Do you want to know how you can use quantum law to beat narcissists? By the end of this video,
I'm going to teach you how to harness the power of quantum law to help you beat that narcissist.
Hi, I'm Rebecca Zung, and I've been recognized as one of the top attorneys in the country,
and I've written a couple of bestselling books, Negotiate Like You MATTER and Breaking Free:
A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide, and what I do is I help people with step-by-step guidance on how
to get out of relationships with narcissists by negotiating your way into creating bulletproof
leverage, invincible strategies so that you can get what you want, what's fair, and also give
them maybe what's coming to them. If that all sounds good to you, make sure you hit subscribe
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So why am I talking about quantum law and karma and all of these things when I'm a lawyer?
I'm going to tell you why right now, because mindset is 50% of winning a negotiation,
and intention is a huge part of that. 80% of a negotiation is one before you even walk into
the room, because it comes to your planning and preparation, yes, of course, but it is a huge part
of it ... Is your mindset. It is one of the most important parts of it. And mindset also
has to do with your thoughts, and your thoughts are energy. And what quantum law says is that
whatever energy you're putting out there, that's the energy that you're going to get.
Like attracts like. It's just physics. Okay? And so when you are forming a thought in your mind
and you're placing that thought out into the world, you are basically placing an order to
the universe, and you're saying to the universe, this is what I want to have happen,
this is how I want it to go. So if you say things to the universe, like I'm never going to get that,
he or she always gets their way. I can never win. I'm not even going to try to get
this particular thing because it's never going to happen. The universe goes, okay, because
whatever you're a little beams of thought are, that energy that you place out into the world,
that's what comes back to you. Your thoughts are literally just protons,
neutrons, and electrons and ions, all just floating around in your brain. That's all they
are. You can't feel them, you can't touch them. As fast as they come into your brain,
they can go back out of your brain. Let's just try and experiment right now. I want you to
close your eyes and I want you to think about a white picket fence. Just hold that in your mind.
Now, let it go. Is it still there? No, it's not. It's gone. And
it's the same thing with your thoughts. The only thing is, when you start to have beliefs,
that just means that it's a thought that you've thought over and over and over again,
and now it's become a belief. And now you just believe that it's true,
but it's only because you've been thinking it so many times that it becomes like true to you,
but it doesn't mean it's necessarily true. If you want to know more about power thinking
when it comes to narcissists, make sure to check out my video called, power thinking when it comes
to narcissist, because making sure you have a powerful mind is going to be so, so important.
So what happens when you're harnessing the power of quantum law is you're basically lining up the
power of the universe to say, this is how I want it to go. It's almost like you're setting your
GPS. And if you're driving from Los Angeles to San Diego and you don't know how to get there, you're
going to put a thing in your GPS, and you're just going to assume that you're going to drive there.
At no point do you go, "Well, maybe I'm going to get there and maybe it's going to happen, maybe
not. Maybe I'll end up in Oregon or something like that." You don't think that, right? But that's
what we do with our thoughts. We go, "Okay, well, I think I'd like this to happen, maybe
it won't. Maybe I'll end up over here, maybe I'll end up over there." You can't do that when you are
harnessing the power of quantum law, because the universe of physics is such that he will
respond to exactly what you put out there. Like attracts like. That is a physics
law. And so your thoughts are going to be mounted into the energy and whatever it is that you put
out there is going to come back to you. So the first step in actually beating that
narcissist is believing that you can, and not only believing it, but knowing it with
every cell of your body, that this is how it's going, no matter what, this is the direction
that it's going to head. I am going to receive this. I am going to let them know that I am
more powerful. They are going to see that they are no longer the more powerful one, that they
are no longer the one who's controlling me. I am the one who's in control. I am the one who's in
control of my thoughts, my life, my outcomes. And then that's how it ends up going to go.
The universe wants to respond to you. It absolutely is at the ready. It's like the
soldiers who are just, as soon as you clap, boom, there they are. "What would you like?"
But you have to let them know what it is, because if you say I'm never going to win,
I shouldn't even bother to try, then that's how it's going to go. And the other thing
that's really, really important is that you need to make sure that you are not saying things to
the universe that's going to make the universe believe that you're not in control.
And by saying things like I'm a victim, I can never win, or I need a good lawyer,
or somebody else has to help me, or I need more money, or all of those kinds of things
you're basically saying to the universe, I don't have it now. I'm not in control.
I can't do it. The way things are now, it's not going to happen. And then that's what's going to
happen. You've placed that order to the universe. So if you are a winner and you're changing your
mindset to be a mindset of a winner, then I want to see I'm a winner in the comments right now.
Go ahead, write it, I'm a winner. I want you to start saying that to yourself over and over and
over again. That's your mantra. I am a winner. I recently read a book called Untamed by Glennon
Doyle, which was really, really great, especially if you're a woman, I don't know. Maybe you guys
would like it too, but it was really a good book. And one of the things that she said was
her mantra in that book was I can do hard things. And at first I was like,
I don't know, I can do hard things. Is that a good mantra? And then I started to
think about it. It was, okay, now, yeah. If I'm getting ready to do something that maybe
feels like a challenge, or maybe I'm afraid of, then just say to yourself, I can do hard things.
And another one that I read one time was a book by Elizabeth Gilbert, and I think the book was Big
Love, and we'll make sure we drop links to these books down below if you want to check them out.
No obligation, but if you want to check them out, you can. Anyway, in the book Big Love,
Elizabeth Gilbert talks about fear and she talks about how anytime she does something new,
she used to say, "Oh, I have to get rid of fear. I can't have fear come with me no matter what. I
just got to figure out a way to get rid of it." Well, but the truth is that none of us ever
completely figured out a way to operate into a new world or a new thing without any fear whatsoever.
The courage is doing it in the face of fear, right? Like the Cowardly Lion in The Wizard of Oz.
And so what Elizabeth Gilbert says in that book is that she
has learned to go, okay, and have a conversation with fear and say, "All right, fear. We're going
on a trip. We're doing this thing, and we're going to get in the car. And I understand that you're
going to have to come along. I would like for you not to come along, but I understand that you're
coming along against my wishes. So, okay, fine fear. You get to come, but you definitely do not
get to drive. You have to sit in the backseat. I'm driving. You don't get to drive. You don't
get to navigate. You definitely do not even get to touch the radio. You don't get to touch play
the songs. You just have to sit there and shut up while I'm doing this thing and I'm driving.
So fear you're coming, but I'm driving." And I thought that was a beautiful, beautiful analogy.
So if you want to use quantum law to beat that narcissist, the thing you have to do
is start with your thoughts. Start like pinging into the universe. Remember, like attracts like.
So what you ping out, pings right back to you. It's like a boomerang. So if you want
good things to start coming to you, you better start being very, very aware of the things that
you're pinging out into the universe so that the right things start pinging back to you,
and that's the way you're going to start the path of beating that narcissist.
So if you want to know more about how to negotiate with a narcissist,
grab my free ebook, it's a Crush My Negotiation Prep Worksheet. You go to winmynegotiation.com,
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and it's all yours for free. Also, feel free to join me in my free private Facebook group called
Narcissist Negotiators with Rebecca Zung, and we'll make sure to drop links to all
this stuff below. If you like this video, make sure you like it, share it, drop me a comment
and let me know that you are a winner. Say I'm a winner, or tell me what mantra you're going to be
using. I want to see it in the comments. And thank you so much for joining me on
this edition of negotiate your best life, and I will see you in the next few.