Hey, what's going on, Tripp Kramer here from TrippAdvice.com. On this video, I'm going to
give you 4 crucial confidence hacks that are going to make you more attractive to women. I go deeper
into this in a little video I call Instantly Confident that is going to give you some exercises
to be more confident. It's completely free, you can check that out down in the description below.
You can get that video and I'll send it right to your email. First tip is this - There is something
so underrated about just putting on clothes that look good and working on grooming that looks good.
I don't think guys pay attention enough to this. What I mean is, you should be getting
a new wardrobe, doing proper grooming and making yourself look good. I want you to look in the
mirror and say, damn, he looks good. Because you are going to get that superficial confidence.
I don't mean superficial in the terms of bad. I just mean it's superficial. It's the thing that is
outwardly that you're going to be looking at that are going to make you more confident. There's
something about when you walk into a room, when you walk into a bar, when you walk into a party,
and you think that you look good. You're going to put off that confidence. And that is so key. Next,
I know this is something you've heard before. And there's a lot of controversy around this. It's the
idea of fake until you make it. And I'll admit, I have gone back and forth in terms of, you know,
understanding, okay, well, if we fake it till we make it, then it's not real, and you're being fake
and all this stuff. But honestly, when I look back at my past, when I said what really got me to that
point where I was truly confident, there was a lot of faking it. And I think the actual faking it
becomes this self fulfilling prophecy to actually turn you into someone who is confident. What does
that even mean, "fake it until you make it"? It means literally faking confidence and acting like
you're this confident person without actually feeling it in the inside. That means that you
might be going to a bar and you want to approach a woman and you're freaked out and you're super
scared, but you go over there and you do it anyways despite how unconfident or scared that
you feel. And that is faking it till you make it - going over there and showing her that you could
be this confident guy trying your best talking to her. Maybe you make some mistakes, maybe you
screw up. But maybe you don't and she is going to automatically think that you are confident. On a
date, you're pretty much default confident until you do something that you show her that you're
not. It's weird, it's like what's black without white, what's white without black - you only see
something until something gets removed. With being confident, you're at default confidence,
because if you do something that shows that you're nervous, that's when she's gonna go,
oh, this guy's not that confident. If you're able to go and talk to a woman and converse in
a way that's showing her that you're not nervous, you just feel comfortable doing it, it's going to
show that confidence even though in your head, in your body, you're maybe not feeling it that much.
We work on this process quite extensively with the guys who join our coaching program. To get
more details on that check out Tripp Advice Coaching.com. I'll put a link down below,
we have other exercises that we give guys and we hold them accountable to do to build confidence
and go out and talk to women and feel better about themselves. I'll give you another one right now,
which brings us to our third hack. One thing that I tell guys to do, and this is gonna sound
a little bit cheesy, it's gonna sound a little funny, but it actually works really well. If
you feel like you're not a confident person, you don't feel like you have self esteem,
what you need to do is you need to be talking to yourself in a way that shows that you are someone
who is a prize, someone who is worthy. But we can't just think our way to that, we got to really
come up with actual examples of who we are. A great way to do that is by getting a piece of
paper or getting your phone and writing on that thing 50 (and I'm gonna be very specific when I
say 50) 50 different things that you like about yourself. The reason why I say 50 is because,
first of all, that's a lot of things, but I guarantee you can get to that point. A lot of guys
don't do this exercise hard enough and you think of a few things and then you just kind of give up.
But I want you to be creative with it. It doesn't have to be extraordinary things like you're an
amazing skilled pool player or you are the best in your class or whatever. It can be the smallest
thing in the world. It can be like the way this pair of shoes looks on me. It can be, you know,
the other day I said something nice to my mom so I'm a good son. It can be, you know what,
I show up to work on time every day. And another one can be hey, I do pretty good at my job. Just
get creative with it. What are all the little things that you do that you think are good, that
you think are awesome? So anywhere from really small to really big, then you come up with 50.
I bet you in that exercise alone, you're going to think, hey, I'm actually a pretty cool guy. There
are things about me that I realized are better than I realized that there were. And it's a great
way to come back to that list. When you're having a moment where you go, I suck, I'm the worst,
you come back to that list and you go, you know what, I guess there is something there. And yes,
by the way, I have done this myself. And I've done it, where I did it for 100 reasons. I even
went to the next step and it was really hard just to come up with anything that I could,
even if it was really small. Try that. Next, this is big, glad you're still here because you need to
be focusing on process versus outcome. What do I mean? If you're focusing too much on the outcome,
it's very easy to become unconfident, it's very easy to look bad on yourself. If we focus too much
on the outcome, you're gonna just be seeing a lot of failures. Because there's a lot of failures in
everyone's life, we'll say "failures" in the sense where maybe you're not getting to where you want
to be. But if you focus on the process, it's a different mindset. For example, let's say that you
wanted to go out and you wanted to talk to a few girls, maybe get a few numbers. Well, if you focus
on outcome and you say, hey, I'm going to get five numbers tonight. Well, you can end up failing at
that, and then you're going to feel pretty down on yourself. What's better? Well, I'm gonna go and
approach 10 girls tonight. That's something that you can do, you have control over that. And that
can actually build confidence and self esteem. I always say that one of the best ways of building
self esteem is keeping the promises that you make to yourself. And that's the same thing as focusing
on process. If you focus on process and you say, hey, I'm gonna go to the gym 5 times this week,
you can accomplish that. You can do that, you can make it happen, you have control over that.
If you say, by the end of the week I'm going to benchpress 200 pounds, well, I don't know,
you might not. That's a nice goal to have to work for that. But you need to be focusing more
on process in order to get there. And those little steps build your confidence. If you struggle with
this, if you need help with this and you want someone to guide you to coach you through this
process so you become so confident that no one can make you feel any less than an awesome person,
I want you to go to Tripp Advice Coaching.com where we can help you. You get your own one on one
dedicated coach to guide you through being a more confident guy in life and with women so that you
can have the dating life that you want. Hope those hacks helped, and I'll see you in the comments.