Hello underachievers!
So very quick, very fun, very exciting announcement!
I am releasing a new song next Wednesday,
the 17th of March called 'Stupid'.
I'm very excited I will finally have more than 3 songs released over in, so many!
And I only have release 3!
You guys better stream the [ ] out of it,
you guys better make Tik Toks with the song.
There's actually a crazy amount of people that made Tik Toks with 'Life's a bit'.
I watch them every week, so if you make one with 'Stupid',
I will literally be watching it. I will watch it.
You guys better add it to all your playlists.
You guys better add it to your mother's playlist.
It's actually available to pre-save right now.
Right now!
Click the first link in my description.
Pause the video right now and do it!
Once you've pre-saved it, it will go straight into your playlist
and when the song comes out, you can listen to it straight away.
You're also in for an absolute treat with the music video,
this one is our most ambitious yet.
You got that to look forward to!
That'll also be coming out on Wednesday.
Here's a little sneak peek of the song:
♪ I'm stupid ♪
So I've been super busy these...
So I've been super busy these past few weeks.
If you couldn't tell already, I have changed location!
I've actually moved house, which is very exciting.
It's been really cool.
It's been really exciting and I love the new house,
but it has been extremely overwhelming
and very stressful,
so I've not been able to do much other than just move.
That's actually a big fat lie.
I've actually been doing so much whilst also moving,
which is why it was so overwhelming.
I can't... I don't know why I said that.
So obviously because of the move,
I have not spent much time on social media,
but the time that I have spent on social media
has been ruined by this whole "super straight" bullshit.
If you haven't seen it already, there's an entirely new "movement"
by straight people,
if they hadn't already done enough.
They had to do it to us.
So it all started with this Tik Tok.
"You guys, I made a new sexuality now, actually.
It's called 'super straight', OK?
Since straight people or straight men as myself,
I get called transphobic because I wouldn't date a trans woman, you know?
They're like: 'Would you date a trans woman?'
I'm like: 'No'. They: 'Why, that's a female'.
Me: 'No, like that's not a real woman to me, like I want real woman'.
They: 'No, you're just transphobic'.
So now I'm super straight!
I only date the opposite gender women that are born woman.
So you can't say I'm transphobic now,
because that's just my sexuality, you know?"
One thing that I would like to add to this is that
I probably think people are calling him "transphobic",
because he just outright said that trans women aren't real women to him.
Feel like there's maybe just a bit more going on there than him not wanting to date trans women.
I personally don't think that identifying as "super straight"
will make it impossible for you to be transphobic.
Just a thought.
So obviously this Tik Tok started a war on the Internet,
as it does, whenever anything about trans people comes out.
So "super straight" is a sexuality where a cis person will only date cis people.
So, for example, a cis straight man would not date a trans woman,
because she was not biologically female at birth.
I've also heard rumors that there's this whole thing called a "super gay"
and "super lesbian", which sounds really, really cool.
Sounds it! Not quite as cool as it sounds.
"Super gay" men would only date cis men.
"Super lesbian" women would only date lesbian women
that were born female.
So I'm a bit conflicted as to whether or not the people that are identifying as "super straight"
are doing it as a bit of a piss take, or if they're actually being serious.
I think a lot of people are joking, like there's been a bunch of memes going around,
which I'm like: "Ah, you're joking... Yes".
But I definitely feel like there's a lot of "super straight" straight individuals
that think they're doing something
as straight people think they do.
And to be honest, even if it is a bit of a piss take,
it is just tiring, as a trans person,
to constantly be, you know, bombarded with trans discourse
for no reason, all the time.
And just trans-related jokes, like the apache helicopter jokes,
the pronouns jokes,
the "did you just assume my gender?" jokes,
are they're not a bit boring by now?
Like have we not progressed past making trans people the butt of the joke?
So if you don't want to date a trans person, that's fine.
Just don't do it.
Literally nobody IS forcing you to do that,
and, if by chance, somebody is forcing you to do that,
then they're an asshole!
And obviously, not representative of the entire trans community.
But Jesus Christ!
Some of these straight people are acting as if they're oppressed
for not wanting to date trans people.
So I'm trans and here is my hot take:
I do not think it's inherently transphobic to not want to date a trans person.
But I also completely understand people that do think it's transphobic.
I completely respect that viewpoint and I'm not here to like argue against that.
It's just my personal opinion that there may be many reasons
why somebody wouldn't want to date a trans person
and the reasons are not always just: "I am transphobic".
I actually stupidly made a video last year where I talked about why
I didn't want to date a trans person.
Long story short,
I already have dysphoria and double dysphoria,
you know, the thought of like having that everywhere in like every aspect of my life,
would make me uncomfortable.
I also want biological kids and there's...
There's a whole bunch of reasons.
I made the video because a lot of people were asking
why I wouldn't want a date a trans person
and I thought it'd be like an interesting conversation to have.
Obviously, it probably just hurt more people than it actually helped,
or brought interest to, so I took it down.
So I'm not gonna do that again.
But, obviously, I don't think we should shame
anyone for not being into a certain set of genitals,
that's pretty, obviously, a bad thing to do,
because you can't really choose that.
But the thing is that not all trans people will have the genitals you assume they have,
and I really just don't think that a lot of trans people
are actually shaming anybody for not wanting to date them.
I have really never witnessed that.
The issue that I have around this conversation
is that a lot of cis people will be like:
"Oh, I don't want to date trans people",
"I'm not into trans people"
and "I'm not attracted to trans people",
which is fundamentally untrue.
Like tell me you're not attracted to these people.
You can't!
Obviously, I'm joking.
But, you know, this whole like:
"I'm not into trans people, I'm not attracted to them",
this statement assumes that you can instantly clock every trans person that you encounter.
That you could instantly differentiate between a trans person and a cis person on first look.
A lot of cis people are like really weirdly cocky, over the fact that they can do that,
but you can't.
And sure there are some trans people that don't pass, and that's completely fine.
Some trans people don't want to pass, but, you know?
A lot of trans people do actually look like the gender they identify as.
Fun fact: I haven't been misgendered since I started testosterone!
And it's super weird that people think they can control who they're attracted to
when it comes, you know, whether or not someone's cis or trans.
Like if you're a straight guy, you can't control the fact that you're attracted to women,
but as soon as it's a trans woman...
Oh! You can instantly tell!
I don't know, I just think being really vocal about the fact that
you don't want to date a trans person is a bit iffy to me.
Like, OK, don't date us.
Move on.
We don't care.
There are plenty of people that will.
I just really feel like a lot of people are choosing to get themselves into this discourse.
Like, you know, for example, calling yourself "super straight"
just to let people know that you don't want to date trans people.
And I'm not gonna lie, I have had a bunch of messages of like,
straight people, like straight girls, telling me like:
"Hey, I think you're really attractive, but I wouldn't date a trans person",
as if I asked.
Nobody asks!
Like we don't ask!
Now this whole "super straight" thing could just be bait.
I could just be falling for the bait.
I'm fine with that.
I'm sure a lot of people identifying as "super straight" are doing it as a joke,
but it's undeniable that there are some people out there
that think they're oppressed for not being into trans people.
And there are a lot of people out there that are taking this seriously.
That being said, I have seen a bunch of this [ ] all over my timeline.
Now this is funny as [ ]. I have to admit.
Obviously, this is like a parody of those LGBT posts where people are like:
"If you are trans, you are valid".
"If you are trans, you are loved".
Which like I'm sure a lot of trans people find comfort in.
To me, it just seems really pandery,
and it feels like a lot of people just doing that to get retweets.
I've never felt comforted by somebody telling me I'm valid.
I don't need somebody else to tell me that.
Like thank you so much for telling me that I'm valid as a human being.
I needed to hear that.
This whole "superphobic" thing really tickles me.
It's my new favorite thing.
I was gonna make a video on heterophobia, but this is definitely topped it.
So I've also seen stuff like this:
"Learn the difference and stop being a bigot".
Fact that somebody took time to make this.
It's hilarious, but again, it's like using the formula that LGBT people use,
and I'm not entirely sure if it's taking the piss out of trans people,
or if it's taking the piss out of super straight people,
or if it's being serious.
And I get how it's funny, but at this point, I'm just like super tired of seeing all this.
I get that it gives people a lot of laughs.
I'm sure a lot of trans people find it funny.
Not gonna lie! I usually find stuff like this funny,
but as soon as this came out, I was like:
"I'm tired... I'm so tired".
To be honest, I kind of just wish this kind of stuff wouldn't happen, you know?
It's super overwhelming to constantly be bombarded with like:
"Oh! Apparently trans people think this",
"Oh! This is what we think of trans people",
"Oh! trans people aren't real",
like I just... Like it's so tiring to everyday log on to social media and see that stuff.
Like I really do forget about being trans in my day-to-day life,
but on social media, every day, there will be posts about people [ ] on trans people,
and I'm tired of it.
There's constantly stuff in law where they're rolling back trans inclusive rights,
and it's just incredibly demoralizing, as a trans person,
to see that kind of stuff all the time.
Like I don't need support about being trans.
I'm literally fine when it comes to that.
But when I see posts like this,
and when I see so much negativity,
and like, so much negative attention going around about trans people,
it really just makes me think of like all the 15 year old trans kids that are in the closet
that are scared to come out.
Like, imagine if I was like a 15 year old trans kid scared to come out
and I saw this kind of stuff every single day.
I would never want to come out!
It also just makes me think about the trans people that have come out
and are living in really unsupportive situations like...
I like... If I was living with transphobic parents
and anytime something like this came out
and they asked me about it,
I would be so tired.
Like, the amount of friends that I've had that have been kicked out for being trans
is just ridiculous,
and I just don't think
this kind of thing is funny anymore.
Like, if you find joy in it, fine.
If it makes you happy, fine.
It's fun to joke about, I get it.
It's a funny joke, but just...
I've only been out since 2017 and I'm tired of it.
Like even with the hormone blocker ban for kids in the UK,
like I couldn't even talk about that online.
Like I could have made a video about it,
but it really just upset me so much that I didn't want to talk about it.
It just upsets me that there are kids in the UK that have just lost a lot of hope,
and yet we're still the butt of the joke.
I really just want to like, scoop up a bunch of you, guys
and just give you hugs and be like:
"It will be OK..."
Because it will be OK!
It just sucks for a while.
So yeah, there's a bunch of posts like that going around,
and I know some of it is a joke,
but a lot of it isn't a joke and it's not fun.
Here's the thing:
I know a lot of trans people can be super defensive about anything gender related,
and I know it hurts being called transphobic,
and I know it must suck being told that some of the stuff you said,
you know, is upsetting to trans people.
But I really just wish that the people that were violently annoyed about trans people
being like that...
Could you just spend a week in their shoes?
Because I would completely understand why a lot of trans people
are super defensive when it comes to stuff like this.
We are told that our existence is wrong.
We're told the way that we know we feel about ourselves is not real.
We are told that we aren't qualified to know what's right for us,
even though it's so obvious to us what we need.
I forgot to put that finger up.
When we finally decide to come out,
sometimes after years and years of internal conflict,
we're ridiculed.
We are constantly subject to this kind of conversation,
which I know a lot of trans people do not want to have.
For probably the majority of trans people,
our biggest fears will come true when we come out,
and people will just walk out of our lives because we are trans.
And I don't think this kind of conversation,
and I don't think these kind of jokes are funny
when it comes to people that, you know, are a bit more vulnerable when it comes to being trans.
It just makes me think about if I was out as trans in school,
the kind of conversations I'd be having with my classmates.
And it just sucks!
That's my personal opinion!
If you enjoy the memes,
if you find this whole thing funny,
I get you, because it IS funny to an extent,
but, you know, I just...
This specific one hit me, for whatever reason,
just made me a bit pissed off.
I know a lot of the "super straight" thing is a joke,
but there's a lot of people that don't think it's a joke,
and that affects trans people.
But yeah, let me know what you think about the whole "super straight" thing in the comments.
If you find it hilarious, fair enough!
If you kind of agree with me, then also fair enough!
I want to hear.
But yeah, make sure to pre-save 'Stupid'!
First link in the bio.
If you don't save it I'll be so upset,
I'll cry, and cry, and cry, and send you hate mail, maybe.
But yeah, that's the end of the video.
Have a good day, or don't.
See you later losers.
Goodbye.
Punch.