So first things first.. let’s get rid of the ugly word masturbation and exchange it
with the fairy-word self-pleasure.
The word masturbation etymologically speaking refers to defiling oneself with one’s hands.
Whoever invented that word must have been very unhappy..
Anyways in today’s video I’ll share with you my 5 secrets to an awesome self- pleasure
ritual. And it might even help you to have longer and stronger orgasms.
Before we jump right into my secrets let me share with you some food for thought..
Ancient taoist philosophers used to say:
“The perfect lover knows how to love himself in a healthy way.”
They knew that through the art of self-pleasure one could increase sexual energy, sensitivity,
self-love and sexual confidence.
And modern studies even found that if a man can resist 15-30 minutes of self-pleasure
he will be able to last as long as he wants.
They also found that women with a healthy self-pleasure practice would have more intense
and more satisfying orgasms.
The sad thing though is that most people do not grow up in an environment that speaks
about self-pleasure in a healthy, open and natural way. x
I mean when I was young I remember that I used to lock myself in the bathroom. No one
had ever told me that self-pleasure was empowering, okay and even healthy.
But hiding our desires leads to guilt and shame. And these feelings may strongly influence
our complete sexuality in later years.
Therefore let us now look into my 5 secrets to a healthy self-pleasure ritual.
The single most important thing is for you to feel safe.
Chose a room you feel safe in. Maybe even lock it. Create a beautiful ambience.. turn
off your phone, play some soft music and light candles. It may feel weird, but it definitely works.
Oh and boo.. make sure you have enough time. It is really important that you do not feel
rushed.
Babe.. I got a question for you: How would you make love to the person you love the most?
Yep.. this is how you should also make love to yourself. Feel love for yourself when you
touch yourself. Believe me.. this is empowering beyond measure - physically, emotionally and
spiritually.
To activate this mindset deepen your breathing and become aware of everything going on around
and within you.. sounds, scents, feelings. Get still before you begin to touch yourself.
Now let me tell you something .. Self-pleasure is not and should never be just genital focuses.
It is a freaking whole body experience.
So start by caressing and exploring your entire body. .. your hands, ankles, face, belly.
This is super important to help activate your complete sexual body. No one is watching you
so just give it a try.
Most women and men tend to go right to the most sensitive spots in their intimate area
but I challenge you to caress your complete pussy and your entire penis.
According to Chinese medicine, touching different parts of the penis's body and your pussy will
stimulate different parts of your body.
Therefore the penis should be touched from base to head, to the testicles and perineum.
And the pussy from the outer to the inner vaginal lips, from the lower to the higher
vaginal canal.. the G-spot..the clitoris and everything around it.
And here are some more amazing ideas for you..
Babe.. the number one rule to a good self-pleasure time is deep breathing.
Breathe into your pelvic region to keep the belly soft. Try not to hold your breath. Your
breath connects you with your complete body and helps to circulate your sexual energy.
And rule number 2 is awareness. Try to get aware of your degrees of arousal. This will
help especially men to last longer.
When you feel you are getting close to the point of no-return, stop, take a deep breath
and relax. Then continue..
And boo.. if you really want to reap all benefits from this kind of self-pleasure cut out
porn, vibrators and any other external stimulation. When you zap through porn or work your vibrator
you are busy with the external and do not feel what’s going on in your heart and body.
And this one is for my boys out there.. Try to retain your sperm as often as possible.
You can totally have an awesome self-pleasure time without ejaculation.
From modern science, to ancient taoist doctors to western and eastern athletic coaches..
they all preach the same. If a man practices semen retention he’ll boost his stamina,
vitality, mental clarity and so many more pretty amazing things. (.. write >> we’ll
talk about this another time so be cautious to do this without proper knowledge)
I hope this was of much, much help to you. And please remember this is called practice
not perfection.
Sometimes you may be flooded with thoughts, sometimes you will go back to porn or use
your vibrator.. that’s totally cool.. accept it and next time try it again without and
with higher intentions and thoughts. And babe.. if you dig this video don’t be
shy to share it, the world needs more brave and open-minded souls just like you.
I'm sending you much much love. Peace. I am out of here.
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