hey there I've gotta tell you words can hurt whoever started the quote sticks
and stones will break your bones but names can never hurt you was a done
mighty fibber sure perhaps a great throwback in the schoolyard when you're
feeling bullied but in real life no matter how stoic and confident you might
be words can cut like a knife as a man ever said something to you that stopped
you dead in your tracks or instantly got your heart racing and blood pumping and
not in a sexy way without knowing it has a man said something to you that hurt
your feelings and once said the words had done their damage and we're
impossible to take back what men can also experience this with women if
you're anything like me an open honest and playful soul then there's probably
come a time when you've said something that makes a man either question himself
or question his relationship with you of course you don't want to walk on
eggshells it's important to be in a real and transparent relationship and yet
it's equally important to be mindful of some of the key things you might say to
a man you really like or love that can see him feeling inadequate or inferior
or simply confused and confusion often creates indifference it normally sees
people pulling away to protect themselves and to work out their
feelings don't get me wrong cheeky and flirty banter is important men love
playful fun and open women though sometimes when we're playing we can say
things in jest that can be a dig or a put-down in some way which creates doubt
and a murky energy not true levity and connection. The six points I'm about to share with you
might not at first glance sound unpleasant to you, yet they can be
like daggers to his heart and I'm not exaggerating. So stay with me for these
Hi and welcome back I'm Nadine Piat from Healthy You Healthy Love and the creator
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comment and join the conversation with me. So let's get into it, here are the six
things you should never say to a man you like or love: Number 1 - Why
can't you be more like X why is it best never to say this because it sounds like
you're unhappy with your man you might want to say it as a joke but there's a
grain of truth in it and this is the only thing he will hear that he is not
good enough he's not meeting up to your expectations or what you want just think
for a second how you'd feel if he told you why can't you be more like this and
that girl he used to know or worse his mother
I know sometimes these things just slip out of our mouths without even thinking
but words like this can be really really hurtful men hate to be compared to
others unless of course the comparison is in their favor your man wants to feel
that you've chosen him because you like him as he is not for sure you want him
to be number two you're taking me out to dinner
right best to never say this because it's an order it's as simple as that now
what's wrong with orders don't men love to be ordered around by strong confident
women the short answer is no well not quite like that being confident means
knowing who you are knowing what you want and how to make it happen
confidence is not domination men do like confident women that's true what they
hate real from is domineering women unless they have a problem with their
self-esteem but that's a different topic entirely so while it's okay to be the
one initiating plans for dinner or anything else don't make it sound like
an order make it sound like a delightful proposal he'll accept it without feeling
uncomfortable about you pressuring him you're dating not playing battle of the
Wills and if your man never takes you out to dinner or you don't go out on
date and the romance is dead bordering him is not likely to work and
non-judgmental and open-hearted discussion about what you value in a
relationship and what you're both willing to invest and commit to would be
a better way to go about it number three my ex was why it's better never to say
this well it's kind of obvious maybe I don't need to explain but here we go
the only thing men hate more than being compared to someone you know is being
compared to that special someone you used to be with before you met him the
topic of exes is usually an uncomfortable one for both partners in a
relationship I personally don't have a problem with hearing a little bit about
exes and I assume that because I wasn't bothered that the guy I'm dating
wouldn't be bothered either but most people are not like this over time I
learnt to avoid bringing up an ex for the sake of a funny story
or for any other reason bottom line yes you have exes they existed that's enough
now they're in the past and it's you two that matter yet there's one exception
here though wouldn't really advise going with it if you compare a new man to your
ex to tell him how much better he is than that ex well it might work but be
careful even this will remind him that he's not your first and most men don't
like that I know it's kind of silly but there you have it by the way I have a
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do I look fat why it's best to never say this rather why would you ever say this
to a man this is the night question that turns men into balls of
nerves beneath that solid poker-faced exterior this kind of question is
petrifying to a man because there was only one right answer and no right
answer to this question and deep inside each and every one of us knows it but
why do so many women keep asking it does she need the reassurance yes it would
seem but would you believe him when he says that you do not look fat at all
even if he means every word chances are you won't and what if he says yes just
to be cheeky and to mock you and the question I'm sure you don't need me to
tell you what happens after this so spare him and yourself don't ask if he
looked fat he doesn't care about your weight nearly as much as you do or your
tan makeup or clothes he loves you exactly
as you are very few men give a hoot so start accepting and loving your booty
your hips your breasts and tantalize him with your confidence and if you're out
of shape and you want to change this then do it for you it's all about self
love and self honor and only you can know what you value for you number 5 you
can't do that or don't do that why it's best to never say this say these things
can feel like a slap across the face I kick to the ego and then knock to his
masculinity well you don't want to pander to his ego you also don't want to
emasculate him or treat him like a child without a mind of his own if you wanted
to feel good being around you and unless his life is in real danger
don't tell him there's something he can't do men are not fools they know
they can't do everything but just don't like to hear this from their fair ladies
your man wants you to see him as strong capable of solving every problem never
needing help from anyone if you suggest that he's none of these things by
telling him you can't change a tire well you don't know the first thing about
bond investing or maybe he's cutting Tomatoes and is not cutting them how you
like them to be cut by telling him he can't do it the way he is and that your
way is better is making him wrong and useless and this shuts down
anyone namely your man number six nothing why it's best never
to say this because it's never nothing it's funny how we try to hide the
emotional storms raging inside us behind this poor innocent word but it ain't so
funny we know we do it because if we start talking you might say something
you believe he doesn't want to hear about or can't handle and we fear she'll
run away but men want to hear what's important to you great men relationship
ready men will not run away if what's niggling at you is fair and reasonable
when your man asks you what's wrong and hears nothing or I'm fine that's when he
might start thinking about running away he has eyes and consent something is off
without you having to speak so when he asked what's going on for you he wants
to know what it is so he can help that's his train of thought it's very
simple so don't talk to him don't be passive-aggressive instead tell him
what's wrong women make the mistake by believing that if you really loved me he
would just know what I'm thinking he'll know what's wrong sure sometimes he will
know that often he won't know was exactly eating away at your soul or
he'll know is that he feels like he can't win with you or that he's in the
doghouse it's in your interest to be brave to be bold and to speak up with
confidence clarity and care no blaming or shaming tell him how you feel
own your feelings humans are really good at misinterpretation and creating
stories about their relationship that are often inaccurate so talking about
them is far better than holding on to them or hoping he will read your mind
that's it for this video please comment below and let me know if you have any
other words to add to my list and I'd love to hear which of the six points you
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