Hi there everyone!
Today I'm going to introduce to you a concept which is going to save your life.
It is so important to remember.
Most of us in the spiritual community, in the self-help community
try to be above it all.
That's what we expect of ourselves.
We expect ourselves to be above the highs and the lows of life.
Or if not above the highs, in the highs, twenty four hours a day
so if we're not experiencing joy, something has gone terribly wrong.
Expecting ourselves to be above it all is to add torture on top of pain;
it's to basically abandon yourself in the quicksand of your own pain.
So part of you is drowning in it
and the other part wants to ignore the part that's drowning in it.
I'm laughing, but it's not that funny.
It is ironic that those of us that fancy ourselves to be the most in alignment
are the most resistant to being out of alignment,
which is, in and of itself, a state of being out of alignment.
It is impossible to focus positively,
when you have something that you are trying to avoid,
especially a strong fear or other strong negative emotion.
When we are feeling strong negative emotion,
we are feeling desperate.
You always get that desperate feeling,
when you're trying to get away from something
and go towards something else.
And obviously anytime you're trying to get away from something,
you are resisting it
and therefore, you are focusing upon it in a subconscious way.
Whatever we resist, persists.
If we would quit resisting it, it would cease to exist.
And so there is only one option:
That option is to positively embrace your negative emotion.
The positive embracing of negative emotions is one of the most crucial skills for you to learn.
See, emotions are like clay.
You can learn to mould your emotions by virtue of your thoughts.
But to try to mould your life into something pleasing,
when you are unwilling to acknowledge,
touch and embrace anything other than positive emotion,
is like a sculptor being unwilling to work with the clay
as it currently is, in its raw and cold form;
it is to reject the clay and demand that you will only touch it once it's warm and soft.
This will never work because the thing that transforms
that raw, cold clay into soft, warm clay
is the non-resistant, loving embrace of the sculptor's hands.
Until we are willing to approach our negative emotions
with acceptance, compassion and most especially, willingness to feel them,
we cannot mould the clay of our life into anything different than what it is.
There will be no change; our emotions will remain negative
in the same way that the sculptor's clay will remain cold and raw.
You have been taught that negative emotion
means that something has gone wrong.
This is one of the things that I can't stand about positive-focus communities.
It makes negative emotion and negative thought
out to be something bad, shameful and un-evolved.
This is simply not the case, because contrast is part of everyone's life.
If you are denying these parts of life,
then you're denying part of yourself.
Does that feel resistant to you in any way?
We only seem like "Pollyanna's" when we are
ignoring,
glossing over
and avoiding negative emotion.
We only seem like "Pollyanna's" when we have gone into denial
and are currently rejecting and resisting the negative.
Negative emotion is part of your guidance system
That means negative emotions are valid.
Negative emotion is part of life for every person and every being in existence.
When we say otherwise, we are ostracising each other.
We are condemning them to being alone with their pain
and in shame about their pain, as if pain is not bad enough!
If we really had a comprehension of the way this universe works,
we would be encouraging people when they felt strong negative emotion
to embrace and explore those negative emotions,
before encouraging them to focus positively
on something that makes them feel better.
Many people would say that it's a bad idea to focus on negative emotion
because you create your own reality.
And so, if you focus on something which causes you to feel bad,
you're reinforcing those bad things in your reality.
But I'm here to tell you that if you're experiencing strong negative emotion,
you are already focusing on those things.
So, all you are trying to do is to not do what you are currently doing;
you're resisting the resistance.
It's a contradiction. It doesn't work vibrationally.
It's like getting caught or snagged with a fishhook
on the bottom of the stream that you're paddling down:
You have to turn around, unhook the fishhook first,
and then go on your merry way.
And sometimes it takes longer to get un-snagged than other times.
You can feel when you are resisting your negative emotions;
it feels like a desperacy to feel different.
If you feel desperate to feel different,
that means you're resisting your negative emotions.
That means what you must do is turn in the opposite direction,
towards those negative emotions and let yourself sink into them.
Explore those negative emotions.
Drop yourself into the feeling of those emotions.
Explore them.
Ask questions about them.
Learn anything you can about them.
Basically, quit resisting the feeling of them.
They have something very valuable to tell you.
If you let yourself drop into the negative emotions you feel,
you will always learn something from those emotions
that is very valuable to the improvement of your life, to the progression forward.
You deprive yourself of that lesson,
as long as you are running away from those emotions.
Without negative emotions, you would never know what love was,
you would never know what peace was,
you would never know any of those positive emotional feeling states
which we all chase and all love so much.
It would be impossible,
because you can only know those things through contrast.
You can never have the answers, unless you're asking the question.
Negative emotions are like the question. Positive emotions are like the answer.
So you can not condemn the question,
without condemning the answer at the same time.
Your expansion and the answers come as a result of you asking questions.
So let's all be honest with ourselves:
Does being in a positive emotional state cause you to ask questions
or does being in a negative emotional space cause you to ask questions?
The negative emotions which we're experiencing are not completely negative.
And when we're running away from those emotions,
we are running away from ourselves.
So I think that it's time that we do the opposite,
that we learn how to positively embrace our negative emotions
as a part of our living breathing experience.
Have a good week.
Transcribed and synced by Eirini
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