- [Amanda] Welcome back Psych2Goers.
Thank you so much for all the love and support
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enabling us to make yet another trip
down everyday psychology lane.
So, let's begin.
Fake friends, odds are you've heard of them.
Worst case scenario, you've experienced them.
They lurk in the shadows
waiting to snatch up their next victim.
Why are they so fake?
What do they hope to gain?
Why do they always seem to slither their way into your life,
just so they can tear you apart with a smile?
And this is probably what you may have asked yourself
if you've experienced a fake friend,
because let's admit it,
we don't need any fake friends in our lives.
To help protect yourself from the pain and drama,
here are some signs to tell if you have a fake friend.
Number one, they adore gossip and drama.
People who love to gossip all the time
are not always the best of friends.
If all they do is wanna gossip with you
when you hang out with them, something might be going on.
The thing is, how are you to know if they gossip about you?
Gossip can be very negative and draining.
And if all they do is gossip, and it's all the time,
then that's negative behavior around you, all the time.
Gossiping can even be a form of relational aggression
which is a bullying-like behavior
that ends up bringing about nothing but trouble.
Number two, they speak badly about you behind your back.
Speaking of gossiping, remember how we mentioned
how you may never know if they gossip about you?
Well, turns out it's very likely
they may just be speaking badly about you behind your back.
Odds are, they're just using you
for a manipulative gossip seeking pleasure.
You can never know.
If you find out they indeed are talking about you
in a negative light to their friends,
it's best to just simply let that friend go.
Number three, you catch them in lies all the time.
Let's say that again together,
all the time.
I'm serious about this one.
Pathological liars run a bound in the fields
waiting for their next victim.
Real friends tell you the truth
because they're your friend and ultimately want to help you.
I mean, your best friend is likely to tell you
if the dish you cooked tastes kinda funny,
because it's simply honest feedback, right?
Even if they know the truth isn't nice,
they say it in such a way
that it doesn't seem so bad after all.
But your fake friends just want sympathy and attention,
and they'll do whatever they can
to gain that attention, even lie.
They can be totally weird and random lies
all the while convincing you
they wouldn't lie about these things
because they're your friend.
Yeah, right.
Number four, it's always about them,
and they're simply selfish.
When your so-called friend
is always looking out for just them
when you're both together,
that may be normal in some scenarios,
but not they're a good friend.
They shouldn't just run off without you,
they should always think of their friends too
if they're with them.
And if they're selfish all the time
that not only is negative, but it's just not nice.
So if you're with a friend,
and they're only thinking about themselves
without asking you, or thinking of your feelings, our needs
then you might want to think twice
about if they're a good friend.
Number five, they are extremely critical of you.
- [Girl] That dress makes you look so ugly.
I'm just being honest.
Did I say that?
(laughs) Just kidding.
Gosh, you're so sensitive, I didn't mean it.
- [Amanda] Can you imagine a friend like this?
Some friends will be extremely critical of their friends
because well, they aren't really your friend.
There's a fine line between being honest and being critical.
Honesty does not make you doubt yourself,
nor does it deliver a set down.
Critique however,
can leave you reeling with shame and insecurity.
They don't care if they hurt you
because they never really cared about you
in the first place.
Your friends shouldn't be your biggest critic,
they should be your biggest fan.
Number six, they're jealous.
Have you heard of frenemies?
Fake friends can be extremely jealous
of the person they're pretending to be friends with.
The thing is, they may deep down like you
but because of their jealousy,
they may just hate you even more.
These frenemies often feel jealous of the person
but have no dirt on them to be mad at,
you did nothing wrong to them,
you may even seem perfect in their eyes.
So they may gossip about you to create imperfections in you,
all because they're jealous of you.
And number seven, they aren't reliable,
then they aren't there when you need most.
Friends are there for you,
especially when you're having a hard time.
If your friend can't stop talking about themselves
and their problems, while not considering your own,
then that's a definite red flag.
You might even be listening to all of their problems,
but when it comes to yours, they gotta go.
They're putting all their negative energy on you
and taking all of your positive,
and they don't even bother to give back.
We hope we were able to give you a little insight
into some of the ways that you can recognize fake friends
and their manipulations.
Have you come across any?
Let us know in the comments below.
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