Let me ask you a question. What would
happen to you in your life if you stop trying
to control things as much, that you did
everything you could to succeed, to
achieve your goals, to take action but
you let go of the attachments of things
happening the way that you believe
are supposed to happen. Now, the
reason why I bring that up is I see a lot
of people in life that they're always
stressed out and stress comes when your
expectations aren't being met. When
you're always trying to control life and
believing that life has to be a certain
way and this has to happen or this
shouldn't happen. Then often times,
what happens is people, they're always
stressed out, they always have anxiety,
they're always living in fear, they're always
suffering on some level. Because life is
totally uncertain. Life is unknown.
You could do the best that you can that
create the life that you want to achieve
your goals and results. I can promise
you, there's going to be parts of life, of
things that are going to occur that aren't
going to work out the way you want them
to work out. I find so many people,
what happens is, things happen in life
and they resist things so much. They resist
emotions, they resist outcomes and
results that occur. Whenever you
resist, persist in your life. I was
actually having a conversation with a
coach and he said that, we're talking
about this. All emotions
only last 90 seconds. That's it. All
emotions last 90 seconds unless you
resist them. See, a lot of people ... If
you just let an emotion be, you don't
judge it, you don't try to control it, you
don't try to resist it and think I shouldn't
feel this way or whatever it is, it just
passes. Every emotion will pass, everything
that you're going to through right now will pass.
Every failure, or adversity, or hardship,
or challenge that you're going through or
problem will pass. If you just trust the
process of life and relinquish that
control of things always happen
to be a certain way. My belief
is, I love working hard and hustling.
There's a time in my life where it's just
hustle and it's just always trying to control
things in my life. As a result, I was
always stressed. Don't get me wrong. I
like the hustle mentality. I love people
like Gary Vaynerchuk and Grant Cardone.
The crush it mentality but that is a
very stressed way of living life. I
believe in the hustle but also trusting
that everything happens for a reason.
Trusting that I'm guided, trusting that
everything will work out because it
always does. It always does. Everything
always works out. Did you find that in your
life? I remember for me years ago, I
was so attached to at one point, just
meeting women. I was a
single guy and I wanted to get a
girlfriend. I was so attached to that
outcome become a reality. As a
result, I was always frustrated and
upset because I didn't have
that result. Things didn't work out
the way I wanted to. I'd go out and I try to
meet someone, it didn't work out. I get a
phone number, I called the girl and she
wouldn't call me back. I was always
stressed, I was always in pain, I was always
suffering. It wasn't until I just let
go of the outcome. I said, "You know what?
I'm going to go out. I'm going to meet people.
I'm going to
be myself. I'm going to grow to be the best I
can be. I'm going to add value and serve."
Then, whatever happens, happens.
Whatever happens, happens. Whatever turns
up in my life and I create, I manifest,
that's okay. If I'm meant to attract this
person and meant to be in my life, they
will. If not, that's okay, too. I
understand that for some of you, you're so
left brain analytical that you close
off to something being a little bit more
metaphysical. Something more open and
something more having faith, is really
what it is.
Because faith is a reason to believe when
there's no reason to believe. It's having
certainty in total uncertainty just
because you decide to. Having the
belief that things always happen the
way they're supposed to.
When I relinquish that control, you know
what happen? I started to attract
people in my life. I start to attract
women in my life and have a much
better experience of that because ... I
wasn't always stressed, I wasn't always
attached to the outcome and things
having to be a certain way.
Things wouldn't work out with this one girl
and I say, "Thank you, God. Thank you. What's
next? What's next?"
You know what? I was grateful for
that because that made an opening for
the right person to be in my life. I
remember years ago, many years actually
throughout my early 20s and beyond
that before that. I remember this one girl
broke my heart. There's been many that broke
my heart. I was really attached to
them and I thought they're amazing and I
was in love with them. At
the time when that happened, I was devastated.
I was like really hurt and sad and
depressed over that. Today, I'm like, "Thank
you. Thank you so much." Because I'm so
grateful that I'm not with that person.
I'm so grateful that
it wasn't the right fit for me.
Nothing wrong with them but just
aligned with who I am and everything. I'm
grateful for that but at the time, I
couldn't see beyond that because I was
very attached to things being with
that person and
having a certain expectation of that. I'm
grateful for that because if I was with
that person and things worked out the way
that I wanted them to,
I would be miserable. I'd be unhappy. I
will not be who I am today. Because it
didn't work out and I'm so thankful for the
universe or God or whatever you want to
call it that it didn't work out, it's
allowed me to attract the woman that I'm
meant to spend my life with today, and
for me to be who I am today. Because I
was just so short sighted, I wasn't able to
see that. I wasn't able to have altitude and
perspective. I remember times with my business
man, I remember years ago, I was learning
internet marketing and I was doing
some gray hat search engine
optimization at the time which involved
getting all these backlinks
to your site that were like low-quality
backlinks. I was like ranking and making
some money and getting some results
from that.
I was like getting excited for that. What happened was,
Google changed their algorithms and then,
boom. My website got wiped out. All my
traffic went away and I remember being
so stressed about that and so
upset and devastated. I tried all
these things to control the outcome. Today, I'm
so thankful for that.
I'm thankful for that because if that
didn't happen, I wouldn't have learned
the right way of doing things and I
wouldn't have gone through what I needed
to go through that led me into different
direction to having a life and who I am
today. I'm sure I can go
on and on but I'm sure you have moments
like that, too. Moments of your life that
were painful and challenging, devastating
for you adversity. That you look back
upon today and you're like, "Wow. I'm
actually happy that things didn't work
out the way that I wanted them to.
Because I'm on the other side now
and things are much better."
Why go through the suffering? Why go
through the pain of that? Why go through
the frustration, the stress that a lot of
people have to go through, instead of
just trusting life. Trusting that
everything happens the way it's supposed
to. Trusting that everything happens
for a reason and a purpose and that it serves
you. Maybe believing that you're guided.
Maybe believing that everything is a
gift and a blessing in disguise because
I believe that it really is. Everything
serves a purpose in your life. Again,
I know this is spiritual or deeper
for some of you. Maybe some of you haven't ...
some of you haven't you know your
Your consciousness is not open to this yet
and that's fine. Some of you are like, "Yeah, this is
awesome." For me, it's not until ... Because I was
there. I've been in that mentality,
don't get me wrong. I've been
there and I've now evolved. I feel in
in many different ways where I just trust,
"Hey, you know what? Things happen." I
remember actually just today,
what happened was, I was recording this
videos about an hour-long video and
it was a really good video. I was like, "Man, I'm
crushing this video right now. It's going
awesome." Then, I went to my computer,
I took the memory card to look at the
video. Half of the audio was missing
because the battery on my mic
died. In the past,
oh my God. In the past, I would have been like, "Oh,
my God. This is horrible."
I just spent an hour and it didn't work
out. I would just gotten so stressed and
upset. It would ruin my whole day.
You know what happened today? I was
like, "Yeah, that's all right. That's okay. It just wasn't
meant to be that way." I said, "You
know, that's fine. I'm just going to do it again."
It was an hour but that hour maybe it was a
blessing. Maybe the new video is going to be
better. Or maybe it's going to
help me and serve me in some way. Whereas it
meant to happen this way, so I
can learn to check my battery and make sure
my battery is there, so that this doesn't
happen again. I just looked at in a
positive way and I didn't fight it, I
didn't resist life, I didn't resist what
happened. I just said, "Ah, this is meant to
happen." Therefore, I didn't have
any stress. I didn't get upset. I didn't
freak out.
I just trusted that this is just part of life.
It's part of my journey, my process. I remember
a good friend of mine who's a public
speaker.
We're in Palm Springs one time and he
was going to speak at this event in
front of about a thousand people. I said, "Okay.
Do you know what you're going to say? Are
you ready? Have you rehearsed and
and memorized or stuff?" He said, "I got no
idea what I'm going to say." I said, "What?
What do you mean? How can you just go out there
to a thousand people. You had to speak for an hour or two.
You have no idea what you're going to say." He said, "You know
what? I'm going to go up there. I'm just going to trust.
I'm going to trust that whatever comes out
of me, is guided in me and was meant to
come out that way. Then, if it's a
great speech, awesome. It was meant to be great.
If it's a horrible speech, it was meant to be
horrible." He released the attachment
of it. Therefore, he didn't have any
stress or anxiety. He trusted that
things happen the way it's supposed to.
Now, of course, I'm not saying that you
shouldn't prepare. I'm not saying that you
shouldn't work hard. I'm not saying that
you should just sit there in your couch
and just believe that everything is going to
work out for you in your life. Of course, you have to
take action. You got to take the
necessary things in life and do what's
required. At the same time,
what I'm saying is, accepting the result.
Being okay with it. Not fighting as
much. Not resisting as much.
Trusting that everything is happening
for a higher purpose.
What would that do for you in your life?
How would that free you? What would that do for
your body, your health?
I don't know about you but for
me, I feel more free in my body. I feel
more relaxed, I feel more peaceful, I feel
happier for sure. I remember the book,
The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman. There's
a, maybe it wasn't in this book. He had a
followup one called, I think called The Way
of The Peaceful Warrior or something
like that.
Shared a story about someone that their
house got burnt down. They're
outside the house, the house is burning down. It
goes, "God, that's fine." It didn't have any attachment to him.
He's like, "You know, this materialistic stuff
doesn't define me.
I'm not attached to it. It's not who I am. It's not
like I got to take this house with
me into the afterlife and once
I pass on." He didn't have attachment
to that. I said, "You know what? This was meant to
happen. Everything will work out.
Everything will be fine. It always has,
always will." He just had a free
mentality about it. I just offer this
as a different perspective for you today.
Accept it if you like. Reject it if you
resist it. Whatever. If you're
open to it, great. If you're not, that's fine, too.
Not everyone is. Not everyone thinks
this way. I want to offer this to you
for those that are open to it and that
are wanting to maybe evolve to a higher
level than just things happening by
me but things happening through me.
There's actually a model for this. I won't
have time today to go into it but
as things happening to you, things
happening by you, things happening
through you or things happening as you.
By you is a lot of people, they
jump in the river of life and they're
trying to go upstream and they're trying
to swim. What happens is, you get
exhausted when you're hustling all the
time. It's like,
"Ha, ha, ha. Hustle, hustle, hustle." You know, hustling.
You tire yourself out, you burn out. That's the
hustle mentality a lot of people live in.
Whereas, things happening through you are
more ... You're hustling, you're making
progress, you're moving your feet but
you're not resisting as much in life, is
really what it is. I'll maybe go deeper
into that in another video. Hopefully you
guys enjoyed this. It can help you
just understand that life
is great, life is beautiful.
Everything happens for a reason and a
purpose.
Open your mind up to that, create new
beliefs that empower you and serve you.
Take on a different approach to life, a
more fulfillment. Because why are we stressed
all the time? Why worry all the time? Why
have anxiety all the time? What was the
things you worry about, you're stressed
about, you have anxiety about don't even come
to fruition anyway. If you ever had that,
it's like you're worrying about something.
The thing you're
worrying about, ended up being totally
fine. Then, why did you have to spend
those days and weeks worrying about
something and suffering over when it's
not even ... It's so silly to actually do
that. It doesn't really make any sense.
Just trust the process of life more.
Trust that there's a higher purpose.
Trust the universe or God, if
you may. Whatever your
belief is but relinquish some of that
control and trust. Stop trying to resist
as much. You'll be fine. I don't
care how tough things are right now for
you. You will make it through it. You will.
It's just a temporary road block.
It's just a temporary hurdle. When
you come out the other side of it, they'll
be better off for it. If you look at
it that way, if you choose to perceive things
that way. Then, it will.
All right, my friends. Thank you so much for
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