be tempted to look at you lustfully.
So you don't want to lead them on in any way.
And that's because again men are aroused sexually by what they see.
And just think about that for just a little while, what an incredible mystery that is.
What would be so attractive about the female form?
Think of all the beautiful things there are to see that God has made, all the variations
of form and color and size and shape and so forth.
There's just almost innumerable variations on themes of form.
Right?
In the world.
Who can explain, who can understand why men would get so excited about the female form?
It's one more proof that God exists and sex in general is one more proof that God's a
loving God.
In these Little Lessons, I've been trying to help Christians, in particularly the struggling
single Christians who have the same sexual desire as married people, but have no outlet
to act upon that or expression.
And that is a motivator to try get you interested in marriage 'cause the only way you're going
to get sex is if you get married, so you got to get married.
"Well, I'm kind of a lunky, clunky, socially dopey person."
Well, you have to fix that, right?
'Cause hard time getting married if you're real shy around the opposite sex and you can't
make yourself attractive.
Right?
Right.
So this whole thing of marriage and sex is a real motivator for people to learn and hopefully
mature and grow and improve themselves and make themselves attractive on every level,
not just the physical level, but on every level 'cause marriage is a merging of two
different people and just 'cause you got married doesn't mean your problems are over.
It starts a whole new set of problems as you have to adjust to life with somebody else.
All right?
We've been looking at 1 Corinthians 7 in our previous four or so Little Lessons and just
emphasizing what that chapter emphasizes repeatedly, acknowledging the God given sexual desire
that's so strong.
And I ask at the outset of this Little Lesson, do you have a hyper sex drive and if so, what
do you do about it?
And I'm asking that question a little bit tongue in cheek, because over the years, back
when I was pastoring, but even since no longer pastoring every once in a while you have people
ask you questions and look for counseling and so forth.
Many times I've had men come to me and say, "Man, my sex drive is just off the charts
and I don't know what to do about it."
Even married and unmarried men.
God bless them.
And I said, "Well, describe to me, you say you have a hyper sex drive that's off the
charts, will you describe to me in more specific detail what that looks like?"
And then when they tell me, it's always so much fun to tell them, "Oh, you don't have
a hyper sex drive.
You have a normal sex drive."
And they're often relieved to know that they're not cursed with something beyond everybody
else.
But that's how it is and boy, again I don't know much about women, but I know a lot about
men.
And just think about it, men and women, think about the crazy things that sex drives people
to do.
As I'm recording this, there's a high-profile business leader who's worth billions of dollars
and who's been married 25 years and he's divorcing her for this younger babe.
He looks like any older man who divorces his wife to marry a babe, lacking certain character
traits that would be desirable.
You know, he knows everybody's looking at him and saying, "You're dumping your wife
for this babe."
And yet, in full view of the whole world, looking like really a fool, going through
with it.
Why?
Because of sexual desire.
I shouldn't just pick on that guy because that's been repeated by lots of people, including
pastors and ministers who, out of control because of the sexual desire, out of control,
really take a risk and ultimately become the ultimate losers.
Lose their families, lose all respect within their field, lose their vocation because they
can no longer serve in ministry because of their sexual antics.
Pay that kind of price for sex.
I'm only saying that to show you, this is an incredibly strong desire and it's supposed
to be a desire that cements married couples together and it's supposed to pull unmarried
couples together to get married.
It's all in the divine plan of God.
All right?
And there's more to it than that, but I'm just trying to encourage single people.
Hey, and everybody who thinks, "Oh, I've got this hyper sex drive."
Chances are, you're like everybody else.
Or most people, I realize there are people who have, you know, there is a spectrum, there
is a range.
But many men that I've met who think that they're off the charts are right in the median
if they were to do their research.
Okay?
All right, so the solution is stop depriving one another.
As Paul said, there shouldn't be such a thing as a sexless marriage.
And you don't even own your own body, it belongs to your spouse.
These strong things that we've been reading that Paul says.
And now, goodness, how time has flown, we're out of time.
So we'll pick up here at our next Little Lessons.
We're going to get through 1 Corinthians 7, down to the ninth verse.
I love that ninth verse, oh my goodness.
The truth will set you free.
All right?
I hope to see you next time.
God bless.