so why is she considered rude and why is he seen as cool in the exact same situation?
hi, welcome! so in today's video I wanted to talk about what boy groups
can get away with that girl groups can't, and I know there are plenty of double
standards and kpop, but this video will focus more on these particular aspects
so if you'd like to see a part two let me know what other aspects you'd like me
to cover next and I need to point out immediately that I'm not bashing any of
the male idols that I will be mentioning in this video, they're just being used as
examples and ways in which society reacts to what they do compared to what
female idols do, and I also think this is a much needed conversation so let's get
into it! but before we get into it I'm gonna stop you right there to remind you
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I acquire them I will tell you! the first thing we're gonna talk about is the
resting ***** face, we are going to refer to it as the RBF otherwise I'm gonna have to
use babe the Umbrella Cockatoo way too much! and I'm quite frankly really guilty
of this, people will often think that I'm angry or rude when really I'm just deep
in thought about Moluccan cockatoos... that wasn't funny, I'll see myself out!
the truth is women don't need to justify why they aren't smiling, since the beginning
of time I've seen female idols receive a lot of backlash for this notably Krystal
from FX, and now Jennie from blackpink but they're not the first ones and
they're not the only ones and they will not be the last ones, when a female idol
doesn't smile constantly a hundred percent of the time, people think that
they are rude or that they are just plain mean, they are painted as divas and
when we talk about these idols we tend to associate the words "cold", "rude" and
"shady" to them, however when we see male idols do the same thing, they get praised
and they're called "handsome" and it's really not that big of a deal, and the
words we associate with them tend to be "cool" and "mysterious", two examples
off the top of my head are V and Jimin from BTS, can you tell I'm not a boy group
Stan, most of these examples will either be 2nd gen boy groups or BTS I'm sorry
there's no in-between! and I've noticed this a lot with V especially, him having
this RBF and no one ever saying anything mean about it, no one ever alluding to
the fact that he might be rude or that he might be mean, instead he's so
handsome and people want him to run them over with their car and I don't
understand! and the thing is this might be something that you subconsciously
think and that's okay, but it's important to acknowledge why you feel that way so
I'll leave some studies down below in the description box if you're interested
in learning more about this, and this is because as a society, we just expect a
lot more from women than we do from men and I hate to make things very binary
like that, and I do 100% recognize gender as a spectrum but regardless of how some
of us feel, or a lot of us feel there are still these gender norms, the societal
and cultural expectations put on to us based on the way that we are born and
the thing is even the way that we're born is somehow binary yet we often
exclude inters*x people, but that's the thing, we cannot ignore the huge impact
that these societal and cultural expectations have on people, let's say
I'm your boss and I tell you that your job is subpar and you need to do it
better, you are going to think that I'm a b!tch and you might think that you have
your s*xism in check, sometimes these are things you don't even notice but you
might think I'm a *****, but if a man tells you that your job is a sub par and you need to do
it better, then he's just being honest and these are things that a lot of us
can tie into our own lives, being seen as b!tchy for something that your male
coworker would be seen as innovative for, it's the same action but the reaction
from people is different. people think Jenni is a ***** when she does the exact same
facial expressions that V would make, so why is she considered rude and why is
he seen as cool in the exact same situation? but I do have to say I'm
really happy to see that more and more people are reclaiming
the meaning of the RBF and turning it into something so much more positive, the
second thing we're gonna talk about is s*xy dancing, for a long time kpop has
been very hypocritical they have been demanding s*xy concepts from girl groups
while bashing them in the same breath, and now maybe this is more of a second
gen issue, and I'm not saying it doesn't exist today but I am saying that we've
seen a much more modest approach to kpop in recent times so though it does still
exist today, it's not as prevalent as it was in second gen. for example if a male
idol ripped his shirt off, then oppa was just being sexy, I'm sorry Koreabooism
was also really prevalent back in the day, example number one! they would
obviously get praised for it but you can imagine if a female idol did the same
thing, not even, if a female idol did something even more tame than tha,t not
even, if a female idol just wears shorts then some creeps on the internet take
issue with it or they'd get banned from KBS! So Hyuna is a perfect example of this
she had her song "bubble pop'' banned because this part was too s*xually suggestive
and then rainbow came out with a song called "a", super iconic song, however it
was too s*xually suggestive because they lifted their shirts ever so slightly and
KBS was not having it, here's the part of the song that offended them so much and
here's some examples of some k-pop boy group choreographies from that same year
that were acceptable!
so an idol like Hyuna was silenced for wanting to express herself while male
artists have very few limitations in the industry, and this is something that Lee Joon
from MBLAQ actually has touched on in the past he himself called at the double
standards in kpop because he was known for his abs he was known for taking his
shirt off and he knew he was getting praised for something that someone else
was getting bashed for, the third thing we're gonna talk about is earned success
I mean of course there are some people who think that boy groups don't deserve
the fame and they have, but you don't tend to see people accusing boy groups
of doing quote-unquote favors to get where they are today, you don't see
people accusing boy groups of sleeping with someone to get where they are
because they got there supposedly on talent alone, so insert boy
group was talented hence their fame was deserved but blackpink was pretty, hence
that's the only reason they're famous and that's really just the tame version
of things, a girl group cannot just be successful on their own, successful for
their talents, they must have done something extra to get where they are
the fourth thing we're gonna talk about is the idea of n*dity, so we did touch on
kind of n*dity like showing skin but this is the idea of nudity and it has to
do with Sulli, she really inspired this point, I considered whether or not it
would be you know acceptable to really bring this up in a video but you know
what she knew the backlash that she was gonna get by uploading photos of her
without a bra and she did it anyways because she wanted to send a message and
I think it's so important for us to continue the conversations that meant a
lot to her, so yeah let's talk about this, male idols can wear like a button-down
shirt with nothing underneath and show their n!pples or anytime there's like
the slightest bit of skin showing a piece of thigh an armpit I don't know
you guys go crazy over, that second gen stans can't relate because our idols
basically were afraid of shirts, but if a female Idol does ir then she's bashed
and she's either s*xualized or demonized, if someone chooses not to wear a bra
it's actually none of your business I said this in the other
video, I'm saying it again. and that's what Sulli advocated for, autonomy over
your own body, and not everyone was receptive to that, that's why I think
it's so important to continue these conversations and to not stop talking
about it, I can't make this video without bringing
yg into this without bringing 2ne1 into this, this is another discusting example
I don't have a title for this, I just thought of this right now when BOM had
her scandal, yg threw her to the dogs, hid her for two years and then made her
disband from 2ne1, when the man of whom we will not speak on this channel had his
scandal yg give that son-of-a-b!tch a perfect platform to resign from Big Bang
with dignity, so one scandal which shouldn't ever have been a scandal, was
treated so differently and it was just disgusting to see the dichotomy between
how he was treated and how BOM was treated for her scandal and the types of
scandals they had we have to admit that one scandal was you know a bit worse
than the other and boom still can't escape it she's still
trashed for it all the time people are still referring to her as a dr*g
smuggler and yet we still see an alarming amount of people still
supporting that man, anyways leave your thoughts in the comments down below
don't forget to suggest some topics for part 2 if you guys are interested in
that I think there's so much more to talk about but I'm conveniently going to
end this video at the ten minute mark I'll see you next time don't forget to
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