Karina, you need to eat.
Once you get done, you can get down and play.
JO: Dad, how much does Karina need
to eat before she can get down?
DIARMID: Four bites.
OK, so step up.
Come on.
Let me see you do this.
Four bites, and you're done.
Tell her to look at you, and talk to her assertively.
[child fussing]
If you want her to respect you as her father,
then you've got to stop this messing around here.
Listen, you need to sit in the chair the right way.
[child fussing]
If she doesn't eat those four pieces,
she's going straight up to bed.
Look here.
If you don't eat the four bites--
JO: Excuse me.
I don't hear no assertiveness.
I don't hear no authority.
Karina, you need to eat the four bites that I
cut on your plate for you.
If you don't eat them, you're going to need to go
upstairs and go to bed, OK?
[child fussing]
So walk away.
It's going to be her choice.
She's either gonna do it, or she's not.
[child fussing]
OK, mom, you're gonna back up, and you're gonna
say, what did dad tell you?
What did dad tell you?
What did daddy say?
As soon as you were assertive, what happened?
She went straight to mom because the wedge is that wide.
Oh, if I can't get it from you, I'm gonna go here.
And then guess what she does?
She waits for mom to come in and control
the situation, which undermines dad and his authority.
But where you don't step up enough,
mom feels she's got to step in, because you're
not being assertive enough.
[child fussing]
Yeah.
[child fussing]
If you don't step up and give these kids what they need,
mom gets annoyed because she's sitting
there watching you do that.
You've got to change up that tone.
DIARMID: Listen, you need to sit here and eat.
[child fussing]
If you choose not to, you're gonna go to bed.
[child fussing]
All right.
Night night, Karina.
See you in the morning. - Come on.
You made your decision.
Time for bed.
Come on.
I see more of my issues are do I need to address them and be
more assertive to my kids and let them know that when I say
something, that it needs to be done then and not leisurely
done, when they feel like it.
Good night, Karina.
I know you still want to play, but dinner's almost done, OK?
If we eat our food right away, then
we can come back and play, OK?
Katrina, I want two piles, one with clothes
and one with dolls.
Got it?
If you don't get the two piles done,
you're gonna sit in time out.
Is that understood?
Let's see how quickly you can do it.
She knows what to do.
But she doesn't follow instruction
because it's defiance.
She doesn't want to do it.
Karina's putting herself in time out.
That's why you can't give her a time out for that,
because it's not a time out.
MOM: It's like a break.
Because she'll use it as an excuse not to do what
she's supposed to do.
So get get her off the time out and actually get her now--
You will get your LOL doll back
when you do what I told you.
Otherwise you will lose this toy.
Your LOL will go to jail.
JO: It's just more a case of encouraging
her and her listening and knowing, this is your playroom.
Look after it and put stuff back, love.
Put everything in there.
OK, good.
Put it in the drawer.
Go ahead.
Come on, Karina.
There's clothes under your feet.
Get those boots.
Here we go.
You can put them all in one bin.
OK, good.
Thank you.
All right, you're doing good.
You're doing very good.
MOM: Good job.
JO: All right, keep going.
I want you to call me when it's done, OK?
Mom, she did really well, because Katrina's a handful.
It's going to be really important for mom
to have patience.
Let's have a look.
Give me five.
That's what I'm talking about!
OK!
This is what I want you to do, OK?
Play, but put away.
OK?
Say it with me.
Say play--
And put away.
--and put away.
Give me five, you smart girl.
All right, let's go and have some dinner.
Children need to learn how to tidy up, how to put things
away, because it actually teaches them to respect
their own space, their own bedrooms,
to have respect for themselves.
OK, so mom, she did a good job.
She got the job done.
Good job!
Hey!
Yeah.