- [Amanda] Hello, Psych2Goers, welcome back.
Okay, picture this.
You're on your first date with the person of your dreams.
You've planned every last detail,
from the fuzzy orange sweater you'll wear
to the cozy cat cafe you'll go to.
You arrive at the cafe.
kittens abound and see them waiting for you at your table.
That's when you realize, "What on earth will I say?"
I mean, what happens after hello?
Existential questions swirl in your head.
"What will we talk about?
How will I get to know them?
Will we just talk about cats?"
While spending the day discussing animals at a cat cafe
sounds fun for most,
it's not always the best way to get to know someone,
unless they'd specifically defined themselves
as the notorious cat person.
So to steer you in the right direction,
here are some questions to help you
really get to know someone fast.
All right, number one.
If you were immortal, how would you spend your life?
This question really gets them to think about
what they truly want to do
and how they keep themselves entertained and happy,
even well into the years of immortality.
Number two.
What is the one thing people misunderstand about you?
Often others can misread us.
If only we could let others know who we really are
and clear up their misconceptions about us,
this question gives them a chance
to finally explain themselves and show who they really are.
Number three, how do you want to be remembered?
This question can really give insight
into another's values in life.
Do they want to be known for their achievements,
their kindness, their relationships?
Number four, what's on your bucket list this year?
Most of us secretly have a bucket list
sitting at the back of our brain piling up.
Instead of focusing on your life's bucket list,
ask them what they want to do this year.
They may just have a surprising answer.
Be sure to share your bucket list as well
once they've answered.
Number five.
What's something you've dreamt about doing for a long time?
Why haven't you done it?
For many of us, our dreams and goals
are an important part of our lives.
Upon talking about their interests and dreams,
ask about something they haven't yet been able to do.
Not only will this question give insight
into who they want to become,
but the why may even give clues
into what they're going through in the present.
Number six, what is your most treasured memory?
This question can really give insight into their past.
How far back does their memory go?
Is it from childhood; the present?
Is someone else involved in the memory?
Number seven, do you have a philosophy you like to live by?
This question will either tell you how they're living
or how they want to live.
The next question you have to ask yourself is,
does this make you compatible?
Okay, number eight.
Where do you see yourself after five years?
Everybody gets this question at a job interview,
and while it may seem boring, it's asked for a reason.
It shows you if they like to plan ahead,
if they have goals, or if they like to live carefree
and see where life takes them.
Number nine, what's your favorite book or show?
You need to know this question
because any good friend or partner
knows the answer to this question.
It can tell you many little things.
One, it will tell you if they like to read or not.
Two, are they more of a TV or film person?
And the why is where it really gets interesting.
What was it about this movie or novel that affected them?
And number 10, what truly makes you happy?
We are our best selves when we're happy.
So isn't it important to know what it is
that it makes us feel this joy?
They may have to think about this one for a moment
or maybe they just know it right away.
Either way, talking about what makes us happy
is likely to well, make us happy.
So you're already off to a great start.
Which of these questions intrigued you the most?
Which will you use on your next date
or get together with a friend?
Will you ask them at a cat cafe?
Let us know in the comments down below
and be sure to share with us how it went
once you ask them.
Until then, we will be waiting in anticipation.
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