For me the thing that shift first was
just my thinking you know I'm saying
just like yo for real and again
I love my people I love my
especially my mom because my mom is the one
that's got the opinion you know and
I love my mom but I'll be real with you
I remember being at a space in my mind
where I was like I gotta free myself
from what my mama think you know because
my mom has this you know and I respect
I wont say she was against entrepreneurs but
for real she grew up in like with that
that Industrial Revolution you know
and she was about going to work putting in
40, 50 hours you know in 30 years you retire
so for my mom it was like
I almost embraced that as my mindset
without realizing that's not my mindset
and so for a lot of you they're listening
your mindset is really not even your mindset
your mindset might be your parents
your mindset might be the culture
you know the city you grew up in
the school you went to you know
if you were you know low socioeconomic status
like that is more your mindset
and I don't know of a lot of us I've ever had a chance
to even know what our mindset is
and that's the first thing I had to do
see I had to break away from
you know what because again
you want to make your parents proud
you know you want to be
in a good way affirmed by your parents but
you know it you got to break away
brother I remember me and jaylen getting
into it and not necessarily getting into it
but my man kind of like he fought
back you know and I was like Boy
you know you could write a book you know
you could speak you could do XYZ when
you graduate you know I'm saying to make money
and he was working with us and I
was giving him my opinion J was like you know
that's what you want me to do
I'm not trying to write no book you know
only because of what I've gone through see
I didn't try to snap his neck you know
but I realized what he was doing
he was like you wrote a book
you speak like that's not what I do
you know I'm saying like I know what I want to do
and he was free enough to have his
own thinking and I think that's when everything
changed for me when I was like yo I'm
not embracing what other people think
and and here's why because there were
people who were aggressively telling me
what I was thinking was wrong
and it wasn't even like
they were financially sweet so they
trying to tell me what to do and what
not to do you know in terms of my
industry or my career or my calling and
I'm following them and they not even
happy with what they doing like my mom
no disrespect but my mom is working with me now
wrote a book speaking and she's loving it
you know way more than she loved when
she was working a 9-to-5 so I
think for me see the first thing was you
gotta have like your mindset got to change
and you have to be free to
think like you want to think you got to
be free to say it's okay to make you
know fifty sixty thousand dollars to speak
to fly first-class like it ain't
even about flying first-class it ain't even
about making good money speaking it ain't even
about saying I want to win a Nobel Prize
it's freeing myself from all the other
voices bruh from all the other pressures
and saying to myself
I'm going to start the rest of my life I'm going to
think how I want to think I'm going to
believe how I want to believe and I'm
not gonna let Society or nobody else and
my mom wasn't like negative with it she
wasn't trying to dog me out
she was legitimately afraid that
entrepreneurship wouldn't work
but I'm thinking what if I would have allowed
my mom's thinking to
override my thinking where would I be
where would my mom be so yeah for me see
everybody kept calling me like what's
the first step and I think for me the
first step is being free to believe in
what you're thinking and just change
your mindset as a whole bruh
for me the first step is just opening yourself up
to new experiences and new role models
because most of us can't see ourselves
in people so then we try and fit
ourselves into the boxes that we do see
and I mean there's this beautiful quote
that I've been saying it everywhere and I
wish I wrote it but I didn't so it's by
a philosopher and writer named Cooley
and he said that today
I'm not what I think I am
I'm not what you think I am
I am what I think you think I am
just let that blow your mind for a moment
it's so powerful I'm not what I think I am
I'm not what you think I am
I am what I think you think I am
so we live in this perception of a perception
of ourselves hence my identity is made
by what my
parents think I should be my identity is
made up by what my college or university
thinks I should achieve while you're
living in that bubble and that echo chamber
getting to what you really want to do
is impossible because maybe that
just doesn't fit and I think so many
people feel that way today
that they don't fit into the current education system
they don't fit with the
three or four or five careers that you're
taught exist so that process of
self excavation and actualization first
requires being exposed you can't be what
you can't see if I never meet a
billionaire I wouldn't want to be one
because I don't know what that feels like
I don't know what it looks like
I don't know what it takes and I think
that's the biggest challenge of our
society that we're not exposed so that's
the first step being exposed to unique
experiences and role models second step
is finding that experience or role model
that you're passionate about and exactly
like you said taking it seriously
shadow them network with them spend
time with them observe them even from
afar it takes that observation being
addicted to observing that person's
lifestyle and then the third step is
going yes or no does that work for me
but not everyone is gonna go and follow
and shadow a billionaire ago that's exactly
the lifestyle I want they may want the result
but do they want the hard work
that goes with it and so for me that's
the third step its observing focusing
shadowing getting as close to the
process of that individual and then
going yes or no do I want that process
not do I want the result
You can't listen to broke people or people who are
financially stressed tell you how to
make money right and I used to get on like not in a
bad way but I used to like try to
like DD please because DD would say all the
time like alright when y'all graduate
you know when y'all get a job I was like
stop saying that like well that was your
reality specifically because you have a
need for security like not in a bad way
you're a great mom but don't teach our
babies to go work for nobody
so you know we have to be careful for those of
you who are listening like you know
you have to cut a lot of people off because
every time you try to do something
they're gonna try to discourage you and
you're not careful that negative talk is
gonna kill you I'm telling
you cannot do it so when we were with Josh
and Jamal in Utah I promise you bruh
a light went off for me and of course
it's been a long time
since I looked at money as a stressor
but what that conversation did for me
with mal especially was mal said he
has multiple properties i was like E!
you got at least 5 to 10 more businesses
just in your voice
just in your throat E!
like you're the best in the world
there are so many things that you
can do for your daughter you can set
your daughter up for jaylen there's some
things you can do to set jaylen up that
maybe you're not interested in it but
but they could definitely do it i'm
learning how to think different and not
scare my son and scare my daughter
and stop putting all these boundaries on
them and all of these ok be careful
don't do this don't that no you're still single
go take risk because once you get married
brother you're not gonna want to take them
once you have kids you're not gonna
want to take them so that mindset thing
is important and y'all got to stop
hanging around people who they always
putting boundaries around you always
talking negative even when they not like
I'm being real I had to stop talking to
my mom not because I didn't love my mom
but it was like a million questions
every time about entrepreneurship and it
was starting to like get to me like not
that I was gonna not be an entrepreneur
but it was like yo I'm tired of
having to defend myself I'm tired of
having to explain myself I'm tired of
having to prove to you that what I'm
doing is right so when we talk let's not
talk money no more
let's talk about everything but money
and let's not talk about me being no entrepreneur
and for real even with my
wife earlier in the game I had to just
stop having certain conversations
because they're not bad people but
they're security people and I'm like yo
I can't do it like I can't talk to y'all
Because that's their emotional
response to money its security right and
I'm just being real this is exactly what
I'm talking about E and the haves have
because they not interested in security
now I'm not telling you to be dumb about it
but I'm saying they have a growth mindset
where as was we have a fixed
mindset you go to work and get paid X
like I said I love my pops he
provided a great middle-class lifestyle
but it was you got the same thing
the cheque every single friday like Mark said
he said
You know as a cop they put your cheque in the box
you walk up there boom you take
your cheque you can see what everybody
else makes because everybody makes the
same amount so if you have that type of mindset
then of course security is
everything because there's only
a certain amount to go around
what millionaires understand is that
money is in abundance right, ABUNDANCE
Mal said he made more than he ever made
during the recession he made a ton of money why
because he believes that money's in abundance
where as we're always taught
security, save and we put money on this
pedestal you cannot put money on a
pedestal if it's a tool right we don't
put our toaster on a pedestal
we don't put like our vacuum cleaner on a pedestal
it's a tool it has a purpose
it serves a function and it's
not this emotional thing of oh my god if
I got it then I'm okay and if as soon as
I lose a cut I'm out like if you operate
like that you can never be great and you
can never have a secure relationship
with money which is why for real
I wake up every day and I'm not kidding this is
not a joke I wake up every single day
I say this is the brokest you'll be this is
the absolute brokest you will be this is the poorest
you will be today is the
poorest you'll ever be in your life