Hi it's Kati again, and thank you so much for tuning in
and I want to tell you I've been loving your comments and questions they have kept me
very busy creating more content
so keep the comments coming
what I'd like to talk to you about today
is something that could be nerve-wracking for everyone and that is
setting up that first appointment with the a therapist
now I know that going to a therapist gives a lot of people
thoughts like "Oh maybe I'm crazy"
people always use in a bad context like "Oh,
you're crazy you should see someone about that."
And things like that
but it's my firmly held belief that everyone not just me not just you, everyone
should see a therapist that doesn't mean we have to see them everyday or
twice a week but it's nice to get a check up
That would be like driving your car for thirty years without getting the oil changed or
never seen a dentist
ever just assuming everything's fine
that would be crazy right?
that's why seeing a therapist
should be part of that checkup
to make sure everything's in alignment but I know that searching for one
and making the appointment and just getting to the office is the hardest part
so my recommendation
is to first of all
find out from friends and family. Anybody seeing somebody that they're comfortable
with it's possible that you will be comfortable as well
but if that's not the case and you don't feel comfortable asking someone can also
call your insurance company see who's covered and that can save you cost
and maybe
you just ask a doctor that you already see
like your primary care physician they can have some great referrals for you
so then you get that number and that name and
you make that call
and the first appointment
can be a little awkward
it's it's almost like an odd date and they're asking you a lot of personal
information and you don't really know them at all
but just so you know
if you don't jive with them if it's not comfortable if you open the
door it's like this
cowboy guys saddles out and your in like a buttoned up in a cardigan
and you're thinking "ehh"
that's probably not the right guy for you
you want to be as comfortable as possible. This person should feel almost
like a long-lost friend
comfortable easy to talk to
they don't feel too abrasive yet
they'll push you and guide you in a nice way
now after that appointment is over
you've had your fifty minutes session
they've asked you questions and you've ask them questions
don't feel pressure to set that next appointment
this is really important
you don't
have to see them because you've seen them once I've heard from way to many
clients
Oh I just stayed with that therapist for three years 'cause
I mean how would I cancel?
you just cancel
that's what you do. I always tell clients when they come into my office after the
first session
I say to them
I would love to see you again
but don't feel like you have to make the next appointment
I'm open
but there should be no pressure
because there have been tons of studies done that prove
that the actual
reason therapy works
is because of the relationship
so if the relationship isn't there, there's no need to waste your or the therapists
time
so I would encourage you reach out ask around
find that therapist and make that first appointment
and we will continue on this journey as we work towards a healthy mind healthy body