Making up between 1 to 3% of the entire population, people with the INFJ personality type are
the ones with introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging personality traits. As gentle
as ever, they’re the thoughtful ones, and the amount of effort they can put into their
loved ones is simply amazing.
This Myers-Briggs personality type is literally a walking contradiction. There are so many
things that are usually misunderstood when it comes to INFJs. The way they react to stuff,
their thinking process, their introvertedness, and their overall demeanor can be confusing
for a lot of people.
Due to being such an extremely rare personality type. Most people are confused about whether
they are INFJ or not. Don’t stress about that because I am going to offer you quite
a bit of clarity. Today I am talking about the top 7 things only real INFJs will understand.
Let’s get into it.
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Kicking things off and number 7 on today’s list is an INFJs self-worth is centered around
their ability to make others happy.
Have you ever felt like not eating because your friend is sad? Or ever had A pang of
strange guilt nagging you because you couldn’t make your friend or loved one feel better
about their personal issues?
One of the most INFJ things to do is to base their self-worth around making others happy
because of their extremely powerful extroverted feeling function.
For instance, if your mother is sad about something and you can’t cheer her up, you
might have felt like a bad child. Even though INFJs know fully well that it is not possible
to keep everyone happy 24/7, they still somehow expect that and end up getting disappointed
when it doesn’t happen.
INFJs have a deep sense of responsibility and they feel like as a good person, it is
their utmost responsibility to improve everything around them.
They believe that every single act of theirs should somehow improve the world as a place,
make their friends and loved ones happy, and help those in distress. If not, they will
continue to get stomped over by their guilt.
Next up and number 6 on our list of things only real INFJs will understand is INFJs get
drained by other people’s emotions.
Have you ever felt like all your life has been sucked out of you when a friend was done
ranting in front of you? Or feel like listening to sad songs or curling up in your blanket
just because your friend vented to you and told you all of their personal issues during
lunchtime at work?
One of the most interesting things about INFJs is that they not only try their best to make
other people happy and solve their problems but they also involuntarily get affected by
other people unloading their emotional dump on them.
This is probably the most INFJ thing ever, one minute you’re feeling sad about your
friend struggling, the next minute you’re finding it extremely impossible for you to
concentrate on your own work. INFJs tend to relate to the pain of others by actually feeling
it. When someone tells them what’s bothering them, they can understand it easily and give
the best advice accordingly.
INFJs always try their best to help them. In fact, this is one of the biggest reasons
why INFJs are the go-to people for their friends and are also referred to as advocates. That
is also why talking to an INFJ about your issues and opening up and being vulnerable
is extremely easy and hardly ever disappointing.
Number 5 today is INFJs prefer staying at home instead of partying.
Do you prefer Weekends at home? Not a fan of all the crowds, noise, hassle at the club?
Most INFJs are willing to give up loud music, be wild with their friends, and prefer to
just stay at home with their thoughts or watch their favorite show, read their favorite book,
paint something or cook something in silence at home. This is because their weakest and
least used function is extroverted sensing. Too much external stimulation will actually
upset and hinder an INFJ.
This Myers-Briggs personality type happens to be quite introverted and seeing them being
the life of the party is extremely rare. Whenever you walk in a room full of lots of people,
the INFJ will hardly ever be talking loudly, laughing loudly, or attracting the attention
of other people.
They will usually be in their corner, trying to pass the time, looking at their phone,
or mentally making a scheme to somehow sneak out and be at a more peaceful and less anxiety-inducing
place.
Number four on our list of things only a real INFJ will understand is, they’re surprisingly
good at talking despite being introverts.
Yes, INFJs typically hate parties, attracting attention, or talking to strangers for no
reason. But they’re also surprisingly good at interacting when it’s needed. How does
that make any sense? For example, during a presentation, INFJs can talk fluently and
confidently. Why doesn’t their introverted nature mess with that?
As I mentioned earlier, INFJs are walking contradictions and due to their personality
type being so rare, there is not nearly enough awareness about them. Yes, they are introverts.
But that means that they don’t like to unnecessarily attract attention or interact with strangers.
When it comes to professional interaction or study-related conversations, they can be
surprisingly fluent and confident. They choose to be soft-spoken and less intimidating during
such occasions.
And it does make sense because someone doesn’t do that much stuff for humanity unless they
have a deep sense of responsibility as a part of society.
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Number three on our list of things only a real INFJ will understand is INFJs can be
clingy or needy.
Being the most sensitive and selfless Myers Briggs personality type, INFJs are usually
extremely thoughtful and expect others to return the same energy and love that they
give.
INFJs have to realize that not everyone is that thoughtful. Not everyone keeps minor
things in mind like someone’s favorite color, their birthday, or their favorite childhood
memory. If you do keep all of those details in mind, that is just you being a thoughtful
and caring person.
Not everyone else can do that, and expecting that from others can usually end up in an
INFJ being quite hurt and it pretty much does. That is another big reason why INFJs usually
come off as clingy or needy. In an attempt to protect their loved ones from any bad things
happening, they can end up unintentionally suffocating them.
In the runner-up spot and number 2 on today’s list is, INFJs love to overthink, almost like
they’re getting paid for it.
Do you feel like you would have won a gold medal if overthinking was an Olympic sport?
And how many times have you thought about that one comment your friend made absentmindedly?
In short, do you love to overthink? If so, you are most likely an INFJ. Due to being
extremely sensitive and thoughtful, INFJs make sure that none of their actions hurt
anyone or make them feel unappreciated, embarrassed, or anything like that. The INFJ happens to
be perfectionists and make sure that whatever they do is the nearest to perfection it can
be.
That is probably why INFJs have thought about cleaning their already clean closet again.
They just cannot help but feel like they can do better than they already did, and always
end up criticizing themselves or being harsh on themselves because they expect themselves
to do better in every situation.
Topping our list and the number thing only a real INFJ will understand is people love
to confide in INFJs.
Being an INFJ is like having a job as an unlicensed therapist. Whether you are at home or at work
or out with friends, they’re always the go-to person whenever it comes to talking
about personal issues, past traumas, or other stuff like that. An INFJs friends find it
extremely easy to confide in them. That is because INFJs happen to be quite sensitive
themselves and they know what you’re feeling already. They never gaslight, invalidate or
mock other people for sharing their problems with them. If anything, they are extremely
understanding and encouraging.
This is one of the big reasons why people find it extremely easy to confide in INFJs
but at the same time, they end up getting drained by that. When people tell an INFJ
about the stuff that has been haunting them and mentally pressuring them, it almost feels
like a therapy session.
But at the end of the therapy session, turns out, whatever they say is emotionally exhausting
and draining for an INFJ as well. That is because INFJs not only understand the problems
of their loved ones, they feel it on a deeply emotional and personal level as well.
If you feel drained by other people venting to you, love to stay at home and read a book
instead of going out and partying, hate the attention of people you don’t know, and
overthink as if you are getting paid for it, then congratulations, you might just be an
INFJ!
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