I don't like wish.
Wishing says to your mind you haven't got a prayer,
but you might as well wish.
Because wishing just says, "You're not going to do that."
Oh, I wish… No one says, "I wish I could get up in the
morning and clean my teeth.
I wish I could pick up that pencil and write a note."
You don't say wish. You go, "I'm doing it."
So when you say to the mind, "I wish I could," it says,
"Yeah, me too. Get over it."
When you say to the mind, "I hope, I hope I get this
right," it goes, "Yeah, well, keep hoping, because you're not
going to do that."
When you go, "If only," your mind goes,
"Well, you've never managed it before, so keep on with
the if only, why don't you?"
But when you do it differently, I go, "I will memorize this,"
it's going in.
"I have a phenomenal memory. My memory is awesome.
I read things and they empower me and they stick.
And I remember everything."
It has a totally different effect.
Every thought you think and every word you say forms
a blueprint and your mind must work to make that
blueprint real.
So when you say, "I can't remember anything.
I'd lose the eyes in the back of my head if they weren't fixed
in there because I just can't remember anything,"
your mind goes, "That's the blueprint.
Let me take you to it."
If your boss says to you, "Can you do this?"
you go, "Oh, my god, I'm going to have to race
through it. And I'm going to have to rush it.
I haven't got enough time to prepare.
I know I'm going to get it wrong.
I'm going to go on stage and my mouth will go, 'uh, uh, uh.'"
Well, when you say that, it tends to be realized.
In powerful language, you can never say,
"You're going to fall. You're going to mess that up.
You're going to ruin everything.
That's just not going to work out."
You have to say the opposite.
"Okay, I've only got 10 minutes to prepare my speech.
I only need 10 minutes.
I've only got 10 minutes to get there, that's exactly how much
time I need.
And if I'm late, I wasn't supposed to be there on time."
In fact, I was recently going in a cab across town to get a train
to work with a football team, and we got stuck in traffic.
And so I was playing a game.
I'm like, "Oh my god, I'm going to miss the train.
This is terrible. I'm going to ruin my reputation.
The team are going to be so upset," and I felt really sick.
And then I start to say, "The trains run every
20 minutes. It doesn't matter.
What's 20 minutes? My material is so great.
They have lots of time after they finish practicing at 3:00."
And it was fine.
So all the way there, I was playing a game and I
actually got the train on time, but they really wouldn't
have minded, but I could've ruined my day, made myself
panicky and sweaty by going, "Oh my god, I haven't got enough
time and now, it's all ruined." And it's never ruined.
You can come back from anything because the mind believes what
you tell it. You see, you have a choice.
Every day, you get to choose how to speak to yourself.
You know what you don't get to choose?
What you do to your body when you say, "I'm an idiot.
I knew I'd mess that up.
I knew that relationship wouldn't work.
I'd been waiting for it to go wrong.
In fact, the day we got married, I stuck stickers in all my stuff
so that when we got divorced, there'd be no confusion."
They plan it. And you don't want to plan it.
You want to ban it.
Well, you can choose to be negative or positive.
That's your choice.
But you cannot choose what you do to yourself when you use
negative language.
So the first rule of the mind, what you expect is realized.
So here's my advice to you, expect amazing things then.
If what is expected tends to be realized, expect the best.
Expect love and success and an amazing life because,
you know what, it will probably be realized really fast if you
expect it.
When I meet clients and they go, "I love the words, where did you
get those words?"
I'm like, "Well, I find the most negative ones
and I flip them over.
I'm useless. I'm spectacular.
I'm terrified. I'm delighted."
And by the way, fear and excitement are exactly the same.
You can be on a fun fair screaming your head off,
we're going, "Oh, look at that wheel, are they scared
or excited?" I don't know. Do you?
Because it's the same.
When you're excited, you scream. When you're scared, you scream.
So whatever you're doing, say, "I'm excited,"
and you'll feel excited.
Or go, "I'm terrified," and you'll feel terrified.
Here's your mind's job. It's got a very clear job.
I'm your mind and I'm going to do what I think you want.
Who's ever done this?
"What I would give for a week of lying in bed."
Your mind goes, "Leave that with me. Now, you've got the flu.
How cool am I? I listened to you.
You wanted a week off lying around watching Netflix,
now you got it."
That's not what you wanted.
You need to say, "I need some time and I'm like a battery,
I need to recharge.
And I'm okay at working full out all week, because at weekends,
I recharge like a battery."
Now your mind understands, but saying,
"I'd give anything not to have to chair that meeting,"
your mind goes, "How about a nice dose of diarrhea?
I can bring that up for you.
You don't want to chair that meeting, you said I'd do
anything not to go."
"I'd rather kill myself than give that presentation
to my boss."
Your mind goes, "No, don't kill yourself.
I'll just give you a really upset stomach.
Now, you can't even leave the bathroom.
There's no chance you're meeting your boss.
Done what you wanted."
I know I'm making it funny, but it is funny that so many
people don't understand.
Your mind's job is to do what it thinks you want and it bases
that on one thing, the words you use.
Why don't you do your job and talk to your mind better?
And here's some great news.
You can change those words and change those pictures like that.
And when you do that, it changes everything.
"I've got to work on my website all weekend and all my friends
are in the bar, so I can link paper.
It's not fair.
It's not fair that I got to spend all weekend writing when I
could be in the pub," now your mind's going to go, "I think you
should tidy up your sock drawer, make sure all your forks face
the right way, then plump up the cushions and then go to pub,
because it's very clear you do not want to work
on your website."
But oh boy, getting those forks and knives in line
is really compelling.
Who's done that?
Most of us do that.
I suddenly need to do the laundry, which I don't
even like. I'm tidying up my house, because I'm saying,
"I don't want to write that bit of work."
How about saying, "It thrills me to work on my website.
I'm elated working on my website.
There is nowhere I'd rather be in the whole world right now
than sitting in my office working on my website."
Your mind goes, "I'm going to set you on fire now.
You're going to be doing this till 2 in the morning.
You told me you love it, and it thrills you, let me fill
you up with energy and passion."
I'm a writer, I know how this works.
I know the, "Oh, my god, I've got to write a book.
That's so lonely.
It's so isolating and what if no one likes…what if it goes
on Amazon, they go, 'I hate that book' and it gets no stars?"
Or I can go, "I love writing. How cool is that?
I get to write and people pay for my books and they like them
and they give me great reviews."
Because there's a choice going on again.
So whatever you want, you must link massive pleasure
to what you want, because what you want wants you.
And what you are moving towards is moving towards you.
Don't move towards fear. Don't move towards failure.
Don't move towards it going wrong.
Move towards it going right.